317 | March 2020 Q & A with Brendan Mahan and Will Curb

Do you have an issue getting out of the house early that you are not late? This is just one of the topics we cover in our monthly Q & A session with guests Brendan Mahan and Will Curb. We are taking questions from you, the listener, about situations you want to talk through. It doesn't matter if it's personal or professional; we are here to give you our perspective and see if we can help you find some answers. Mary has the first question today about how to get out of the house early enough to be on time because she is always late, Karen needs some advice on how to get her fourteen-year-old daughter to speed things up, and Gail wants to know if she has ADHD or if her challenges could stem from being OCD. Listen as Eric, Brenan, and Will give their insight and advice to each of these listeners. Ella would like to know how to close loops and finish projects, Alison is always late and is looking for ways to leave the house without having to finish something and Blake asks about how he can figure out if he is getting close to burnout at his job. Listen to what the panel tells these listeners and see if there is something that you can learn from the answers they give. The monthly Q&A is for you the listeners; it's an easy way to get answers to questions you don't want to ask anyone else. Eric, Brendan, and Will usually have had experience or have heard any question you can ask, so you can be sure that they will always give you their perspective and insight. Your Resources: ADHD Essentials Podcast with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with William Curb You'll Learn: [01:20] Welcome to our monthly Q & A with Will Curb and Brendan Mahan. [02:07] Mary is asking what she can do to keep from being late to everything. [03:58] Will shares how he was able to get into the habit of being on time. [04:52] Eric speaks about the impulse to do just one more thing. [07:24] Do you pay attention to how long you take to get out of the house? [10:16] Eric believes you should make predictions and then track time. [11:09] Karen's question is about her daughter with ADHD, who is slow in all aspects of life and is asking for advice. [12:52] Brendan says to make things easier as much as possible, using music to set the pace. [14:29] They all believe that it's ok not to give your all in all things, sometimes it's ok to be good enough. [17:18] Redefine your best because it can change daily. [19:01] Gail asks how do I know if my challenges are ADHD or could I be OCD? [20:56] Executive functioning is any goal-oriented behavior that is sent out to the world with a feedback loop that comes back to ourselves. [23:09] Eric speaks about rewiring the brain by increasing anxiety and then alleviating it, and your mind will be happy that it has helped you out. [24:46] Brendan chats about one area that ADHD and OCD can hang out together. [27:11] How much is your OCD affecting other people? [27:50] Gail shares some specific things she wants advice about. [30:33] Eric believes that Gail should practice leaving her house the way she should so that her brain knows what that means. [33:27] Is it possible to layout your day and put the value you place on each item? [39:11] Ella has a question about closing loops and unfinished projects. [41:07] Eric shares his ideas to help Ella get things done. [43:47] Shrink the scope; you can organize a shelf by taking out just one object; you don't need to clear the whole rack. [45:44] They share the difference between a maximizer versus a satisfier. [48:03] Brendan says that you are allowed to have things in more than one place. [49:33] Alison shares that she is always late and would like to know what she should do. [53:35] Blake wants to know what he can do during his workday to find out the pace he is working at. [53:51] Will gives his insight into this question with examples. [55:18] What have you done to prevent burnout before it's too late? [58:12] Eric says to take your vacations, and figure out if there is a time of year you feel burned out. [59:16] Brendan speaks about planning a break when you want to take one, so he doesn't just go on Facebook. [1:03:02] Check out Brendan and Will's podcasts and coaching groups. [1:04:04] Thank you, everyone, for listening. [1:04:52] If you're a regular listener, consider becoming a patron and on our Patreon at www.ADHDreWired.com