The Narcissist, The “Let Them” Theory, And Internal Family Systems

Has your narcissistic ex decided to ghost you? The experience can be gut-wrenching, as the sudden loss of communication triggers a physiological craving within your body.  Narcissistic abuse creates a trauma bond, where the mind and body become addicted to the abuser's presence.  Even when your rational mind knows it's unhealthy, your body may still yearn for the narcissist's attention.  This is fueled by the dopamine and cortisol surges that occur during the abuse cycle.  Resist the urge to question your worth. The narcissist's decision to ghost you is a tactic to maintain control and manipulate your emotions. Instead, focus on your own healing journey and address the nervous system and emotional aspects of the trauma. Surround yourself with a supportive community and commit to self-care.  In time, you'll be grateful to have escaped the narcissist's toxic grasp. Your value is not defined by their fleeting actions, but by the strength you have within. https://carolinestrawson.com/roadmap 0:00 Understanding Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse 1:09 Rebranding the Podcast and Therapy Integration 2:11 Ghosting and Trauma Bonds 4:31 The Physiological Impact of Narcissistic Abuse 8:26 Healing and Taking Control 10:43 Resources and Support for Survivors 12:11 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

25 Feb 13min

Watching a narcissist thrive in a new relationship can be gut-wrenching. The emotional turmoil of seeing the narcissist's apparent happiness, while you struggle to pick up the pieces is difficult. Resist the urge to question your worth. The narcissist's facade of bliss is fleeting - their true nature will resurface. Their ability to manipulate and present a false image is a tactic to maintain their supply of adoration.  Focus on your own healing journey. Surround yourself with a supportive community and commit to self-care. In time, you'll be grateful to have escaped the narcissist's toxic grasp. Your value is not defined by their temporary happiness. 0:00 Rebrand Announcement and Introduction 1:20 Personal Experience with a Covert Narcissist 3:10 Emotional Toll and Self-Doubt 4:16 Understanding the Narcissist's New Relationship 5:14 Long-Term Impact and Healing 7:32 Healing Journey and Community Support 9:05 Final Encouragement and Resources Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

18 Feb 11min

Have you ever felt the sting of a narcissist's manipulation? The way they twist reality, gaslighting their victims into questioning their own sanity. This insidious and dark form of abuse, known as narcissistic abuse, leaves no visible scars, yet the emotional and psychological wounds run deep.  In a society that is quick to judge, the narcissist's public persona often masks the dark reality behind closed doors. The fear of not being believed can silence you, trapping you further in the narcissist's web of control.  It's time to break the silence and approach these delicate situations with empathy and compassion. By having open dialogues and creating safe spaces, we can free ourselves from narcissistic abuse to reclaim our voices and lives.  Only then can you truly begin to understand the complex dynamics of this narcissistic abuse, heal yourself and support others in need.   0:00 Narcissistic Abuse and Coercive Control   1:31 Social Media Reactions and Judgment   4:06 Impact of Judgmental Comments on Abuse Victims   4:34 Challenges of Communicating Narcissistic Abuse   8:45 Importance of Sensitivity and Compassion   9:02 Encouraging Open Communication and Support   10:05 Final Thoughts and Encouragement    Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

11 Feb 12min

Have you ever taken a moment to reflect on how you treat yourself? It might feel uneasy, as we often treat ourselves worse than we would treat others. Imagine treating someone else the way you treat yourself – it would likely disturb you. But there's a way to improve this. In this episode, I'm discussing the topic of self-care. I admit I neglected self-care after my divorce, but now I've made it a vital part of my life. Because without self-care, true healing becomes difficult. What you will learn in this episode: What self care looks like and what you can do to make time for yourself. How to find time for yourself even if you’re a mother with children or have a hectic work schedule. A holistic approach to healing to ensure we’re physically, emotionally and psychologically healthy. I'll talk about my own self-care routine and share tips for incorporating it into your schedule. Whether it's just 5 minutes of solitude or treating yourself occasionally, these small acts can greatly aid in recovering from your past. Let's agree to make a pact – a promise to each other – that we'll prioritize self-care and extend the same kindness to ourselves as we do to our loved ones. Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

