Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Twelve years into her marriage, Taylor Bashta knew that something was wrong. Her husband who had always been a casual drinker had become more and more dependent on alcohol. She started Googling, “What is an alcoholic?” and wondered what she should do to intervene.  Taylor bravely takes us into her story to share what she did next and how setting firm boundaries and seeking help took both her and her husband on a journey of healing. Now, one year later, she shares what’s made the biggest impact and what they are doing to continue their healing. “He is the only person in charge of his recovery. And I am the only person in charge of mine. We can not let each other effect that. I still live wondering what we’d do if he relapses. I think that's one of the scariest parts of recovery. AA’s big slogan is 'One Day at a Time.' So that’s what we’re focused on. Just one day at a time.” Taylor talks about how we can support friends who may be going through this type of situation and how sharing openly can make all the difference.   “Hiding is what kills us inside. And our hiding is what invites that shame, guilt, and condemnation. When you put it out there, it's gone. You're putting away gossip, you're putting away just the pressure. When you name it, it takes the power out of it.”  Connect with the Bashtas:  Instagram: @taylorbashta Daniel’s music: danielbashta.com Links Mentioned:   Onsite Workshops [WEBSITE] Onsite's Living Centered Program  [WEBSITE] Codependent No More [BOOK]** Celebrate Recovery [WEBSITE]  More Episodes:   [Ep 28] Hula Hoop-o-logy :: Vela Tomba  [Ep. 250] Setting Healthy Boundaries with Family :: Dr. John Townsend FEATURED SPONSORS: Seek and Find Bible -- www.Crossway.org/DMA4 to save 40% off children's ESV Bibles FabFitFun -- www.fabfitfun.com use DMA10 to save $10 off your first box

24 Feb 202050min

During the last 10 minutes of my conversation with Dr. Turansky I asked him about how to train a child with oppositional behavior. He mentioned 7 different tools. With each tool there are several resources available through his website (https://www.biblicalparenting.org/).  Please listen to Ep 274 for the rest of the conversation.

21 Feb 202013min

When a child disobeys, our knee-jerk reaction is typically to discipline with consequences. It’s probably how we were parented and seems like the best choice at the moment. But what if we took a different approach?  My guest Scott Turansky has some exciting, hope-filled news for us. We can look at our child’s behavior and identify a heart attitude that needs training. Changing their attitudes or internal motivations is what will drive external or behavioral change.  “I would suggest that parents move to consequences too quickly and that another approach is needed to make a lasting change in a child's heart. If we strategically focus on the heart of a child and use techniques that are more internally-focused, we can see some really significant things take place.” Scott is an expert in parenting. He literally teaches college courses on it. He’s the director at the National Center for Biblical Parenting, the author of several books and a father of five. Scott shares a lot of wisdom and practical advice for moving our kids from a place of defiance and disobedience to an attitude of honor and selflessness.  It’s a lot to take in, but so good and full of hope. We can do this and Scott is here with resources and ideas to help us train our kids’ hearts.  Connect with Scott:  Website: biblicalparenting.org  Facebook: facebook.com/National-Center-for-Biblical-Parenting Books: amazon.com/Scott-Turansky    Links Mentioned:   National Center for Biblica Parenting  [WEBSITE] Biblical Parenting Coaching Program [WEBSITE] Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! [BOOK] Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes [BOOK] The Christian Parenting Handbook [BOOK] Featured Sponsor : ESV Seek and Find Bible Until 2/24/20 save 40% off at crossway.org/DMA1 Featured Sponsor : FabFitFun Use DMA10 at www.FabFitFun.com to save $10 off your first box

17 Feb 202042min

Finding friends as an adult, keeping up with friends when you become a mom, transitioning friendships as your children grow up… No one tells you what to expect. But, friendships are worth investing in and they are a key part of what helps us not mom alone. Author, speaker and mentor mom Melanie Shankle joins me to share how she’s navigated friendships as an adult. She opens up about what worked, what didn’t and a few things she wishes she’d done differently. “I think it was some of it was my own insecurities of getting out there and making new friends. I don't find women to be any less intimidating in my forties than I found them to be when I was 16 years old. I think there's also a thing as women that we tend to get in a circle and be inward-focused and we aren't good about looking out to see who might need a friend or who may want to be included.” Melanie talks candidly about her friendships, being an introvert and about how friendship doesn’t mean we have to agree on everything. Looking back, she wishes she’d been more open to meeting people and making friends instead of being more inwardly-focused.  “I think you would be better off going with the assumption that everybody would like to make a new friend. You know, just that everybody's open to friendship and to get to know a new person.” Connect with Melanie:  Website:  thebigmamablog.com Facebook: facebook.com/melanieshankle Instagram: @melanieshankle  Links Mentioned:   On the Bright Side [BOOK]** Nobody’s Cuter than You [BOOK]** Ep 12: The Antelope in the Living Room with Melanie Shankle [PODCAST] Ellen DeGeneres & George Bush [VIDEO] Episodes on Friendship: [Ep 233] Cultivating Friendships in a World of Isolation :: Sally Clarkson  [Ep 159] Healing Friendship Wounds :: Lisa-Jo Baker [Ep 148] Overcoming Insecurity in Friendships :: Renee Swope  [Ep 102] That’s Me. . .Craving Authentic Friendships :: Libby & Leslie

