Thomas P Seager – How to learn from life’s lessons and stop blaming others #007

Have you ever felt like you just don’t have what it takes to be healthy, vibrant and living a life of meaning? Like you missed the boat, and it’s just too late for you? Today’s guest is a powerful invitation and reminder that healing and sovereignty are always just one choice, one inflection point, away.

Thomas P. Seager, PhD is an Associate Professor in the School of Sustainable Engineering & the Built Environment at Arizona State University in Tempe AZ. His teaching and research is focused on a new approach to personal development called Self-Actual Engineering, which is about redesigning ourselves, our relationships, and our lives to realise more of our fullest potential. He is also the CEO of Morozko forge, an ice bath cold plunge I would LOVE to get my body into!

I honour his courage in sharing his vulnerability and authenticity with us and am grateful to have had this change to chat.

Enjoy!

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Timestamps:

04:40 How Thomas P Seager went from being obese for much of his life to a healthy mid 50's man with high testosterone

05:54 On the madness of diet for a small planet and the lies of modern nutrition

09:48 What it means to be a good husband

14:44 The turning point for Thomas and why his wife didn't believe him

17:36 The 10000 foot tow-rope

19:22: The fat daddy workout and letting go of pride

20:42 Accidentally attending a ballet class (and then going back for a year)

22:05 'The great food diet'

24:31 On the mistake of making ultimatums

27:02 His prostate health scare and how he healed it

29:48 The beginning of the Morozko Forge Ice Baths

30:48 Treating prostate issues with keto and ice baths at 52 years old

31:25 The unexpected high testosterone surprise and how he did it!

38:43 What is Self Actual Engineering?

40:56 The ideal psychological paradigm for creating factory workers...

45:56 What inspires us to give up belonging, comfort and pleasure?

48:08 Why full autonomy might not always be the thing you need

49:22 On realising that he's an asshole

51:31 On supporting people where they are in their journey

54:22 The only way to work at the top of the hierarchy of needs

55:34 What prevents us from being free

56:31 How unresolved trauma controls the present and what to do about it

58:05 How to heal trauma from a position of control

58:30 On having a do-over

59:59 Don't judge yourself for the traumas you carry from your childhood

01:01:02 Inherited ancestral trauma

01:03:48 The story you tell yourself is more important than what happened

Links to Thomas P Seager and his work:

• Thomas Seager’s Blog: https://seagertp.substack.com/
• Morozko Forge - The cold plunge ice bath https://www.morozkoforge.com/
• Thomas on IG https://www.instagram.com/seagertp/
• Morozko forge on IG https://www.instagram.com/morozkoforge/

Links to books and things mentioned in the episode:

• Diet for a small planet (bad book)
• No more mr nice guy - Robert A Glover (book)