173 Getting off the Relationship Escalator (Or Choosing Not To)
Dating → becoming exclusive → moving in together → getting married → having kids. This is the assumed trajectory that all relationships will take. If you’ve already started exploring non-monogamy, you...
12 Okt 202434min
172 Grieving Change: A Crucial Relationship Skill
We do so much grieving in our lifetimes. And not just about the deaths of loved ones—every time there is a change in our lives, we lose an old version of something. That loss can bring up big feelings...
5 Okt 202438min
171 Why Self-Agreements Will Make or Break Your Relationships
If you have a hard time keeping relationship agreements, you probably also have a hard time keeping the agreements you make with yourself. If that’s you, or if you’ve never even tried to make self-agr...
28 Sep 202453min
170 Jealousy & Attachment Panic
“Jealousy is just insecurity, so if you become more secure in yourself, you won't feel jealous anymore.” Ever heard that one before? We have, and we don’t agree. One of the reasons I love thinking abo...
21 Sep 202444min
169 Q&A Quickie: Why am I having such a hard time sticking to my agreements?
Relationship agreements are awesome. They can take you from a place of ambiguity and assumptions to a place of clarity and transparency. But what happens when the hardest part of relationship agreemen...
14 Sep 202441min
168 Ethics, Responsibility, and the Changing Landscape of Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin
Eve and Andrea created a book that I wish I had 15 years ago when I was making the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy. And I don’t say that lightly (if you know me, you know I have a LOT of poly...
7 Sep 202456min
167 Unfuck Your Monomind, Part 2
Confession: We have not solved our mono-minds. The paradigm of monogamy runs deep in our society, so even though we’ve done decades of deep work to break out of those default frameworks and process ou...
31 Aug 202436min
166 Q&A Quickie: How do I deal with my anxiety when my partner is on a date?
Scenario: your anchor partner is on a date with someone else. You know they have a super hot connection, and sex is definitely on the table. You’re excited for them… but once they leave, and the time ...
24 Aug 202425min
