We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

There are areas of your life where you feel driven. You are doing the work and getting the results. And it feels good. Then there are other areas of your life where you feel you're working hard as well, but you're not getting the results you want. I'm talking about the areas where you aren't as interested or inspired. ⁣ ⁣ So many overall driven people experience this. And they go along day after day hoping they'll get a break and find success in those challenging areas. I'm not going to tell you I can make you love the challenging categories of life as much as the ones you find great joy in. But you can significantly increase your success and find peace. Walk with me for a moment as I cover a primary topic from my new book, What Drives You: How To Discover Your Unique Motivators and Accelerate Growth In Work and Life⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Father's Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 Jun 202317min

In today’s world where you can get alerted every second about something new, FOMO, or the fear of missing out, is something causing anxiety amongst the culture. Fear of missing out on the news because you want to be in the know, fear of missing out on a social media post or the next new show or episode on Netflix, or a new podcast posting and on and on. We want to belong, we want to be in the know, and we might miss out on something beneficial for us It’s a real thing.  I’m back with Dr Will Cole, renowned Functional Medicine expert and celebrated health coach to actress Gwyneth Paltrow. His new book is called Gut Feelings: Healing the Shame-Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How You Feel, which was the topic of our first talk together. This is my Values & Habits episode where we walk through the key areas of life fulfillment so see how Will structures his personal life for success. It's in the category of mental health where Will brings up FOMO and ascribes to JOMO, the JOY of missing out. I'll let you hear how he breaks it down, but it is a worthy paradigm shift and something he puts great value in.  In other categories, Will shares his spirituality is the lens from which he sees the world through. He's pretty introverted so is very intentional about nurturing relationships. He follows intermittent fasting, which he got flack for from a talk with Gwyneth Paltrow recently, you can hear us unpack it further. He has a weakness for organic peanut butter and Zevia soda. We end with Will sharing his love of history and how he gets lost in it for personal joy. You can ask him anything about the Mayflower and he’ll fill you in…Find Dr Will Cole at…drwillcole.com Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Mai 20231h 3min

I just want an easy, step-by-step formula to look, feel, and perform great; Eat whole and healthy foods, exercise, and get good sleep. It should be that simple. And yet it’s not and many of you know it, as you do these things and you are not experiencing the level of health and wellness you desire.  Our mental health can sabotage our efforts, and I’m not talking anything severely acute. I am open about my own struggles with anxiety, and am more and more aware how it negatively affects me, especially my gut. You’ve likely heard about the brain/gut connection, but I find few people who really give much attention to this. How can you trust your gut, that intuitive feeling, if your gut is a boiling cauldron of a mess? And most of us have a compromised gut.  My guest today is Dr Will Cole. I became aware of Dr Cole through Gwyneth Paltrow, as he is her doctor and a primary provider in her Goop wellness and lifestyle brand and company. If you remember, I had Terry Real on the show months back, he is Gwyneth’s therapist and relationship expert, also part of the Goop company. Will has become the health and wellness resource for a lot of celebrities, I see his instagram showcasing him working with Leann Rimes and Drew Barrymore, but I’ve paid attention and he’s really got the chops and I respect his work a lot.  He has a new book that as you’ll hear, he says is unlike anything he’s ever written. It’s called Gut Feelings: Healing the Shame-Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How You Feel, and it gets more into the philosophy of our wellness than just clinical, prescriptive aspects. Which to me is the foundation. Your health and wellness will ultimately be a result of your own philosophy on health and wellness. Will actually coined the term, “Shameflammation”, which I encourage you to listen into. I find that shame is a reality with most men, and one they are ignorant of and prone to avoid even looking into. You’re going to hear some paradigm shifting information here on your health and wellness.   June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

29 Mai 20231h 20min

More than two-thirds of Americans are overweight or actually obese. My guest has coached and trained over 20,000 people and says around 75% of those people just need to get on a healthy eating and exercise routine and stick to it. But for the rest, they likely have a metabolic issue and unless corrected, the weight will not come off and stay off. ⁣ ⁣ Angelo Poli founded Metpro where he and his team specialize in this area by utilizing an algorithm based transformation engine. Angelo and Metpro work with regular folks like us, but he’s well known for working with high-profile clientele that range from Olympic Athletes, NFL MVPs, physique models, and business leaders. I had worked with Angelo and his team for quite a while so in this episode I introduced him and his research to Randy James, Medical Doctor, Functional Medicine expert and my Functional Friday co-host. ⁣ ⁣ As you’ll hear they get into the nuances of why we are having metabolic problems, how to figure out who does, and what to do about it. You’ll hear my story in this episode as well, as I’m one who had really slowed my metabolism down. For some of you who have trouble losing weight this could be revolutionary, as it was for me. You can take the info and apply it to yourself immediately, as this is not an ad for Metpro. But if you want to check them out, go to http://metpro.co/ziglar and you can take their assessment and speak with a coach on their team for no cost or commitment.⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Mai 20231h

