163. Why High Achievers Struggle To Feel Secure In Love w/ Clare Cui

163. Why High Achievers Struggle To Feel Secure In Love w/ Clare Cui

In this episode, I talk to Clare Cui from @bethathealinggirl about anxious attachment, intellectualizing emotions, and other ways we hold ourselves back in dating and relationships. We talk about the deep conditioning that drives us to seek control through logic, how we end up triggering ourselves without realizing it, and the confusion between intuition and anxiety. Clare shares how anxious attachment often hides in plain sight for high achievers, and we dig into why so many of us look for safety in others instead of creating it internally. This conversation is packed with mic-drop moments and hard truths that will get you thinking differently about your emotions, how you handle them, and how that relates to your love life.


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