
How to become comfortable with sex and sexuality
"Generally, people feel at peace after a first session because they realise it’s possible to get out of this." The words of Yves Wauthier, psychotherapist, trainer, author, supervisor of therapists, and a sexologist specialising in brief therapy, complex trauma and attachment disorders. Yves shares practical tips for men and women to overcome sexual dysfunction and how to become comfortable with sex and your sexuality. He talks about other energy therapy techniques aside from EFT that are simple and very powerful. He says "I realised a client can achieve real deep change more easily than with other classical therapy." He says: With energy psychology you don’t have to go so deep into the sensations, the emotion. You need to be connected, but it’s not so hard. Energy psychology for me was the best solution. It changed my life. He further shares a breathing exercise to quickly decrease anxiety as well as a simple trick to quiet your thoughts. Yves' show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/yves) My homepage: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
20 Aug 20151h 6min

How to stop worrying and take control of your mind
Whatever your situation is, there’s someone that’s gotten over that. For certain. The words of Phil Parker, Master Trainer of NLP, Expert in the psychology of health, happiness & genius, Hay House Author, PhD Researcher and Designer of the Lightning Process. He shares two simple and effective techniques you can use immediately to let go of worrying and release stress. He says: Anxiety relies on triggering sympathetic nervous system consistently, which is the part of your nervous system that is all about fighting beasts. It triggers adrenaline, it triggers cortisol, noradrenaline and dopamine as well… but is is very linked to the speed at which we talk. Your breathing is linked to your internal voice speed. Slow your internal voice speed down and your breathing will slow down. Slow down your breathing and your nervous system will start to settle and get back to balance. QUOTE: If you start to use the pathway towards calm more and more then what will happen is the connection to the stress pathway will start to fade. The gap will increase between that pathway and the stress pathway. And, the gap between that pathway and the happiness and calm pathway will get smaller. And so more and more nerve pathways will start to develop into happiness calm and relaxation. Phil's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/phil) My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier ________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
12 Aug 201555min

Amazing: Why stopping porn could reduce your social anxiety
Your social anxiety can be the result of a porn addiction… In this fascinating interview Gary Wilson, author and researcher on Pornography and it’s addiction, shares the science behind how internet porn addiction could be the CAUSE of your social anxiety. He shares how hundreds of guys who stopped porn reported their social anxiety released. And how non-anxious people’s desire to socialise increased, their confidence increased, they became more social. And, how some with diagnosed social anxiety and medication saw improvement or full remission of their condition by stopping porn. This goes into the science behind it in an easily understood way. And he also shares: What to do to increase your will power and decrease your social anxiety within 8 weeks. Why socialising or small talk can become boring (and how this can be reversed Why you could be having trouble being disciplined What sexual dysfunctions out there (erectile disfunction, unable to ejaculate, bizarre fetishes, etc) are the result of porn and how these can be reversed QUOTE: Many studies have pointed to the dopamine system being important in socialising. Studies on social anxiety have found that maybe less dopamine is being produced or people with social anxiety have less dopamine receptors. There are also experiments on animals and even humans where they’ll purposely decrease dopamine and you’ll see a rise in anxiety and a rise in avoiding other animals or social contact. So it’s clear that the dopamine system is very important cause the dopamine system is the system that is motivating you to go out and seek rewards. The primary rewards for all social animals are of course food and water, but also sex and of course socialising. Maybe addiction-related brain changes are reversed when people give up porn and then they seek out normal rewards such as socialising. Gary's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/gary) My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
6 Aug 201545min

How to build strong self-respect
"I was less worried about what others thought of me and more oriented around what I thought was important." The words of Andy Bryce (EFT Master) after he started improving his self-respect after decades of low self esteem and little respect for himself. Andy shares what self-respect is, how to regain respect for yourself, how to build strong self-respect from the inside out, and how to build on top of that and create a forward momentum that makes your self-respect rock-solid. We also discuss the value of working through emotions, what to expect when undertaking the journey back to a healthy self-respect, and much more. QUOTE: No one can love you more than you love yourself. And no one can respect you more than you respect yourself. Andy's show notes page (social-anxiety-solutions.com/andy) Contact me for coaching: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
30 Jul 20151h 5min

