10% Happier with Dan Harris14 Nov 2025

Sebene Selassie On How To Be "Non-Attached" When the Stakes Are High

How do you stay calm when the stakes are sky-high — like your kid's health, your partner's wellbeing, or the future of the planet? How do you face chronic pain without falling into self-pity? And how do you actually turn meditation from a good intention into a real habit?

In this bonus episode, Dan sits down with the brilliant meditation teacher and author Sebene Selassie for one of our weekly live sessions — a combo of guided meditation and audience Q&A that usually happens for subscribers over at DanHarris.com. We're sharing this one for free so you can get a taste.

Together, Dan and Sebene dig into:

Practicing non-attachment when life feels anything but abstract
Meeting chronic pain and illness with compassion (without spiritual bypassing)
The real psychology of habit formation — and why it's not your fault if you struggle to "just meditate"
What the Buddhist teachings actually say about impermanence, rebirth, and the self

You'll also hear a grounding 10-minute guided meditation, some laughter (including a cameo from Sebene's dog, Chacha), and a reminder that you don't have to do this practice alone.

Join Dan live every Tuesday at 4pm ET for these weekly meditations and Q&As — plus access to all our guided meditations — by signing up at DanHarris.com.

Related Episodes:

Sebene Selassie On: Resiliency, Rewriting Your Patterns and Finding a Teacher Who Speaks to You

How To Handle Toxic Thoughts | Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren

Tickets are now on sale for a special live taping of the 10% Happier Podcast with guest Pete Holmes! Join us on November 18th in NYC for this benefit show, with all proceeds supporting the New York Insight Meditation Center. Grab your tickets here!

Tickets are now available for an intimate live event with Dan on November 23rd as part of the Troutbeck Luminary Series. Join the conversation, participate in a guided meditation, and ask your questions during the Q&A. Click here to buy your ticket!

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