How the Fawn Response Outsmarts Danger with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

How the Fawn Response Outsmarts Danger with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Whitney Goodman interviews Dr. Ingrid Clayton about her new book "Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back." They explore fawning as the fourth trauma response, how it differs from people-pleasing and codependency, why children and marginalized people develop this survival strategy, and how it can masquerade as success while leading to complete self-abandonment.

Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves-and How to Find Our Way Backhttps://www.ingridclayton.com/

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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00:00 Dr. Clayton's Discovery of Fawning Through Her Own Trauma

04:26 Why Fawning Isn't About Shame - It's About Survival

09:00 How to Recognize Fawning in Your Own Life

12:16 The Connection Between Fawning and Family Estrangement

19:49 Fawning vs. People-Pleasing vs. Codependency

22:13 When Fawning Looks Like Success

27:46 Growing Out of the Fawning Response

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