How to quickly heal painful life experiences
"His panic attacks stopped. He didn’t have any anymore ever" The words of Rehana Webster, EFT Founding Master, counsellor, an NLP Master, and AAMET Trainer of Trainers. Her area of expertise is working with trauma, PTSD, depression, panic attacks, anger, grief and other negative emotions which cause people to remain stuck and unable to develop their highest potential in life. She’s the developer of the Trauma Buster Technique, a fast, efficient and simple tool that helps trauma victims recover and lead a more functional and satisfying life again. We talk about her technique, the results you can get with it, and she shares some amazing stories of transformation. She says: The only pain you experience (during the use of this technique) -which you experience daily anyway- is to think about what the trauma is. This is just to get a base-line. After this you immediately start the tapping to bring down the anxiety levels. We use what’s going on in the body and the mind to elicit the response from a trauma and then “tap” so that the levels of the stress hormone come down. It’s like pavlovian conditioning; it’s un-pairing the response with the traumatic experience. QUOTE: "You can expect to no longer be held back by fear, or by the worry of being judged or criticised so you can actually move on." Rehana's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/rehana) My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
23 Jul 20151h

How to be more social and make friends easily
Teun is "effortlessly socially confident". And it's likely not what you think it is. Teun is a friend I met while living in Chiang Mai. He's someone who embodies "effortless social confidence" and I've personally learned a lot from him, just by spending time with him. In this interview I'm asking him questions to get into his mindset, to uncover his beliefs, to see why he's so comfortable with himself, and what he does (strategies, what to say, what to do, etc) to make friends easily and have a great time socially. Teun is someone who's traveled to a wide variety of countries, traveled from the Netherlands to India in a red disabled car (that only goes 45km per hour!), lived in various countries, and has an amazing social life with friends all over the world. In this interview Teun shares: How he meets new people The one simple questions he asks when meeting someone new that’s low key, no-pressure and easy The easiest way to makes friends naturally How he deals with disapproval How he starts creating a new social life from scratch What website to use to make friends easily QUOTE: People don’t judge you on on situation or one comment you make. If people do this, they’re not the kind of people you want in your life. Show notes page 12 shortcusts to social confidence and worldclass content on how to free yourself of social anxiety forever: http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/ Contact me directly: http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
16 Jul 20151h 6min

How to become emotionally strong and have healthy boundaries
"It is life-changing, the results are very very compelling" The words of Dr. David Lake, a medical practitioner, supervisor of therapists, and psychotherapist who has been in private practice since 1977. He shares his views on energy psychology, tapping, creating boundaries, and when face to face therapy is necessary and the benefits of it. He shares: I used to think that myself (that I would have to live with my fears for the rest of my life) as it was my evidence from the real world and it was also true in the psychological and medical profession in the usual sense. And it's been true for many many years. But, approximately 20 years ago things started to change; a whole new paradigm emerged. In this paradigm, the so-called energy psychology, it turns out that even though when you don’t know exactly how it works, you can actually help three kinds of serious human emotion to minimise and even disappear. One is most kinds of anxiety. Two is most kinds of fear. Three is most kinds of deep hurt, related especially to trauma. I don't mean right away, or in one go, or in 10 minutes, but over time the most astounding things can happen to those feelings that have been typically out of reach for other treatments. Other treatments, which I call outdated, typically are cognitive treatments working in the mind and most people think that's where the problem lies, but I no longer believe that. I think the problem is not in your mind, I think the problem is in your feelings which is somewhere coded or logged or anchored in your body. It is a brand-new day when you can actually reduce anxiety fear and hurt. Your body is processing these feelings away from where they are stored. And once they are gone they are gone When I found out I could release the fear I could actually not believe it. This is the reason I actually entered the profession (psychotherapy), to be able to get these kind of results, and for many years I never could, I was amazed. And now that you can get these kind of results I'm equally amazed the most of the profession doesn't want to know about it! Needless to say, this is an absolute killer interview that is must listen, and also a must-share. Get ready to have your perspective shifted forever! David's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
9 Jul 20151h 12min

How to reconnect with your true Self
“Well-intentioned parents who try to make us the way society would accept are really teaching us to go outside of ourselves for our sense of approval in a sense that “if someone else approves of me then I can approve of myself” which is totally backwards from how we are meant to be. As a human being each of us is born with self worth. I want people to understand they come into the world as worthy and sovereign beings standing on their own inner land.” The words of Rue Hass, one of the 29 EFT founding Masters, Intuitive Mentor, and Spiritual Life Path Coach. She continues: “Life can be a deep, rich, beautiful tapestry of experience if you’re willing to approach it in that way and deepen into it rather than focus on what’s wrong.” In this conversation we explore the highly sensitive person (Rue believes that many people labeled as “socially anxious” have a deeply spiritual quality that she calls “sensitive intelligence”) and speak about how to reframe the way we see ourselves so that we can reconnect with our true Self. QUOTE: Anytime something is a “should” for you it’s something to pay close attention to because “shoulds” usually come from what we expect what other people expect of us and it takes us away from ourselves. Rue's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
2 Jul 20151h 6min