We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

I’m back with Hala Taha in my series on the art of trying. This is part two, my “What Drives You” episode and I walk through the key areas of life and what drives Hala. Before even diving into specifics like spirituality, relationships, and health & wellness, we simply talk about Hala’s overall drive, as she shared in the previous episode how her initial drive was fueled by her father who immigrated to the US, and an expectation to become a doctor like the rest of her siblings. This is where she shared her commitment to consistently define her values so they would see her through in challenging times when you can’t think logically. This was significant to me and we dug in deeper to this. We then start off with spirituality and get on the topic of how we are all brainwashed in our upbringing and need to re-brainwash ourselves toward what we truly…value. Find Hala on your podcast app at Young and Profiting The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Aug 202358min

This kicks off a 4-part series where my primary muse is…the art of trying. In the personal development world we give a lot of pithy lipservice to trying, quitting and failure…I could add rejection as well. But as a culture, even amongst aspiring people like us, I feel we often fail to grasp a healthy and productive perspective on these concepts. My guest expert on the topic is Hala Taha. Hala is host of the Young and Profiting (YAP) Podcast, frequently ranked as a #1 Business and Entrepreneurship podcast across all apps. Hala is also the founder and CEO of YAP Media, a business podcast network with an award-winning social media and podcast marketing agency for top podcasters, celebrities and CEOs. I met Hala at a podcasting convention and discovered she has quite a story. Her pedigree of success runs parallel to an impressive rap sheet of failures. Things she’s tried that didn’t work out. Things she quit until she found what worked. Overall you see a committment to succeed that kept her persevering until she did just that. Found what worked. I invited her onto the show to help us find more willingness and comfort in trying things. And try. And try different methods until we find what works to achieve the overall goal of success…in whatever way success looks like to you. We also ended with a brief masterclass on branding you won’t want to miss. Find Hala on your podcast app at Young and Profiting, and I encourage you to whether you consider yourself young or not. She’s recently had Lewis Howes and Seth Godin on. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

9 Aug 20231h 13min

I really want life to be only what we make it. And deny any genetic limitations. And yet realize we do in fact have some genetic set points that can help, and hinder us. I’ve suffered by denying any genetic hindering. But our culture by far and large I see suffering by blaming too much on genetics. The big question is…how much of an impact do they have on your health? We are not here to discount the role of genetics, and yet the goal is to take as much agency as possible. The goal is to give you hope that you are not a victim to your genetics. So let’s discuss wow much of a role they play in your health and wellness and what can you do to compensate for and negate them? I’m of course joined by my Peak Wellness co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, who walks with patients every day as they pursue their best wellness amongst all varieties of genetic challenges. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Aug 20231h

This is my wrap up from what I’m working to learn from this series on focus and our expert, Dandapani, world renowned, leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. I was fortunate to have two, long conversations with Dandapani from his Siva Ashram in Costa Rica, with the second discussion being a deep dive into a controversial view on spirituality that was profound for me. I think we’ll have some follow up discussions that I’ll be eager to share with you. As I reviewed my notes from the series on focus, I found six key lessons bubble to the surface, and I’ll talk through the concepts with you now.  You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4 Aug 202320min

We continue this series on Focus, highlighting that it’s not about gritting your teeth, but in changing your paradigm on what focus is and how to harness the focus that you do have within you. Our expert is Dandapani, a world renowned, leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. Listen to my previous talk with him in part one, or just type “dandapani focus” in your search engine and you’ll see his TED talk with 6.7 million views. Today I bring in a long time devotee of Dandapani’s who has been studying his work and teaching on focus for many years. My brother, Jared Angaza. We kick off discussing Dandapani’s statement that “most people surrender their decision-making process to their environment. And it takes discipline to take ownership. This led into an organic discussion on discipline and how we as a culture misperceive what discipline really is. If you feel you are undisciplined, overall or in certain areas, I invite you to listen in, as the conversation brought some revelations to me. We continues on then, digging further into how to have more focus in our lives, and for disclosure, Jared and I both struggle with ADHD, so this is an acutely relevant topic to us. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Aug 20231h 28min

This is part 2 in my series on focus with Dandapani, a sought-after international speaker and leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. Search for him and find his TED talk that went viral. Normally this would be my “What Drives You” episode where I walk through the key areas of life and ask, what drives my guests. However, the first category is spirituality, and as Dandapani is a former monk and current Hindu priest, I pressed in on a controversial statement he had written in his book. This is the quote, “In taking charge of your life, you should not leave it up to the environment or, God forbid, the Universe, such as claiming, “The Universe is going to guide me.” I can assure you Jupiter, Pluto and Uranus are not sitting around figuring out how to solve the complexities of your life." I asked Dandapani to unpack this, and what followed was a fairly blunt and irreverent discussion on spirituality in our current culture. It was unique enough that Dandapani and I spoke afterwards about more candid talks on spirituality and possibly even an event in America. Dandapani is a coach to high performing entrepreneurs and athletes, because, as he said, “They actually follow through on what I coach them to do.” And a crux of what you’ll hear is Dandapani stating that to achieve success in any area of life we need a clear strategy that we adopt and adhere to, depending on our specific goals. And most high performers do this, except in the area of spirituality, where we pick and choose from a menu of spiritual concepts. And it doesn’t work. So in this episode, he really takes it to task. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Aug 202359min

We all know we’re in an age of distraction. It feels like we all have ADHD. We are all consumed with multi-tasking and dealing with what is urgent and can’t ever get any of the big, important things done. Meanwhile we all follow and applaud the people who can manage to focus and achieve great things. We think focus comes from gritting our teeth and making ourselves, and we are missing the concept. My guest today and expert on this topic is Dandapani. Dandapani grew up in his family home, went to school and actually graduated from university with a degree in electrical engineering. He left it all behind to become an ordained Hindu monk under the guidance of one of Hinduism’s foremost spiritual leaders of our time. For 10 years he lived a life of serious personal discipline and training at his guru’s cloistered monastery in Hawaii. Here he learned to control his mind. He learned to focus. And he believes this is the key to finding one’s purpose. As you may think, “Yeah, it’s not so hard to focus when you live in a monastery in Hawaii,” Dandapani agrees. Yet he believed the teachings would work in the outside world as well, and now he’s proved it. He left the monastery and moved to New York where he started a business, got married, and became a father. Today he is a highly sought-after international speaker and leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus to create a life of purpose and joy. His TEDx talk has over 6.2 million views and he has other videos with tens of millions of views. He sat down with me from his thirty-three-acre spiritual sanctuary and garden in Costa Rica to discuss the message in his book, The Power of Unwavering Focus. One concept from his message has changed my life. That of the mind being a vast space with many different areas and our awareness is a glowing orb of our focus that can only light up one room at a time. You’re about to hear of this, and more. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Jul 20231h 3min

Welcome to the Peak Wellness episode where we seek to strengthen our bodies, our foundations, and build our lives on top of them. In this episode of Self Helpful, “How To Greatly Influence Your Possibility For Dementia” - An issue that used to be a rarity has now become one of the greatest fears of everyone over 50. It’s getting to the point now of expecting that mental impairment is a given for aging. It is not. Does genetics play a part? Yes, but it should be minimal. Does lifestyle play a part? Yes. The biggest. If hearing you have massive power to control whether you get dementia or any cognitive decline is good news to you, you will want to tune in to this episode. Please know, you won’t hear any shaming. As I record this right now, I may have dementia in my future. The research absolutely shows however, I have great control over delaying and mitigating it. And you do too.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Jul 202358min