101. How to stop "shoulding" yourself

101. How to stop "shoulding" yourself

Today we are going to be talking about the word "should". Specifically, what it means if you are shoulding yourself, how it's affecting your dating life, and how to start choosing an easier path forward.

I should let it go.
I should have figured this out by now.
I shouldn't care so much.
I should just push a little harder.

"Should" thoughts such as these are so insidious. Tune in to hear how to start shedding the shoulds from your dating life for good.

Hot-takes From This Episode:

  • "Shoulding" is a sign that you need to play with self-compassion

  • What if should was not an option? What would that sound, look, and feel like?

  • Why should is a weapon against your own agency.

  • You deserve to be self-trust-filled and empowered.

  • The "should" standard is there to keep you oppressed.

  • "Should" is your teacher, it is not the enemy. It is here to teach you where to practice self-compassion and unhook from previous norms that kept you in a box.

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today's Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-stop-shoulding-yourself

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