4 Feb 16min

Are you an over-explainer? Do you find yourself constantly justifying your actions or decisions, even for the simplest of requests? This could be a lingering effect of narcissistic abuse.  If you have experienced this type of trauma you will often develop a habit of over-explaining as a defence mechanism. It's a way to protect yourself from the perceived judgment or disapproval of others. However, this behaviour can be exhausting and ultimately undermine your self-confidence.  Breaking free from the cycle of over-explanation requires acknowledging the root cause - the core emotional wounds that stem from narcissistic abuse. By recognising this pattern and consciously choosing to respond with clarity and self-assurance, you can reclaim your power and build healthier relationships. The journey may not be easy, but the rewards of self-acceptance and authentic communication are well worth the effort.   https://www.instagram.com/channel/AbanVOLVviNcqPps/?igsh=ajJyYzB3bDZtY2R1   Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

28 Jan 15min

Have you been cheated on? I have and I want to help you.  The devastating impact of narcissistic abuse hidden behind the veil of cheating is a calculated tactic used by narcissists to wear down their partner's self-worth, isolate them, and maintain control.  This form of emotional and psychological abuse often goes unrecognized, leaving victims feeling responsible for their partner's actions.  My personal experience with a cheating narcissist is a reminder that cheating is not just a "mistake" but can be a manifestation of a deeper pattern of manipulation and coercive control. By shedding light on this complex issue, I want to empower you to break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse and reclaim your sense of self-worth. 0:00 Introduction 2:50 The Impact of Cheating on Self-Worth   6:23 Personal Experiences with Cheating   11:24 Understanding Psychological and Emotional Abuse   14:15 The Role of Cheating in Manipulation   14:27 Encouraging Listeners to Seek Support     Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

21 Jan 15min

Have you been through the narcissistic abuse cycle? The insidious pattern of love bombing, devaluation, and hoovering can leave you feeling trapped, questioning your own sanity. Caught in the web of this toxic dynamic, the trauma bond becomes a physiological addiction. Your body craves the dopamine highs and cortisol rushes, even as your mind yearns for peace. But know this: the fault lies not with you, but with the manipulative tactics of the narcissist. Recognising the patterns of this cycle is the first step towards reclaiming your power. Through intentional self-care and somatic healing, you can break free from the narcissistic abuse and rediscover your true, authentic self. The journey may be arduous, but the rewards of liberation and self-love are worth the effort. Take that first brave step towards a life free from the narcissist's control.  0:00 Understanding Narcissistic Behavior   1:27 Caroline Strawson's Journey and Mission   2:29 Challenges of Leaving a Narcissistic Relationship   5:42 The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle: Love Bombing   8:49 The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle: Devaluation   11:14 The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle: Hoovering   13:19 Breaking the Trauma Bond   15:44 The Role of Somatic Healing in Trauma Recovery   17:10 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

14 Jan 17min

Ready to leave the narcissist's toxicity behind? It's time to take back control in 2025. This year, make the bold decision to leave the narcissist in the past. Reclaim your power and your peace of mind. No more walking on eggshells or anticipating their next outburst. Embrace a future free from the narcissist's manipulation and abuse. Healing is within your reach. By tuning into your body's signals and allowing yourself to fully feel and process your emotions, you can break the cycle. Discover the transformative power of somatic practices that calm the nervous system and restore your wellbeing. Don't wait another day. Take the first step towards a life unburdened by the narcissist's influence. You deserve to thrive, not just survive. This is your year to break free and create the fulfilling, authentic life you desire. Free Workshop - The 3 Stages Of Healing Trauma After Narcissistic Abuse https://www.carolinestrawson.com/three-stages-of-trauma 0:00 Navigating the Year Ahead with Narcissistic Abuse 2:01 Personal Update and Office Move 4:03 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on the Body 8:48 Navigating Emotions and Healing 11:30 Upcoming Masterclass and Support 13:56 Commitment to Healing in 2025 Podcast Resources: Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/ Find me on TikTok!: https://www.tiktok.com/@carolinestrawson My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

7 Jan 19min