10 Feb 202040min

It starts subtly the same way it did with Eve in the garden. “Did God really say?” These small lies from the enemy pass through our minds as one of the 60,000 thoughts we have each day. But lies don’t stay small. Some take root and build highways and cities in our brain that cause us to question God, question who we are and live in fear that the lies are actually the truth.  My guest Jennie Allen talks about how to fight back against the lies that are constantly thrown at us. She opens up about her doubts and how she’s learned to fight back in the war for her mind. We talk about everything from mom guilt to questioning God’s existence to fighting for the minds of our kids.  Jennie shares that we have to recognize there’s a battle and we have to fight it with the right kind of weapons. “This is a spiritual war and we have to throw spiritual weapons at it. And then it says in 2 Corinthians 10 that we are given divine weapons that can destroy strongholds. So those of you out there that are like, you know what? This isn't passive, that thought of doubt or this isn't passive, this is a stronghold that has captivated me most of my life. Scripture says that we have divine weapons to destroy it. Now those divine weapons, we've got to choose to employ them and it's not easy.” Listen as we learn how to fight back in the war for our minds. Connect with Jennie:  Website: jennieallen.com  Facebook: facebook.com/jenniesallen Instagram: @jenniesallen Links Mentioned:   Get Out of Your Head [BOOK]

3 Feb 202044min

Kelly Minter followed her dreams to Nashville to pursue a career in music. After years of highs and lows as an artist (mostly lows), Kelly had the opportunity to switch fields and write her first Bible study with LifeWay Publishers.  Kelly shares with us about how in the midst of disappointment and unfulfilled dreams, she has found God faithful to continue writing her story. One of her first studies centered on the life of Joseph, a man who also had dreams that weren’t fulfilled the way he expected. “Suffering made Joseph fit for the dreams that God had for him. Those dreams were birthed and they were going to happen. But it was the hard, difficult process that made Joseph ready and able for those dreams. Because a lot of humbling had to happen, a lot of faith had to be forged, a lot of obedience had to be built and a lot had to happen for Joseph to be ready for that.” Now an established author and speaker, Kelly has a gorgeous new cookbook out focused on accessible recipes to inspire your cooking and stories about building community around the table. Links Mentioned:   No Other Gods [BOOK]** Cultivate Gathering [WEBSITE] Finding God Faithful [BOOK]** Water into Wine [BOOK]** Kay Arthur Bible Studies [WEBSITE] A Place at the Table [BOOK]** Resources, videos and podcast for Kelly’s new cookbook [WEBSITE]

27 Jan 202046min

It’s not an exaggeration to say that Beth Moore is a spiritual mother and inspiration to many women. Her numerous Bible studies and books are a staple in women’s ministries at countless churches.  Instead of just an interview promoting her new book, she took the time to chat with me about her own hard experiences in motherhood and marriage. Get ready for some real talk about real life and real problems. Beth doesn’t want to be seen on a pedestal.  Whether it was the difficulties of the busy schedule ministry and speaking or the dynamic of spiritual leadership in her home, Beth shares that she’s always found God to be faithful in her places of need.  “There is grace for every day. I always think of the mercies of God when he says in Lamentations, that his mercies are new every morning. I think about the manna and how each person gathered exactly what they needed. That’s how God’s grace is for us. It is always given according to our needs.” Beth is a powerful communicator and our interview only gets better as we keep talking. Hang in there to the end for a holy ground moment when she prays over all of us. “Father, I ask you for supernatural trust in these mothers. I ask you that right now you would settle and establish their hearts that they are intimately known by you. I pray, father, that they will rest in the assurance that there is nothing they can do to shake your love or even shake away your presence with them.” Connect with Beth:  Website:  lproof.org Facebook: facebook.com/LivingProofMinistriesWithBethMoore/ Instagram:  @bethmoorelpm Links Mentioned:   Chasing Vines [BOOK]

20 Jan 202052min

As a lawyer who felt pressure to provide for her family and make a career for herself, Kim Cash Tate was surprised to feel God calling her to a ministry of staying home with her kids and later homeschooling them.  She could have ignored the prompting and pursued her career, but Kim chose to “cling” to God and step out in faith. That decision took her to a lot of places that a law career never would. She became a fiction writer and led Bible studies and now writes and stars in a web series and in music videos. But her focus isn’t about making a name for herself or reaching a goal. It’s always been about intimacy with God and following his leading in her life.  If you feel stuck in your current season of motherhood or discouraged that you have dreams you haven’t seen fulfilled, Kim’s story can give you hope and expectancy that God is still writing your story.  And as we choose to draw near to him, he is faithful to lead us to things that are better than we could’ve planned on our own. Connect with Kim:  Website: www.kimcashtate.com Facebook: facebook.com/kimcashtate Instagram: @kimcashtate YouTube: youtube.com/kimcashtate Links Mentioned:   Kim’s Books and Resources Cling video series Kim’s Music Verses Mentioned: You must follow the LORD your God, fear him, observe his commandments, listen to his voice, serve him, and cling to him. Deuteronomy 13:4  For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10 Featured Sponsor : PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS! Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks FREE go to Prepdish.com/dma. Featured Sponsor: Connected Families Your kids will mess up. So will you. Connected Families believes that the perfect time to build wisdom and GROW your relationship with your kids is during the messy times. They’ve developed an 8-session online course called Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart. It is only offered twice a year, so register today! https://connectedfamilies.org/dtc/online-course/ Use coupon code DMA15 for 15% off!

13 Jan 202036min