When the 'Needing Space' and 'Needing Resolution' Partners Marry Each Other: Episode 419

When the 'Needing Space' and 'Needing Resolution' Partners Marry Each Other: Episode 419

It seems like the "I need more space" and "I need to talk this out now" partners always find each other! This is the basis of the Pursuer/Withdrawer as well as the Anxious/Avoidant partner dynamics in marriage. When this dynamic happens, it always causes more tension, defensiveness, anxiety, and distance than the initial topic of conversation. If this sounds at all like dynamics you and your partner get into, you certainly are not alone!

In today's episode you will hear more detail about what's really happening for each partner, whether it is the need for space or resolution. There are many factors that contribute to this, like personality type and emotional processing capacity. But tune in to hear about details you would have never thought of, hear more about how this dynamic has played out in our own marriage over the years, and then specific steps you can take to keep this dynamic from escalating simple conversations. This will make you both feel even more secure, understood, and loved in your relationship.

👉 Don't forget to join us on our FREE Live Marriage Webclass on: The 5 Root Causes of Conflict and Disconnection in Marriage. This live event only happens 2x per year. If you can't attend live, still register, as we will send you the replay. So don't miss out!

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Discussing Holiday Expectations and Visiting In-Laws (To Prevent Chaos and Conflict): Episode 423

Discussing Holiday Expectations and Visiting In-Laws (To Prevent Chaos and Conflict): Episode 423

The holidays are supposed to feel relaxing and joyful. But for many couples, they're anything but. Between travel plans, family visits, and unspoken expectations, this season can quickly become chaoti...

18 Nov 202529min

Accidentally Squashing Your Partner's Excitement (When You're on Two Different Wavelengths in a Conversation): Episode 422

Accidentally Squashing Your Partner's Excitement (When You're on Two Different Wavelengths in a Conversation): Episode 422

Have you ever shared an idea or dream with your spouse, something that genuinely excited you, only to have the energy immediately flattened by practicality or fear? In this episode, we're unpacking a ...

11 Nov 202522min

Can One Spouse Change the Marriage For the Better? Episode 421

Can One Spouse Change the Marriage For the Better? Episode 421

As the holiday season approaches, many couples find themselves hitting a quiet but undeniable breaking point. Something about this stretch of time—from mid-October through the new year—brings things t...

5 Nov 202529min

The Science of Stress, Anger & Connection—How to Heal the Family System with Dr. Taz Bhatia: Episode 420

The Science of Stress, Anger & Connection—How to Heal the Family System with Dr. Taz Bhatia: Episode 420

Have you ever thought about how your own stress affects your kids — or how your parents' stress might still be affecting you? In this powerful conversation with Dr. Taz Bhatia, integrative medicine ph...

28 Okt 202543min

The 4 D's That Create Division in a Marriage: Episode 418

The 4 D's That Create Division in a Marriage: Episode 418

Division isn't just a problem in the world—it's creeping into homes, marriages, and families everywhere. When couples start turning against each other instead of standing together, the bond that once ...

14 Okt 202525min

The Difference Between Productive and Unproductive Communication: Episode 417

The Difference Between Productive and Unproductive Communication: Episode 417

Many times in marriage, you can start what you think is a simple conversation and have it turn into a miscommunication or even a conflict. It is frustrating when you are trying to simply communicate s...

8 Okt 202514min

Do Spouses Need to Validate Every Feeling or Emotional Upset? Episode 416

Do Spouses Need to Validate Every Feeling or Emotional Upset? Episode 416

When emotions run high in marriage, one of the most common traps couples fall into is what to do with each other's feelings. Should you validate them? Should you challenge them? Or should you just off...

30 Sep 202520min

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