All about BLOW JOBS with Lainie Speiser

Dr. Betty Martin joins the ladies to talk about BDSM consent and the conversation touches on so much more. Meet this fascinating person who has been a chiropractor for years and is now a sex and touch coach, certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, Somatic Sex Educator and author of the book: The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.The conversation includes:Issues of consent for sex workers and other touch professionalsWhy getting a “yes” isn’t enough, consent needs to be about mutual agreementHow to apply to Wheel of Consent to Distance Domination and phone sexHow the role of context and meaning makes all the difference with experiences.Dr. Betty brings up the 3 minute game popular in the BDSM world. That’s where 2 (or more) people take turns saying, “What do you want me to do to you for three minutes?” and “What do you want to do to me for 3 minutes?” Ms Erika asks how to use the Wheel of Consent with Distance Domination as an online Femdom Mistress.The ladies all talk about the value of working with a lot of clients as a sex worker. Experience and skill level really matters with all kinds of intimate experiences including distance domination and phone sex.Dr. Betty talks about her transition from chiropractor to sex coach to, now, self defined sex worker. Learn what a sacred intimate does. The ladies have a candid conversation about sex worker and who does sex work. Ms Erika tears up talking about her close relationship with a disabled man who thoroughly enjoys erotic humiliation at the hands of a Mean Mistress. Ms Olivia says she thinks of sex work as a calling and a passion.The ladies cover a lot of topics, have a bunch of laughs and, hopefully, inspire you to think about the role of sex workers in your own lives.

26 Jun 202338min

Think of BDSM as a 3 act play: BDSM negotiations, the kinky scene, and then, aftercare for the submissive and the Dominant.Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika talk about the importance of aftercare in BDSM in general and, specifically for people who call Femdom phone sex for Distance Domination.Ms Erika gives a general description of BDSM aftercare: taking time after the play or scene to recover, get centered and tend to the physical and emotional needs of the Domme and the sub.First, they get sidetracked talking about men who like to hang up before or right after they cum. Ms Olivia points out that behavior like this is why many people go to a sex worker - to behave in ways that aren’t socially acceptable in a personal relationship.Getting back on topic the ladies talk about:The vulnerability of being a submissiveHow to communicate with your Femdom MistressSub drop Domme drop And, after care tips that include taking care of physical and emotional needs. These Femdoms give specific suggestions and how to apply this to Distance Domination sessions.

19 Jun 202334min

It’s summer and the ladies are inspired by pretty bare feet to talk about all of us with a foot fetish.Ms Erika leads off with a quick explanation of the difference between a kink and a fetish.The ladies answer listener questions:Do women think a foot fetish is weird?Do ladies like guys who are really into feet?Just how popular IS sexual attraction to feet? The numbers might surprise you.Did you know there are a lot of really fun terms for foot play and the love of feet? Ever heard of the terms shrimping, turkey foot, piano man or sole mate? Mistress Olivia suggests they design a fetish play party with foot love as the theme. What “stations” will there be? The ladies both want emphasis on toot pampering and things like massage and pedicures.Both Mistresses thoroughly enjoy foot worship - kissing, licking and sucking our sensual feet.This leads to a conversation about the role of a mean Mistress and humiliation of a foot slave including things like coerced bi or coerced cock sucking.A Femdom or strict Mistress can include trampling and CBT using feet, stiletto heels and boots.As always, there’s the science behind the sex. Brain chemistry gives some clues about why feet are arousing and why smells can be so powerful and powerfully stimulating.

12 Jun 202330min

PRIDE Month is a time for celebration, education and connection.Ms Harper joins the ladies to talk about PRIDE, BDSM, kink and connections with callers.First, how each lady identifies:Ms Olivia: Bisexual/pansexual and she/her pronounsMs Erika: Heterosexual with bicurious rising.Ms Harper: Bi or Pan, Aromantic, and Genderqueer with pronouns she/they.First up, the history of PRIDE and politics of LGBTQ+ activism.Ms Harper points out that gay rights pushes society forward. This comment leads the ladies to talk about Queer influence on music, fashion, art and more.This episode covers:Cis and transUse of pronouns Efforts to decouple the idea of gender and what society says gender is supposed to beThe LGBTQ+ acronym and other ways to identifyThe difference between gender identity, sexual attraction and emotional partnerships.PRIDE and kinkBDSM and use of humiliation in kink sessions

