Dateable()AF18 Sep 2025

S2E7: “The Grass Isn’t Greener—It’s Just Filtered”: How Social Media Comparison Poisons Love Lives (and What to Do About It)

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 7

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Ever scroll through Instagram and suddenly feel like your relationship is the only one not taking sunrise-yoga selfies on a cliff in Bali? 🌅 Spoiler: most of those couples argued about directions on the way there.

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel dive into the deceptively shiny world of social-media love lives and unpack why comparison is the fastest way to poison a perfectly good relationship.

We cover:

📱 Why social media skews reality – the algorithm loves filters, not feelings

🧠 The psychology of comparison – why we can’t stop measuring ourselves against everyone else’s highlight reels

💔 How it shows up in dating and relationships – jealousy, insecurity, and the “why didn’t you post me?” trap

🚩 Red flags of social-media poison – from doom-scrolling exes to validation posting

💖 How to detox – curating your feed, creating boundaries, and focusing on connection instead of performance

Because the truth is simple: the grass isn’t greener—it’s just filtered. 🌿✨

💭 Discussion Prompts

Audit your feed this week. How does it make you feel about your love life?
Talk with your partner about how to curate authenticity in what you share.
Send us your thoughts or stories—how has social media shaped your dating life?

🎧 Next week: No RSVP Required: Coming Out Late in Life: The Party Doesn’t Start Until You Arrive

💌 Thanks for tuning in to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating—don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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