Are Your Desires Really Yours? How to Recognize and Reclaim What You Truly Want with Luke Burgis
The One You Feed24 Okt 2025

Are Your Desires Really Yours? How to Recognize and Reclaim What You Truly Want with Luke Burgis

In this episode, Luke Burgis explores the question, “Are your desires really yours?” and how to recognize and reclaim what you truly want. He discusses how to tell the difference between “thin desires (fleeting, imitated wants) and “thick desires” (the deeper longings that bring lasting fulfillment), and why discerning between the two can change the direction of your life. Luke also shares practices for uncovering your true hierarchy of values, creating alignment between what you want and who you want to be. Explore how to pivot from “I don’t want to” to “I do want to, I just don’t feel like it” and how to feed the desires that lead to meaning instead of comparison or regret. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Exploration of the concept of mimetic desire and its origins in the work of René Girard. Discussion on how desires are often imitative and influenced by others rather than being inherently personal. The importance of discerning between beneficial and harmful desires in one’s life. The parable of the two wolves as a metaphor for the internal conflict between positive and negative desires. Differentiation between “thin desires” (fleeting and influenced by external factors) and “thick desires” (deeply rooted in personal values and identity). The role of self-reflection and narrative in understanding one’s desires and motivations. The significance of establishing a hierarchy of values to guide decision-making and desire cultivation. The impact of social interactions on shaping desires and the responsibility individuals have in influencing others. The concept of “stalking your greatest desire” as a means to align personal desires with one’s life mission. The importance of having a trusted partner for exploring and communicating desires, emphasizing the value of attentive listening If you enjoyed this conversation with Luke Burgis, check out these other episodes: How to Find Zest in Life with Dr. John Kaag Finding Zen in the Ordinary with Christopher Keevil Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episoder(965)

Embracing Imperfection: The Path to True Self Acceptance with La Sarmiento

Embracing Imperfection: The Path to True Self Acceptance with La Sarmiento

In this episode, La Sarmiento explores what it means to embrace imperfection to discover the path to true self-acceptance. La shares their journey of discovering and embracing identity, belonging, and the challenges of living authentically in a world that often demands conformity. Key Takeaways: Learning to feed our “good wolf” through conscious effort and daily choices Balancing the absolute truth of oneness with the relative truth of societal inequalities The role of identity in spiritual practice and the complexities of the “no-self” teaching Creating inclusive spaces in spiritual communities and the challenges of true integration The transformative power of unconditional love through relationships, including animals For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Des 202458min

The Purpose of Emotions and Why We're Not Wired for Happiness with Anders Hansen

The Purpose of Emotions and Why We're Not Wired for Happiness with Anders Hansen

In this episode, Anders Hansen explains the purpose of emotions and how we’re not wired for happiness. Anders discusses the evolutionary nature of our minds and how our ancestor’s survival instincts have shaped our modern-day experiences of anxiety and happiness. Key Takeaways: Understand how human emotions have evolved to serve a purpose in our lives Discover the powerful impact of exercise on your mental well-being Learn effective strategies to overcome feelings of loneliness and connect with others Explore the role of inflammation in depression and its potential influence on mental health Recognize the importance of nurturing relationships for your overall happiness and well-being For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Des 202459min

The Science of Motivation:  Insights on Goal Setting and Willpower with Ayelet Fishbach

The Science of Motivation: Insights on Goal Setting and Willpower with Ayelet Fishbach

Feeling overwhelmed by holiday stress or the pressure to make everything perfect? Or maybe it’s the loneliness this season can bring. Either way, you’re not alone—and this year can be different. Join us for a free online webinar on Sunday, December 10, at 12 PM Eastern to learn a simple habit that can help you let go of stress and find peace, steadiness, and genuine connection. Give yourself this gift of support and clarity for the season. Sign up here. In this episode, Ayelet Fishbach dives into the science of motivation and shares valuable insights on goal-setting and willpower. As a social psychologist and motivation scientist, her work involves understanding the intricacies of human behavior and environmental influence. Dr. Fishbach also shares a fresh perspective on intrinsic and extrinsic motivation and explains the importance of learning to nurture empathy toward our future selves. Key Takeaways: Master effective behavior change strategies to reach your full potential Bust motivational myths and unlock your true drive Craft powerful personal goals that propel you forward Embrace the importance of intrinsic motivation for lasting success Skillfully handle goal competition to stay on your path to achievement For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Des 20241h 5min

