101 Three ways of being polyamorous
Is polyamory something innate in you, like an orientation? Is it a practice? A philosophy? A mindset? An identity? A choice? Being able to describe your approach to polyamory makes it easier to conne...
25 Feb 202351min
100 Finding relationship happiness through creative projects
It's our 100th episode of Playing with Fire! This podcast was intended to be 13 episodes to cover each chapter of Joli's first book... and here we are with 100 episodes in and feeling more excited abo...
18 Feb 202338min
99 Balancing individuation & secure attachment with Polysecure author Jessica Fern
It's normal to want your relationship to feel secure. It's normal to want to individuate. It's normal to want to explore what life can look like beyond the constraints of default monogamy. But how do ...
11 Feb 202354min
98 You're *too much*
Joli here- how many times have you heard one of these gems? You're a lot. You're intimidating. You're an energizer bunny. You're hyper-productive. You must never rest. You're just too much. Tel...
4 Feb 202336min
97 Jealousy and sexual arousal: getting off on the green-eyed monster!
Does the thought of your partner being with someone else make you...hot as hell? You aren't alone. Though jealousy is often thought of as the LAST thing anyone would want in their life, that's not t...
28 Jan 202340min
96 Which is better: To open from the start or to establish couplehood first?
Seeking open relationship bliss? Great. Us too. And all my clients. You're not alone. Every week I hear from at least a few people who want to know if they should try to open right from the start or ...
21 Jan 202340min
95 Envisioning Your Dream Relationship
Creating the relationship you really want begins with the ENVISIONING process. Plus, it's really easy to find yourself in relationships that don't fit right (but do feel familiar) unless you actively ...
14 Jan 202350min
94 Romantic Friendships: Subversive & Awesome
I (Joli) love romantic friendships. Ones that have a deeply intimate quality and the capacity to have honest conversations about boundaries and relationship agreements. Ones that feel soft, warm, and ...
7 Jan 202344min
