Master Your Marriage18 Nov 2025

3 Conversations to Redesign Your Marriage: Don't End the Year Without These Talks

Episode Description:

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In this raw and real episode, Sharla and Robert dive into three transformative conversations every couple should have before the year ends. Drawing from their own marriage, they share honest, unscripted answers to key questions that spark reflection, inventory-taking, and forward-planning. Whether you're thriving or facing challenges, these talks offer practical tools to redesign your relationship reality. No scripts, no rehearsals—just authentic insights to inspire your own discussions. These three conversations are part of the deeper process we explore at the Annual Marriage Values Summit. To get all the sub-questions and more, sign up for the event!

Key Highlights:

Conversation 1: What Went Well Last Year? Sharla and Robert reflect on positives like shared accomplishments, moments of joy, and personal growth that strengthened their bond. They celebrate small wins, such as new habits and supportive moments during tough times, emphasizing how gratitude fuels momentum.
Conversation 2: Where Are We, Exactly? Taking an honest inventory, the duo explores their current state across emotional connection, respect, intimacy, finances, health, and time management. They discuss gratitude expression, fun levels, stress handling, communication, and boundaries, revealing how outside pressures impact their dynamic.
Conversation 3: What Do We Want Instead? Looking ahead, they dream about their ideal marriage and reverse-engineer changes. Topics include daily rhythms, new habits for connection, stress management strategies, goals for health and family, and calendar tweaks to prioritize "us" time. They share actionable shifts for a more intentional future.

Resources Mentioned:

Related blog post: "Designing Your Relationship Reality" on masteryourmarriage.us/blog
Annual Marriage Values Summit (virtual event): https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/annual-marriage-values-summit-virtual. Podcast listeners get 50% off with code "ALIGN"!

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