353. The psychology of perfectionism

353. The psychology of perfectionism

We’ve all heard someone say, “I’m such a perfectionist”, like it’s a badge of honour. But what does perfectionism really mean - and what’s hiding beneath it?

In today’s bonus episode, we unpack the psychology of perfectionism: the fear, the origins, and how to finally let go of “never good enough”.

We explore:

• The three types of perfectionism - self-oriented, other-oriented, and socially prescribed
• Why perfectionism often disguises itself as discipline
• How it’s linked to procrastination, burnout, and anxiety
• Where it develops - from conditional love, insecurity, and need for control
• Real-world costs on relationships, wellbeing and creativity
• Tools to reframe perfectionism

Listen now!

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