5 Jun 202329min

Mistress Olivia gets an email from a woman who is exploring kink with her husband. Ms Erika’s confession that she nibbled on a gummy before recording takes the ladies off on a tangent and oh what a tangent it is:Why Ms Erika says a cock can cure allAntics with Ms Olivia’s custom BDSM fetish furniture Sex with the guy that built the Queening ChairAll joking aside, a listener question inspired this episode. This woman is getting into kink and realizing she is a Femdom! As she is exploring her power as the Domme in her relationship, she has specific questions that the Femdom hosts answer:Why it’s so exciting for the woman to be the Dominant one.How a shrinking fantasy is great for phone sex and Distance Domination.Ideas for her to try as she creates sexual roleplays in her own life.How to negotiate BDSM limits and get consent.Ways to create surprises in the scene.How to use pacing and layering to create the sensations the Domme wants the submissive to have.The ladies create a role play scene using foot worship, body worship, sensual humiliation, and more.

29 Mai 202332min

Hosts Ms Olivia and Ms Erika respond to emails that ask some version of: “How do I get my wife to be my sissy Mistress?” This is a common question. Some of the discussion is about sissy specific issues and some advice will apply to anyone who is a submissive trying to change a partner who isn’t already into kink, fetish or gender play.The first question to consider is: “Does your wife or girlfriend WANT to be your Mistress?” If you think she might be open to being your Domme, then this episode is all about how to talk about your sissy desires with her.What is a FLR or female led relationship? How does feminization and/or sissification work in a female led relationship?What happens in the rest of the relationship if he is her sissy cuckold and she is the Domme wife?What is monogamy in a kink relationship?How will a sissy perform in a cuckold relationship?Will a cuckold sissy husband be expected to suck cock and sexually satisfy men?Will erotic humiliation be part of your feminization or sissy play?What to do if your partner is also submissive but may be willing to learn to be your Dominant.Why BDSM negotiations are different with a Pro Domme versus non sex worker partner.What is topping from the bottom and why is this a bad thing?How to communicate your needs when you are a submissive.How do you both go back to your “regular” life when sissy play time is over?

22 Mai 202325min

In this episode, Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika talk with Goddess Fiona. Ms Fiona mentions that she’s an introvert which leads to a conversation about shy guys and phone sex. Hear about the Mistress of the Day events- where each lady had a day where any previous caller could get 10 free minutes with the Mistress of the Day. This is free phone sex (duh!) and a way to say thank you to our loyal caller friends and for them to meet various ladies. Ms Erika and Ms Fiona describe very busy days. They also get into some behind the scenes conversations about short calls versus long calls, the creativity of back to back new callers and more.A listener named wellspanked asks about Mistress preferences for communication before a session. The ladies talk about being a Femdom, BDSM negotiations and miscellaneous things they want callers to know.Ms Olivia brings up a misconception she had when she first started doing phone sex as sex work. This leads to a conversation about why our relationships are often so much more than “just sex.”Ms Erika brings up feminization and what we all love about our friends who are crossdressers, sissies or transwomen. The girl talk is part of feminization and Ms Fiona talks about being a personal shopper to a favorite sissy.Ms Olivia takes us off on a tangent about pussy - different kind of pussy - she and Ms Fiona get to laughing about rowdy cats (of the feline variety).Lots of laugher, sexy talk and serious insights in this episode as we enjoy one another.

15 Mai 202329min

Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika get into Masturbation May celebrations with tips for the ladies - anyone who identifies as a crossdresser, sissy or transwoman. This episode includes:Sissy masturbation tips including muffing, sex toys, DIY sex toys and remote controlled sex toysSissygasm stories Sissy chastitySissy milking aka prostate milking and/or prostate massageErotic humiliation ideas including ruined orgasmsSissy training and how to be a submissive sissyThis episode is all about feminization by a Dominant woman or Femdom.Do you need sissy training? We have a Sissy Quiz and In-depth Probe package available in the phone sex assignments store that is a fun way to begin the relationship with either (or both) of us as your Mistress.Ms Erika also brings up the 30 day sissy challenge calendar and the 30 day feminization calendar. Both have feminization and sissy training tasks and so much more.A listener comment inspires a tangent on sex work. Yes, it is legit work and we make a living doing this. We also enjoy our paid Distance Domination sessions. The two are not mutually exclusive.Ms Erika wants the girly gurls to pay attention to lots of things before masturbating - setting the scene, sissy affirmations and these sorts of things.Both ladies talk about how to and why it’s important for any sissy to explore her body to find out what feels good when en femme.

8 Mai 202331min