From Threesomes to Non-Monogamy: One Man's Journey Beyond Jealousy and Shame

Ep 207: Alternative Lifestyles, Sex, and Relationships with Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey. Listen to my fantastic discussion with Dr. Bisbey about ethical non-monogamy relationships (ENM), the "monogamy hangover", the difference between jealousy and envy in relationships, and the reality show she was on called Open House: The Great Sex Experiment out of the UK, on channel 4. We chatted about sexual confidence and energy, how that impacts a person's entire life and relationships, and how that confidence (not arrogance) is very attractive in a person. She also shared about how to shed shame and how shame damages our lives and sex lives. We talked about consent. We also discussed how masturbation is healthy in and out of relationships, and how masturbating actually improves your libido and sex life. We talked about sex toy usage and how it's very beneficial, with recommendations of the best brands. We also talked about how porn is not addictive, but how porn can actually enrich your relationship and sex life. Find out more about Dr. Bisbey here: https://linktr.ee/drbisbey?fbclid=PAAaZP4w29NBz-TqxWjoZCIjjNmJuwMsgVjawedQBVmc_J5uwqjUJ9FEOy_bI Dr Lori Beth Bisbey® Taking sex and conversations about sex from the shadows to the light @drbisbey twitter and instagram FB: drloribethbisbey TikTok: @loribethuk Https://drloribethbisbey.press http://drloribethbisbey.com Https://bit.ly/atozofsexradio Books: Dancing the Edge to Surrender memoir (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3hCjr3y Chopping Wood, Shaping Metal, &  Other Erotic Stories https://amzn.to/3UwKKL0 Sex toys mentioned in this podcast episode (affiliate links below): Lovense Bluetooth long-distance sex toys to use with a partner, remote partner, or solo https://www.lovense.com/r/bhjft9 Womanizer sex toy for women https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2190377&u=3101443&m=65394&urllink=&afftrack= Connect with podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Ruan's new audiobook and book releases:Magic In Her Kisses Lesbian erotic romance audiobook: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/67b1bcfa-5a09-11ed-9be7-37bad9f71680 FREE trial of Audible and FREE copy of audiobook https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BL1WVFNG/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-326578&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_326578_rh_us Naughty Santa Gives an Erotic Gift  audiobook https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/bb61f352-5620-11ed-845b-db69e025132d The Licking Sip Coffee Shop audiobook https://storyoriginapp.com/universa Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

11 Nov 202258min

Sex Getaway Erotica by Ruan Willow. Sex scenes from Ruan's Getaway Series books, so much sex in twenty-seven minutes, plus some bloopers from Ruan's recording sessions. Ruan and Sebastian meet up for sex in a cabin in the first erotica excerpt and then at the beach in the second. Podcast episode sponsored by Read by Daylight, a podcast about the lore behind characters from the game Dead by Daylight. Check it out here: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/read-by-daylight-4940226 Ruan's books mentioned in the podcast: all affiliate links Ruan's Cabin Getaway https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/1d745b60-73c9-11ec-b8a2-73116e75cbb3 Audiobook: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/2f0243b8-b354-11ec-86e1-abe0590a9831 https://books2read.com/u/medqrV Ruan's Beach Getaway https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8761feaf66 https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d Magic In Her Kisses Audiobook: a woman loving woman erotic age gap professor/student BDSM Domme/sub novel https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/67b1bcfa-5a09-11ed-9be7-37bad9f71680 In ebook and paperback: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/4ab14756-58c0-11ec-b4f3-470dd2b4fb47 TRY AUDIBLE FOR FREE AND GET THE BOOK MAGIC IN HER KISSES FOR FREE: US https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BL1WVFNG/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-326578&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_326578_rh_us GET FREE TRIAL AND FREE BOOK IN UK: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B0BL1X8RS4/?source_code=AUKFrDlWS02231890H6-BK-ACX0-326578&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_326578_rh_uk Decadent Erotica: Ruan's newly released anthology of ten erotic short stories: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ New audiobooks live: Naughty Santa Gives an Erotic Gift, The Licking Sip Coffe Shop, and The Adult Sex Fort: Kinky Games at Home https://www.audiobooks.com/browse/narrator/330514/ruan-willow Connect with host Ruan Willow here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

