The Kink Consultant17 Okt 2025

Everything You Need to Know Before Going Through the Back Door with Annette Benedetti

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Episode 55 - Let’s talk about back door play, the kind of pleasure that deserves way more hype (and way less shame).

In this episode, I sit down with Annette Benedetti, host of Talk Sex with Annette and certified sex and intimacy coach, to unpack everything you’ve ever wanted to know about exploring the back door. We get into how to prepare, what to expect, and how to make it fun, safe, and insanely pleasurable for everyone involved.

Annette shares her real-life guide; from her favorite toys and plugs to lube tips, comfort positions, and how to talk about it without awkwardness. We also discuss why communication and consent are the ultimate turn-ons, how to handle nerves (and mess), and why curiosity should always come before shame.

If you’ve ever been curious about trying backdoor play but weren’t sure where to start, this episode gives you all the confidence, info, and laughter you need to make it your new favorite adventure.

Episode Highlights

(00:00) The Myth of Virginity and the Power of Experience

(12:00) Exploring the Backdoor: Tips, Prep, and Cleanliness

(18:00) Backdoor Toys, Training Kits, and Plug Preferences

(29:00) Safety Tips, Hygiene, and Aftercare

(32:00) Understanding Partners, Boundaries, and Communication

(38:00) Breaking Shame and Making Pleasure Normal

Connect with Annette:

https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/

www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette

talksexwithannette.com/shop-with-annette

Connect with Me:

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