How to Gently Remind Your Partner of Your Wants/Needs, Without Nagging or Attacking: Episode 206

How to Gently Remind Your Partner of Your Wants/Needs, Without Nagging or Attacking: Episode 206

The "forgetting curve" principle shows that your partner is likely to forget 50% within an hour, 70% within 24 hours, and 90% within a week. So if this is true, why on earth would we expect our partner to remember something we express ONE time: like a want/need?! Since human memory can't be relied on and your partner likely has a lot on their mind/plate, then we need to partner with them by effectively providing gentle, loving reminders.

But what about nagging?! Someone asked this on our Instagram post.

In this episode we distinguish between "nagging" your partner and healthy "assertiveness."

Assertiveness is empowering, and a skill we all can get better at in a relationship.


To better use this skill in your conflict repair: Watch the FREE WebClass on The 5 Step Process to Fully Repair After an Argument So You Reconnect in Minutes, Instead of Hours, Days or Weeks. Register and watch here.

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How to Stop Reacting to Each Other & Regulate Your Emotions Instead: Episode 430

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Debriefing a Moment that Could Have Escalated For Us, But Became a Healing Conversation: Episode 429

Debriefing a Moment that Could Have Escalated For Us, But Became a Healing Conversation: Episode 429

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13 Jan 38min

Falling in Love vs Staying in Love: The Science of Maintaining Your Romantic Connection Over Time: Episode 428

Falling in Love vs Staying in Love: The Science of Maintaining Your Romantic Connection Over Time: Episode 428

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23 Des 202531min

3 Places to be More Loving so Your Partner Feels More Loved: Episode 427

3 Places to be More Loving so Your Partner Feels More Loved: Episode 427

Most couples want to feel more loved, appreciated, and connected. But the way we go about it often backfires. We wait until we're running on empty to tell our partner what we need, and in that vulnera...

16 Des 202526min

Do This "End of Year Check-in" Now to Get Aligned and Connected Before 2026: Episode 426

Do This "End of Year Check-in" Now to Get Aligned and Connected Before 2026: Episode 426

Most couples glide into the new year on autopilot, sometimes with excitement and optimism, hoping things will feel different, more connected, less chaotic… yet they end up repeating the same patterns ...

9 Des 202540min

What is Emotional Intimacy, Really? and How to Create More of it: Episode 425

What is Emotional Intimacy, Really? and How to Create More of it: Episode 425

So many couples love each other deeply… yet still feel disconnected. They talk every day, but the conversations revolve around schedules, responsibilities, and what needs to get done next. In this epi...

2 Des 202539min

Focus on the 3 C's to Feel Loved By Each Other Through the Holiday Season: Episode 424

Focus on the 3 C's to Feel Loved By Each Other Through the Holiday Season: Episode 424

The holidays can bring out both the best and the worst in a marriage. Between packed schedules, family dynamics, and endless to-do lists, it's easy for connection to get lost in the chaos. But this se...

25 Nov 202515min

Discussing Holiday Expectations and Visiting In-Laws (To Prevent Chaos and Conflict): Episode 423

Discussing Holiday Expectations and Visiting In-Laws (To Prevent Chaos and Conflict): Episode 423

The holidays are supposed to feel relaxing and joyful. But for many couples, they're anything but. Between travel plans, family visits, and unspoken expectations, this season can quickly become chaoti...

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