8 Nov 202227min

Ep 205: Magic In Her Kisses Audiobook Excerpt by Ruan Willow. Listen to chapter 1 of my newly released audiobook Magic In Her Kisses! Written, narrated, mastered, edited, and fully created by me! I'm so excited this audiobook is in the world! I've been working on it for a long time so I'm ecstatic it's finally live! Get it here (affiliate links): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/67b1bcfa-5a09-11ed-9be7-37bad9f71680 What's it about? Book blurb: Magic In Her Kisses: An Explicit Age Gap Woman Loving Woman Erotic Romance College student Alicia fantasizes about her hot nerdy teacher, Dr. Maddie Lillian, her thoughts drifting to steamy office hour hook-ups as she listens dreamily to the professor's lectures. After getting a job as her lab assistant, Alicia finds her wishes swelling into thoughts of being spanked in her employer's cluttered office, though she wonders, being as clumsy as the woman is if she could coordinate such actions. She decides to act on her fantasies and begins seducing the brainiac. Much to her wonderment, the determined professor reveals herself to be a surprisingly eager, if adorably inexperienced, dominant BDSM lover—so much so that, despite Alicia's presumed distaste for spanking, she soon finds herself yearning for more play. Delicious forays into sexual exhibition, fueled by the taboo nature of their entanglements, lure both women into forbidden union after union. What started as being all about the guilty pleasures of hardcore sex gives way to the magic in their kisses, sparking a sweet, caring romance that neither expected. Unfortunately, not everyone approves, and Alicia's mommy issues soon rage. Just as the two are beginning to realize what they've found in each other, there isn't enough magic in the world to save their love, demanding the empowered young seductress find a new way to be bold. This book contains kinky explicit lesbian sex scenes. GET A FREE ARC Advanced Review Copy here:https://storyoriginapp.com/audiobookreviewcopies/5e1774ee-eb31-43e2-b855-2d1c41167adf GET A FREE TRIAL OF AUDIBLE & A FREE COPY OF THE AUDIOBOOK: US: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BL1WVFNG/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-326578&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_326578_rh_us UK: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B0BL1X8RS4/?source_code=AUKFrDlWS02231890H6-BK-ACX0-326578&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_326578_rh_uk FR: https://www.audible.fr/pd/B0BL1YKXHC/?source_code=FRAORWS022318903B-BK-ACX0-326578&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_326578_rh_fr DE https://www.audible.de/pd/B0BL211B6D/?source_code=EKAORWS0223189009-BK-ACX0-326578&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_326578_rh_de To connect more with the podcast host Ruan Willow, please visit here: Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

4 Nov 202242min

Ep 204: Slutty Activism and Pleasure with Sex & Dating Coach Sarah Martin.  Sex and Dating Coach Sarah Martin joined me to discuss slutty activism, being a dignified hedonist, and pleasure. She helps people build dream relationships, gives dating and hookup advice, and helps people communicate better and more efficiently. She's a podcaster at the Slutty Activism Podcast so you can listen to her show on podcast apps. We had an amazingly epic conversation! It was fabulous! We talked about how we should all focus on pleasure, live a life led by our desires, and about female dating strategy. We discussed how we all receive toxic messaging from society and how society demonizes sex, sexuality, and pleasure. We talked about how inadequate our sex education is in America. She gave ideas and suggestions about how to combat fascism even on a small level in our own lives. We can practice connecting with others and connecting with pleasure in our lives, thereby making us more present. We chatted about how big powers try to make us feel isolated and control us all via social media, what is allowed culturally, on websites, and what isn't, and how this is not benign, but highly intentional. We talked about how sexual communities are all around us and we should not feel alone in seeking out sexual lifestyle alternatives, and once we start to seek these communities and experiences, we will see we are definitely not alone. There are communities everywhere, but we are made blind to them by society. So go out and seek what you want! We talked about jealousy versus envy in relationships as well as jealousy versus compersion, and how this also works in ENM. We also talked about sex toy usage, masturbation, and the death grip phenomena in self-pleasuring. To connect with Sarah, visit here: Listen to the Slutty Activism Podcast: https://slutty-activism.captivate.fm/listen Join the Union of Slutty Activists: http://sluttyactivism.com/ Check Out the Slutty Activism Podcast Community: http://sluttyactivism.group/ More from Sarah: https://dignifiedhedonist.com/links Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dignifiedhedonist Twitter: https://twitter.com/HedonistDating Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dignified.hedonist/ All Sarah's links: https://dignifiedhedonist.com/links/?fbclid=PAAaZyyYQcF_T4CRpOe4I9EJPvW3JHLaCDKIKj71Oe0v4y9X8LgcNbvp2lQ9o Connect with host Ruan: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Check out Ruan's new audiobook Magic In Her Kisses: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/67b1bcfa-5a09-11ed-9be7-37bad9f71680 You can be a part of the launch team and listen and review for free: https Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

1 Nov 20222h 2min

Episode 203: How to Dirty Talk with Sexpert Susan Bratton. 18+. Susan is a beautiful and vivacious author and sex/relationship educator. She's the intimacy expert to millions! I was so honored to chat with this fantastic woman! She shares all her juicy tips on how to talk dirty to your lover. It's sexy fun, and easy to dirty talk with her advice. The author of 44 books and programs, including the mega popular book Sexual Soulmates: The Six Essential for Connected Sex (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3zqZNgM Susan teaches lovemaking techniques, bedroom communication skills, gives intimate wellness advice, and instructions on shame-free sexuality. In this episode, she shares with us how to dirty talk. She gives concrete examples, techniques, and ideas that can help a person get out of that performance mode in the bedroom and into the enjoying mode. She says we can practice dirty talk and tells us how. She teaches that men like acknowledgment and women like encouragement, and how we can cater to each other needs, wants, and desires to make our sex life the best it can be. She talks about how we should be verbal with our lovers, both moaning and with our words. She also shares tips for enhancing post-coital afterglow. You can find her free Dirty Talk ebook here: http://dirtytalkbook.com/ Her website: http://betterlover.com/ Follow her on Instagram at http://instagram.com/susanbratton Follow her on YouTube as well. Get Ruan's new book Decadent Erotica, an anthology of 10 tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, and Submission. At online sellers (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Newly released audiobook In the Dark for the Dark Web https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/b135d608-4bdc-11ed-903b-03926d999719 Get it with a free trial of Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BHZY97WS/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-325657&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_325657_pd_us Connect with podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Leave  a voicemail and Ruan will answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow More Books! Get a copy of Ruan's Beach Getaway: https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d And on Amazon  for any market in the world (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8761feaf66 Never Say, Never Swing, friends hooking up for a first-time swinging story where long-time fantasies get fulfilled! https://storyoriginapp.com/un Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