Changing How We Choose with David Redish

Changing How We Choose with David Redish

In this episode, David Redish explains why we should be thinking about changing how we choose and explores the process of decision-making. He discusses the systems our brains use to make decisions and how these systems interact and influence our choices, from everyday decisions to complex moral dilemmas. Key Takeaways: The three decision-making systems in our brains and how they function How the way we frame questions can dramatically alter our decisions The role of morality as a tool for fostering cooperation and mutual benefit Practical strategies for aligning our actions with our values The complex nature of addiction and its relationship to decision-making Feeling overwhelmed by holiday stress or the pressure to make everything perfect? Or maybe it’s the loneliness this season can bring. Either way, you’re not alone—and this year can be different. Join us for a free online webinar on Sunday, December 10, at 12 PM Eastern to learn a simple habit that can help you let go of stress and find peace, steadiness, and genuine connection. Give yourself this gift of support and clarity for the season. Sign up here. For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Des 20241h 4min

Grounded in Gratitude: Life Lessons from Great Minds

Grounded in Gratitude: Life Lessons from Great Minds

In this special episode on gratitude, you’ll hear life lessons from the great minds of Dr. Nicole LePera, AJ Jacobs, Martha Beck, Susan Cain, and Cory Allen. Throughout these conversations, we explore practical ways to incorporate gratitude into our daily lives, overcome common obstacles to feeling grateful, and use gratitude to enhance our relationships and overall well-being. You’ll find a fresh perspective on gratitude, moving beyond simple platitudes to explore how we can cultivate a deeper, more meaningful sense of appreciation in our lives. Key Takeaways: Grasping the power of gratitude when grounded in the present moment Practicing detailed expressions of gratitude to deepen our appreciation Balancing gratitude with acknowledgment of life’s challenges is crucial Cultivating wonder that naturally lead to feelings of gratitude Viewing gratitude as a state of being, rather than just a tool, to provide a solid foundation for navigating life’s ups and downs Feeling overwhelmed by holiday stress or the pressure to make everything perfect? Or maybe it’s the loneliness this season can bring. Either way, you’re not alone—and this year can be different. Join us for a free online webinar on Sunday, December 10, at 12 PM Eastern to learn a simple habit that can help you let go of stress and find peace, steadiness, and genuine connection. Give yourself this gift of support and clarity for the season. Sign up here. For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

29 Nov 20241h 7min

Surfing the Waves of Time and Finding Balance in a Busy World with Paul Loomans

Surfing the Waves of Time and Finding Balance in a Busy World with Paul Loomans

In this episode, Paul Looman explains the meaning of surfing the waves of time and how we can start finding balance in a busy world. He shares insights from his 40 years of Zen practice and his work helping individuals and groups find calm amidst chaos. We discuss how traditional time management techniques often fall short and why a more intuitive approach can lead to greater productivity and peace of mind. Key Takeaways: The connection between Zen practice and effective time management How to transition from control to trust in managing our time The importance of doing one thing at a time and truly finishing it Creating “breathers” between activities to enhance creativity and clarity Transforming tasks into manageable items Observing and working with background mental programs like worry and hurt Developing and trusting our intuition for prioritizing tasks For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Nov 20241h 3min

Small Steps to Happiness: The Science of Mindful Living with Laurie Santos

Small Steps to Happiness: The Science of Mindful Living with Laurie Santos

In this episode, Dr. Laurie Santos discusses the importance of taking small steps to find happiness and the science of mindful living. She reminds us that happiness is not a destination, but a practice. By understanding the science behind well-being and implementing small, consistent changes, we can learn how to apply these insights to our own lives to find greater joy and fulfillment. Key Takeaways: Embrace the power of small, consistent actions in shaping our happiness Understand how our environment and social connections influence our behavior Learn the common misconceptions about what truly makes us happy Discover strategies for overcoming loneliness and building meaningful connections For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Nov 20241h 12min

Distracted or Empowered? Rethinking Our Relationship with Technology with Pete Etchells

Distracted or Empowered? Rethinking Our Relationship with Technology with Pete Etchells

In this episode, Pete Etchells brings a fresh perspective to the discussion on rethinking our relationship with technology. He challenges prevalent assumptions and encourages a deeper exploration of the nuanced effects of technology on our mental health and overall well-being. Pete shares some of the complex research and distills it into comprehensible insights for a more informed understanding of the intricate relationship between digital devices and mental health. Key Takeaways: Understand the nuanced effects of screen time on mental health Discover effective digital detox methods to improve well-being Explore the impact of social media on overall mental and emotional health Learn strategies for managing and overcoming screen addiction Recognize the role of technology in attention and distraction, and how to navigate it effectively For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Nov 20241h 7min

Populært innen Fakta

fastlegen
dine-penger-pengeradet
merry-quizmas
foreldreradet
treningspodden
relasjonspodden-med-dora-thorhallsdottir-kjersti-idem
dypdykk
rss-strid-de-norske-borgerkrigene
hverdagspsyken
sinnsyn
fryktlos
gravid-uke-for-uke
rss-kull
rss-var-forste-kaffe
rss-kunsten-a-leve
jakt-og-fiskepodden
level-up-med-anniken-binz
sovnlos
hva-er-greia-med
sjakkademiet