Why Bother To Understand People At All?
We’ve talked about analyzing and predicting behavior based on people’s emotions and values, but what about motivation? It turns out there are a few prominent and fairly universal models of motivation ...
21 Mar 202217min
The Problem Of Objectivity
Finally, we become great people-readers when we understand ourselves. We need to know what biases, expectations, values, and unconscious drives we bring to the table so we are able to see things as ne...
18 Mar 20227min
Confirmation Bias Is Seeing What You Want To Prove A Pre-Chosen Conclusion
The most glaring example of this is confirmation bias, wherein we are deaf and blind to evidence that doesn’t support what we think. In other words, we see what we want to see, and we can make a belie...
16 Mar 202210min
Signs That Your Listening Could Use Some Work
It’s important to avoid using language that triggers defensiveness. This includes things like “what’s wrong with you?” “I’m sorry you feel that way,” “whatever,” “you’re overreacting,” “you’re entitle...
14 Mar 202217min
How To Know What You Want (You Don’t)
We often think we know what we want based on singular experiences, stereotypes, or simple social pressures. But we are typically very, very wrong. In fact, most of the time, we are just making educate...
11 Mar 202214min
Obstacles To Becoming Brilliant At Reading People
Most of the communication that takes place between people is non-verbal in nature. What people say is often a poor indicator of what they want to convey, which makes people-reading a valuable life ski...
9 Mar 20229min
Why Are People So Closed-Minded?
An integral part of crystal-clear thinking is to be open-minded. Being open-minded means hearing evidence or an argument and not making an instant judgment. It means being able to say, “I don’t know” ...
7 Mar 202210min
Active Listening Is Hard. It Takes Effort.
Active listening techniques help us to absorb, understand, remember, and respond to what we’re told. This includes non-judgment, reflection, paying attention, seeking clarification, summarizing, and p...
4 Mar 202210min
