The Kink Consultant13 Nov 2025

When Your ADHD Brain Meets Your Kinky Side with Cate Osborn

What happens when your ADHD brain meets your kink identity? Turns out, they have a lot more in common than you might think.

In this episode, I sit down with Cate Osborne, also known as Catieosaurus, sex educator, content creator, and author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to talk about how neurodivergence shapes intimacy, communication, and play. Cate shares her story of being diagnosed with ADHD at 30 and how that discovery changed everything: from her relationships to her career to the way she experiences pleasure.

We dive into rejection sensitivity, safe words, aftercare, and why kink can be such a powerful framework for neurodivergent people to feel seen, understood, and safe. Cate also shares insights from her new book, a practical (and very funny) guide to adulting with ADHD, and why she believes self-compassion is one of the most underrated forms of aftercare.

If you’ve ever felt “too much,” struggled to ask for what you need, or wanted to understand how kink and neurodivergence overlap, this episode will make you feel a little less alone and a lot more understood.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 ADHD and Kink: The Overlap

12:21 Rejection Sensitivity and Kink

19:23 The Power of Self-Advocacy

21:03 Kink and Neurodivergence

24:41 Personal Kink Journeys

28:54 Normalizing Kink and Communication

Pre-Order her book here:

https://catieosaurus.com/the-adhd-field-guide

Connect with Cate:

https://www.instagram.com/catieosaurus/

https://catieosaurus.com

Connect with Me:

⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠

⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Let’s take kink to the high seas!

Join me at the Kinky Cruise at https://www.kinkycruise.com and use code TKC50 FOR $50 off per person.

Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.

https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Denne episoden er hentet fra en åpen RSS-feed og er ikke publisert av Podme. Den kan derfor inneholde annonser.

Episoder(98)

on Female Desire, Mental Load, and Mismatched Libido with Caroline Hood

Licensed clinician and author Caroline Hood joins the podcast to discuss the truth about female desire, the impact of mental load, and how to navigate mismatched libido in relationships. Book A Consul...

13 Aug 59min

ADHD, Kink, and Neurodivergent Relationships with Catieosaurus

Cate Osborn aka Catieosaurus returns to discuss ADHD, kink, neurodivergent relationships, and how to build sustainable dynamics that work with your brain.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.a...

6 Aug 44min

A Guide to Setting Boundaries in Kink with Melancholy Ghost

Melancholy Ghost, Missouri title holder and boundaries educator, joins the podcast to discuss how to set, communicate, and protect boundaries in kink.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amand...

30 Jul 1h 8min

How to Navigate a 24/7 Dynamic: A Conversation on Boundaries and Communication with My Dom

Amanda and her dom sit down for an honest conversation about how they navigate boundaries, fear, and communication in their 24/7 dynamic.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/bo...

23 Jul 34min

Hot Girl Energy: How to Date Without Losing Yourself with Kristen Aut

Kristen Aut returns to discuss how to date without losing yourself, break free from obsessive patterns, and step into your Hot Girl Energy this summer.Sign-up for the Hot Girl Energy Workshop here: ht...

13 Jul 41min

How to Tell Your Partner About Your Fetish with Miz Darling

Miz Darling returns to discuss how to tell your partner about your fetish, navigate shame and fear, and build healthy relationships around kink.Book A Consult Call with Amanda ⁠https://www.amandadames...

9 Jul 51min

Kinky Cruises, Chastity Cages, and Social Media Bans with Larah Sky

Book A Consult Call with Amanda⁠ ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consult⁠Larah Sky is back for another unfiltered conversation covering social media frustrations, kink cruise experiences, and chas...

2 Jul 1h 19min

Relationship Advice for Kinky Couples with Simone Milasas

Kinky relationships and vanilla relationships might have more in common than you think.This week on The Kink Consultant Podcast, Amanda speaks with Simone Milasas, global facilitator, author, and crea...

25 Jun 41min