Narcissistic Abuse, Food Noise & Metabolic Disorder

Narcissistic abuse causes us to act in so many different ways as a response to the trauma, this is our body creating a protector part of ourselves to try and make us feel safe. One of these protector parts can show up as over-explaining! Do you find it hard to simply say “no” to a request, without going into an essay into why you can’t do something? This is over-explaining, and I was the QUEEN of over-explaining.  What you will learn in this episode: How our body creates safeguards that hurt us in the long term Why over-explaining can often make the situation worse What you can do to feel comfortable in your response to people I found that the more I tried to explain, the worse I’d make the situation. It’s so common to dig ourselves into a hole the more that we try to explain away our behaviours, and unfortunately, it’s not our fault, it’s our body trying to safeguard ourselves from disappointing our friends and family. In this episode, I’m going to explain why we over-explain and how we can address the root cause of this issue so that we can finally be a reflection of our true selves and not worry about what other people think of us anymore.  Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson  My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

30 Jan 202415min

One of the hardest things for me after leaving my narcissistic husband was getting back into the dating scene. Not only do we feel a lack of self-worth after narcissistic abuse, but we are often so afraid to end up in a relationship with another narcissist. So, in this episode, I’m going to share with you 10 ways to spot a narcissist on a first date. What you will learn in this episode: The common behaviours of a narcissist. How to safely get back into the dating scene. What your body is telling you and learning to trust your gut. From being impatient and entitled, to love bombing, there are many behaviours that a narcissist will display that can help you see a red flag. Whilst a lot of the behaviours I’ll share are common on a first date, when they start to add up, that’s when you may be dealing with a narcissist. I don’t want to scare you into not dating, I just want you to be prepared when you do start. Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

23 Jan 202421min

Navigating the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist can be emotionally taxing. To address this, it's crucial to develop strategies for managing our own emotions in these situations, especially when they're the other parent of our children. In this episode, I’ll explore how to understand the root causes of our emotional responses and share techniques to handle them. What you will learn in this episode: The impact our nervous system has on our healing. How to manage our emotions and self-regulate. Why our emotions can get the better of us and what our body is trying to tell us. Managing our emotions is particularly important as our emotional well-being not only affects us but also our children and those around us. I’ll share a structured approach to co-parenting with a narcissist. Including strategies for transitions, such as when our children go to or come back from the other parent, and how to maintain our parenting roles effectively in this complex dynamic.  Podcast Resources: Managing Emotions Masterclass: carolinestrawson.com/managing-emotions-masterclass Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson  My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

16 Jan 202414min

One of the most asked questions I receive is how do you parent your children with a Narcissistic partner? Parenting alongside a narcissist is challenging, but my aim for this episode is to equip you with the knowledge to create a positive environment for your children. I’ll explore strategies to navigate and overcome the obstacles a narcissistic partner or ex-partner might present, helping you ensure the best upbringing for your kids. What you will learn in this episode: How to minimise the impact of the narcissist on your children. Methods to raise your children in the manner you want and reduce the influence of the narcissistic parent. What technology and apps you can use to make your parenting life easy. Unfortunately, narcissists will try using your own children against you to make you look like a bad parent. To reduce the narcissist's impact, I will share with you ideas such as Parallel Parenting and Extreme Modified Communication so that you can prioritize your mental health and your children's well-being. The hardest thing for me after splitting up with my narcissistic husband was trying to parent effectively, so I want to share with you what I learned to make your life as simple as possible.  Podcast Resources: Register for my FREE Virtual Rage Release Retreat: https://carolinestrawson.com/rage-retreat Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson  My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

9 Jan 202427min

Suppressing emotions is a one-way path to stress and deeper suffering. In today's episode, I'll explore effective strategies for expressing rage and other intense emotions. This way, we can prevent these feelings from simmering within us, leading to a healthier emotional state. What you will learn in this episode: How to healthily express our emotions. Why internalising emotions can lead to illness and disease. Methods to not be so critical of ourselves and how to find self-worth. After splitting up with my husband, I felt like I had no self-worth and I let so many of my negative emotions boil up inside of me. However, I eventually learned how to express these emotions in a healthy way, which allowed me to begin healing from the narcissistic abuse. My aim for this episode is for you to recognise what is happening inside of your body and how to externalise your emotions. Podcast Resources: Register for my FREE Virtual Rage Release Retreat: https://carolinestrawson.com/rage-retreat Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson  My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

2 Jan 202418min

Recently I had some conversations with members from my Facebook group who, after enduring narcissistic abuse, struggle with feelings of unattractiveness and unworthiness due to their single status. In this episode, I dispel the misconception that our value is tied to our romantic relationships. I hope this episode helps you to discover and embrace your intrinsic self-worth, independent of others' opinions or actions. What you will learn in this episode: How to take ownership of our own life and feelings. Understanding where self-worth comes from and not allowing others to control how we feel. What you can expect from this podcast next year. During Christmas, it's common to feel a deep sense of worthlessness and loneliness, especially after leaving a narcissistic relationship. Many of us, particularly in our middle years, fear that we're destined to remain single forever. I've been there too. But this belief is often just a self-defense mechanism to avoid falling for another narcissist. The truth is, we all have value, regardless of our relationship status. In this episode, I share my own journey to illustrate how you can recognize your own worth and, if you choose, find love again, no matter where you are in life. Podcast Resources: FREE Virtual Rage Release Retreat: https://carolinestrawson.com/rage-retreat Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low-cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson  My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

26 Des 202316min

When we’re in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, our behaviour tends to change, it’s a way that our body attempts to adapt to the situation to ensure that we can stay as safe as possible. Unfortunately, this shift in behaviour can often lead you to seek out medical help which all too commonly results in a diagnosis of Borderline or Bipolar Personality Disorder. In this episode, I’m going to discuss why so many people are being misdiagnosed and how healing from narcissistic abuse will also heal you from your changed behaviour.  What you will learn in this episode: How our behaviour changes in a narcissistic relationship The method medical professionals use to diagnose personality disorders Why so many abused individuals are misdiagnosed and how to heal from narcissistic abuse I’ll discuss the method that medical professionals use when diagnosing Borderline and Bipolar Personality Disorder and why it’s so easy to be misdiagnosed. As you’ll hear in the episode, so many of the traits of these personality disorders can be the result of being an abused individual, which leads to so many people having to live with a label and taking medication without figuring out what caused these behaviours in the first place.  Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson  My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

19 Des 202322min

Who is around you when you’re feeling hurt? Who is there to listen to you when you need to talk to someone? Unfortunately, it’s all too common to feel isolated when you’re suffering from narcissistic abuse or you’re trying to heal. I felt isolated for so long, and I want you to know that it does not have to be that way.  What you will learn in this episode: How to find a community that understands you. Why there are always people who will help you and how to find them. A way to discover the people in your life that will help you heal. I spent a lot of time during and after going through narcissistic abuse feeling alone, and it made it even worse when I went to friends and family to look for validation of my feelings and they didn’t truly believe or understand what I was feeling. Fortunately, I now understand that there is no reason at all to feel lonely because of what you’ve experienced, and I hope this episode can help you find the community you need. Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson  My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

12 Des 202313min