Different Sex Drives and Compatibility in the Bedroom: Xander and Vanessa Marin Episode 167

Different Sex Drives and Compatibility in the Bedroom: Xander and Vanessa Marin Episode 167

No matter the stage of relationship you are in, it can seem like you and your partner have different sex drives. Often we think this means frequency, but in this episode we interview Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, and her husband Xander who collaborates with her on content, to discover just what sex drive and compatability means.

In this episode you will realize the different forms and types of intimacy, how to raise your satisfaction in your sex life, and most imprtantly how to bring up this conversation with your partner. No matter where your satisfaction is now or how compatibility you feel, you will be able to take the steps to having a more open and pleasurable sex life and drive together.

Questions Asked in this Interview:

  1. It would be easy to assume that "sex drive" is just the level of desire and freqency for sex. But what does it really mean?
  2. Do you see that most couple of the same or different sex drives?
  3. Is it biologically true that your sex drive diminishes with age (for women)? Or what are things that get in the way of sexual satisfaction?
  4. Do you think people should say "YES" to their partner's attempt to have sex (if they don't feel like it)?
  5. What should a partner say if they aren't enjoying (or are just bored with) certain things in the bedroom without hurting their partner?
  6. What are two new questions a couple can ask each other to take the next steps to a more understanding and satisfying sex life?

Connect More With the Vanessa:

Instagram: @Vanessamarintherapy

Learn more about her courses and sex drive guides: vmtherapy.com

Resources For Your Relationship:

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Email: connect@newpowercouples.com

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