The self-help industry is guilty of telling people they are limitless and perpetuating the concept that you can do and be anything. It’s a well meaning concept to try and help people see they are capable of more, which I agree with, but the sentiment is often a great disservice. Sure, you can go do anything and everything, but you won’t do many of those things well. You are designed for some specific things. ⁣ ⁣ The great news is they will fit your innate desires and abilities. Imagine taking all the animals in Africa and dumping them on the open savannah. How will they fare? The monkeys and crocodiles and hippos and pythons and parrots will soon die. Or dump them all into the trees. How will the elephants and lions and gazelles do? You get the point. Yet we as humans are expected to just be ok in all the normal structures of our environment. It doesn’t work, and most all of us spend a lot of our days in environments and circumstances that are greatly limiting us and don’t cater to our unique makeup.⁣ ⁣ This is my wrap up on my series with Andre Sólo and the message in his book, "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." Some of you are HSPs, as I’ve realized I am. But all of you have sensitivities. All of you. And chances are you are blind to them or are just trying to grit your teeth and plow through your life. You can. But you won’t be at your best. You’ll be doing yourself a disservice. Further, you’ll be limiting the service you can bring to others. ⁣ ⁣ Walk with me a minute in looking at how to better curate and design your world for your success.⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Mai 202319min

We've been unpacking issues of sensitivity. I want to again highlight that the only people who do not have sensitivities are psychopaths. So if you are not a psychopath, this show is for you. You do have some sensitivities and if you are unaware and if you don't work to manage them, they will erode you, like termites. The point here is not being a victim. Not being fragile. It's about being self-aware of your unique propensities so you can manage and leverage them. ⁣ ⁣ This is part 3 on the message from Andre Sólo in his new book, "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." Andre is the force behind Sensitive Refuge (sensitiverefuge.com), the world’s largest website for sensitive people. In this show I invited Broadway and big screen star Renée Marino to join me and discuss this topic.⁣ ⁣ Because, right after posting my first episode with Andre, Renée texted me saying, “I'm Listening to your podcast about HSP... man.. this is me 100%!!!!” I had no idea. This episode is us unpacking our realizations of not just being sensitive, but in our case, tipping over into being HSPs, highly sensitive people. But again, this isn't a handicap, unless it goes unchecked. It can be a superpower if properly leveraged. Again though, you have sensitivities, and I believe you'll hear in this episode how you can better manage them to be more at peace and get more, valuable productivity out of yourself and in the areas you are more attune to in your sensitivities. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Mai 20231h 19min

In this episode I want sensitive people to hear how an HSP…highly sensitive person…curates their life to find more peace and wholeness. I was highly interested in this, as I’m new to understanding, I’m an HSP, and I’m working to reorient my life, with grace, to help me be more at peace, and from this, be more at peace with others and the world around me. ⁣ ⁣ I’m back with Andre Sólo, the force behind Sensitive Refuge, the world’s largest website for sensitive people, and the co-author of "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." Andre is an author, researcher, and speaker, and a recognized expert and passionate advocate for sensitive people.⁣ ⁣ Here we walk through his Values & Habits and as you’ll hear, most are configured to support Andre’s sensitivities. Remember from our first talk together in the May 17 episode, Sensitive does not mean fragile, or delicate. Sensitive means; quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences. And that means externally and internally. ⁣ ⁣ Spiritually Andre finds more sensitive people crave meaning from life and may be more prone to pursuits of spirituality. Similarly, they seek out deep, meaningful relationships, and Andre attests to this for himself. And while we didn't discuss it, I'm betting more sensitive people have fewer, but deeper relationships than the norm. I'll have to ask him about that. Regarding health and wellness Andre said he doesn't live up to his own values here, but seeks out Whole Foods and practices yoga. He admits he's an emotional eater. Regarding mental health he of course guards against overstimulation. This is a big aspect I'm getting from this topic, as I've always struggled with overstimulation but just gritted my teeth and figured it's my problem. While I'm not taking the concept to opt out of everything, I am more in mind to budget how much and giving myself recovery time. This and more in the episode. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Mai 202356min

Adi Arezzini was 23 years old and as you’ll hear, bloated, constipated, and only going to the bathroom once per week. This is critical digestive illness. She started researching the colon and herbs and from it found healing agents in tea, from which she started a business, Teami Blends which is sold online and also across the country in stores like Target. But this isn’t an ad for Teami Blends and it is of course not a stand alone magic bullet. Adi made other significant lifestyle changes which led her away from that harsh reality to more optimal health.  I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we asked Adi about her personal health journey, the benefits of tea, and much more. In the latter part of the conversation I asked her and she provided, her top three list of what causes and helps alleviate digestive problems which may be the greatest benefit you get from this episode. Adi is offering us 20% off all her products at teamiblends.com when you use code TRUELIFE.  Again, this isn’t an ad, but of interest to us. Of note, Randy is a complete tea snob and buys high end, loose leaf tea…probably consuming 5 or 6 mugs a day. After a decade of friendship, I finally wanted to test reducing my coffee intake, and started trying tea. Initially I only liked black tea, but have now developed a broader pallet. I still adore coffee but find it bothers my gut a bit, so I’m only doing it once or twice a week these days…but drinking a lot of tea. June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Mai 202356min