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Christian Jarrett is the author, editor or contributor to ten books, spanning psychology, neuroscience, self-help and productivity.  He is recognized as a chartered psychologist and associate fellow of the British Psychological Society. and is the Deputy Editor of Psyche, a global digital magazine that illuminates the human condition through psychology, philosophical understanding and the arts. Eric and Christian discuss his latest is Be Who You Want: Unlocking The Science of Personality Change. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Christian Jarrett and I Discuss The Science of Personality and … His book,  Be Who You Want: Unlocking The Science of Personality Change How some traits are genetic but don’t entirely influence our personality Deliberate actions can short circuit our innate tendencies How cognitive and physical exercise builds confidence and encourages open mindedness The link between mood and personality Defining mood as the temporary state of how you feel How extroversion and introversion personalities are affected by habit The 5 main traits of personality:  openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, neuroticism The maturity principle and how personality traits change as we age How those who are more open and resilient are less prone to dementia Social investment theory refers to how the roles we take on in life shape our personality Will power and the ego depletion theory The importance of being realistic and honest with ourselves when wanting to change Christian Jarrett links: Christian’s website Psyche Digital Magazine Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Christian Jarrett, check out these other episodes: Kevin Mitchell on the Genetics of Personality Neuropsychology and the Thinking Mind with Chris NiebauerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Jul 202243min

Martha Beck is a bestselling author, life coach, and speaker who specializes in helping individuals and groups achieve greater levels of personal and professional success. She is the author of nine nonfiction books and one novel, and has been a longtime contributor to O, The Oprah Magazine.  Her most recent book is The Way of Integrity:  Finding the Path to Your True Self  Eric and Martha discuss how to live in integrity and find the path to your true self. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Martha Beck and I Discuss The Path to Your True Self and … Her book, The Way of Integrity:  Finding the Path to Your True Self\ How what we often want is influenced by our culture Asking ourselves what we yearn for as opposed to what you want The repetitive cycle of thoughts that cause fear How our culture reinforces the fear  Learning to move from fear to curiosity How humor and using your senses can turn down our fear The dilemma of when our nature conflicts with our culture Psychological suffering comes from the thoughts we choose to believe Why suffering is needed to make us pay attention and can actually be our ally Understanding that we have different “internal parts” that make up our whole self (Ref. to Richard Schwartz’s Internal Family Systems Her New Year’s resolution to not lie for a year and the healing that she found Navigating her way out of the Mormon religion How switching our identity to a material self to a limitless state of being brings joy Learning to imagine the good that will come from facing our discomfort The power of small, incremental, and repetitive actions to change your life Martha Beck links: Martha’s website Instagam Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Martha Beck, check out these other episodes: Byron Katie on The Work Richard Schwartz on Internal Family SystemsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Jul 20221h 4min

Oliver James is a body-led psychotherapist and breathworker known for integrating breath, movement, and body work to support personal transformation and self exploration. Eric and Oliver discuss his book, 21 Breaths:  Breathing Techniques to Change Your Life But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Oliver James and I Discuss Breath and Body Work Practices and … His book,  21 Breaths:  Breathing Techniques to Change Your Life Defining body led psychotherapy and how it connects breath and movement How our bodies hold trauma and stress Discovering a practice that works for you The importance of patience and slowing down Learning to notice discomfort and remembering to practice breathwork His trademarked “Geometric Breathing” of visualizing shapes as you breathe The importance of nose breathing as opposed to mouth breathing Oliver James links: Oliver’s website Instagam Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Oliver James, check out these other episodes: The Science of Breathing with James Nestor Wellness and Breathwork Practices with Josh TrentSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Jul 202256min

Michael Unbroken is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, coach, speaker, and advocate for survivors of childhood trauma.  He is the host of The Think Unbroken Podcast that features experts, researchers, psychologists, therapists, and change-makers in the trauma and CPTSD healing space. In this episode, Eric and Michael discuss his book, Think Unbroken:  Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma, But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Michael Unbroken and I Discuss How to Overcome Childhood Trauma and … His book, Think Unbroken:  Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma, The day he decided to change his life and stop being the victim Taking radical responsibility for who you are and your choices How it takes doing difficult things to build confidence When he realized he was letting himself down just as others had let him down The greatest tool to have is the mindset of no excuses, just results Learning to discover your identity after childhood trauma The importance of writing down who you want to be Gaining clarity on your values guides your choices Challenging the narrative of who you believe you are His willingness to try the many tools and modalities to see what worked for him  The benefits of hiring a coach in addition to therapy The power of finding and being part of a community Being kind to ourselves and learning from our mistakes Michael Unbroken links: Michael’s Website Instagam Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Michael Unbroken, check out these other episodes: Jonice Webb on Childhood Emotional Neglect Charles FennyhoughSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Jun 202257min

Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life, is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life.  In this episode, Eric and Lauren discuss several strategies to work with your inner dialogue. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Lauren Zander and I Discuss How to Work with Your Inner Dialogue and … Her book, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourself Her life-changing moment at 19 How much of what is plaguing us is our inner dialogue Recognizing the strategist in your head How over 80% of our thoughts are negative and are on repeat The chicken, the brat, and the weather reporter within us How your linneage, beliefs and theories create our inner dialogue Steps to managing thought patterns Learning to make and keep promises to yourself Giving ourselves consequences to change our behavior How helpful having an accountability partner is Lauren Zander links: handelgroup.com Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Lauren Zander, check out these other episodes: Mark Manson Danielle LaPorteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Jun 202245min

David Whyte is a poet and author who also leads the Many Rivers Organization and Invitas, the Institute for Conversational Leadership, which he founded in 2014. David is the author of many poetry collection and prose books, including his newest book, Still Possible In this episode, Eric and David discuss several of David’s beautiful poems from his latest collection, as well as some of his older work. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! David Whyte and I Discuss The Art of Poetry and Prose and… His book, Still Possible His poem, Your Prayer The metaphor of a doorway, and how it can be a barrier or an opening in your life Beautiful forgetting and how we can get out of and then into ourselves How depression is a form of stuckness Asking yourself how invitational you are to the people in your life His book, The Three Marriages How poetry is the art of saying things you didn’t know you knew His poem, The Road to Santiago How our reluctances are doorways to connection to other people Anxiety and how it is a kind of staticness How not knowing is great intimacy The importance of silence and rest David Whyte links: David’s Website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with David Whyte check out these other episodes: Beautiful and Powerful Poetry with Marilyn Nelson The Power of Poetry with Ellen BassSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Jun 202258min

Radhule Weininger, MD, PHD, is a clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, and meditation teacher. She leads meditation groups in Santa Barbara and retreats globally, at La Casa de Maria Retreat Center, Spirit Rock, Insight LA, the Esalen Institute, and the Garrison Institute. She is the author of HeartMedicine: How to Stop Painful Patterns and Find Peace and Freedom. In this episode, Eric and Radhule discuss psychological and spiritual healing of LRPPs (Long-standing Recurrent Painful Patterns that stem from trauma. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Radhule Weininger and I Discuss Heart Medicine and How to Find Peace and Freedom and... Her book, HeartMedicine: How to Stop Painful Patterns and Find Peace and Freedom. "LRPP's" Long-standing Recurrent Painful Patterns of hurt. How LRPPs often originate from trauma in our past Understanding that there are no shortcuts to healing, it takes constant tending How LRPPs can also find meaning and purpose in our lives The obsessive and habitual components of LRPPs Learning to tap into the different types of awareness Psychological and spiritual healing and how they go hand in hand The steps to begin healing our LRPPs Finding a self compassion practice and making it a new habit Allowing mystery into the healing process How our heart can become the doorway to the great mystery Radhule Weininger links: Radhule's Website Mindful Heart Programs Radhule's Meditations Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Radhule Weininger, check out these other episodes: Work That Reconnects with Joanna Macy Inner Freedom Through Mindfulness with Jack Kornfield See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Jun 202254min

Richard Schwartz began his career as a systemic family therapist and an academic and has developed Internal Family Systems (IFS) in response to clients’ descriptions of various parts within themselves. He focused on the relationships among these parts and noticed that there were systemic patterns to the way they were organized across clients. Dr. Schwartz found that when the clients’ parts felt safe and were allowed to relax, they would spontaneously experience the qualities of confidence, openness, and compassion that he came to call the Self. He also found that when in that state of Self, clients would know how to heal their parts. Richard is a featured speaker for national professional organizations and has published many books and over fifty articles about IFS. In this episode, Eric and Richard discuss his book, No Bad Parts:  Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Richard Schwartz and I Discuss Internal Family Systems and… His book, No Bad Parts:  Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model Defining Internal Family Systems (IFS) Understanding that we all have multiple “parts” within us The parallels of family therapy work to internal family systems Identifying the “Self” among our different parts IFS work is trying to understand what burdens each of our parts is carrying How the Self can take an active leadership role over our parts The roles that our parts take on:  exiles, managers, firefighters  How our parts can transform into powerful allies to bring healing Four goals of IFS:  Transforming, Restoring Trust, Bringing Harmony, Becoming more Self The 8 C’s – Creativity, Compassion, Confidence, Clarity, Connectedness, Curiosity, Calm, Courageous Trailheads refers to thought patterns or impulses that lead to the part from where it’s emanating How IFS is a type of spiritual practice in learning to access more of your Self The problems with positive thinking in working with your parts Richard Schwartz links: Richard’s Website (IFS Institute) Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Richard Schwartz, check out these other episodes: The Energy of Emotions with Ralph De La Rosa (2021) The Mind as Your Teacher with Ralph De La Rosa (2018) Understanding Emotions with Susan DavidSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Jun 202255min