28 Okt 202247min

Episode 202: Threesome Hide & Seek Sex Game Erotic Story. Ruan does erotic improv, spinning an erotic tale right off the top of her head. A threesome story, two divorced people and a man who broke off his engagement to another because he realized she wasn't right for him, are forming a polycule. They found each other online because each of them was searching on their own for a multiple-partner relationship. They are now living as roommates as they explore the possibility of becoming a threesome couple... a thruple. They just enjoyed dinner and are horny. One of them suggests a hide-and-seek sex game and so they all are off and running with this fun sex-at-home date night. Get Ruan's new book Decadent Erotica, an anthology of 10 tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, and Submission. Available at online sellers (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Newly released audiobook In the Dark for the Dark Web https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/b135d608-4bdc-11ed-903b-03926d999719 Get it with a free trial of Audible: https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BHZY97WS/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-325657&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_325657_pd_us Connect with podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Leave  a voicemail for me I'll answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow One of my favorite sex toys is the Zumio. I'm an affiliate for them. Find out why this is one of my top toys by getting more info on this sex toy here: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1815950&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack= More Books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB A couple meets up unexpectedly when both plan to skinny dip at a pond and naughtiness ensues. Get a copy of Ruan's Beach Getaway:You can find this book on sale at online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d And on Amazon  for any market in the world (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8761feaf66 Never Say, Never Swing, friends hooking up for a first-time swinging story where long-time fantasies get fulfilled! https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/8771f0ec-ffa9-11ec-950a-8f0d44267c5d Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

25 Okt 202230min

Ep 201: Helping Women Become Sexually Empowered with Emily Young. My guest for this episode is Sex & Love Coach Emily Young. Emily helps women. Women are her main focus and she seeks to empower women sexually, in their lives, and in their relationships. She's an epic resource for women! She shares tips for how to keep the boringness out of your sex life. She also talks about removing shame. She shares about her own journey in how she learned to remove shame, express her sexuality, and embrace her full sexual self.  She grew up in a very conservative Christian home as the daughter of a preacher, so she has walked the path she's teaching about. She emphasizes how we can all shed our oppressive pasts. She also shared how she deals with spiraling and triggers with self-love. This is really helpful stuff! She desires to help women feel comfortable talking about sex by doing breath work, dropping into their bodies to feel safe, and she does this by meeting them at their comfort level. She said it's hard to share our body if you aren't comfortable it in to begin with... so very true! She teaches us as women how to shed obligation duty bound sex patterns and how to shed the people-pleasing mode. She instructs on ideas for exploring sexual fantasies and experiences for both single people and those in relationships. She shares about what to do with a partner who may be shaming you for any aspect of your sexuality. She helps women become sexually empowered in a way that fits them as individuals. A few of my favorite things she said are: how that if people can't love you for who you authentically are, maybe those aren't your people and it's time to go find your people, and... if it's not a hell yes, it's a f*ck no! Plus, we call all life a "oh f*ck yeah" life! Great lines from this interview with Emily! Check it out by listening and follow Emily Young on Instagram for more! http://instagram.com/emily_young_co and https://linktr.ee/_emilyyoung_ Connect with me, Ruan Willow, the podcast host at: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow The anthology releases October 22! Ruan's anthology: Decadent Erotica An Anthology of 10 Tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, & Submission. Universal link to the book: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Online sellers ebook: https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Coming in paperback to online sellers 10/22/2022 Leave  a voicemail  https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow More books: Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB A couple meets up unexpectedly when both plan to skinny dip at a pond and naughtiness ensues. Get a copy of Ruan's Beach Getaway: Online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d Amazon  for any market in the world (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8761feaf66 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

21 Okt 20221h 8min

Ep 200: Kinky Sex at Home Erotic Story Part 2 of 2 narrated and written by Ruan Willow. This sex-filled intimate tale is part 2 and the conclusion of the Kinky Sex at Home in a sex fort. If you missed part 1, you can go back to the previous podcast episode and listen to how they started their sex date at home. In this episode, Jenna and Tom continue their sex games in the sex tent in their living room. They enjoy their games with sex toys, sensory cold sensation play, role-playing prisoner play, light BDSM, and oral sex before the big finale act. It gets hot! It gets spicy and intense! And they end up soaked and happy, ready for dinner. Listen to part 1 of this story here: https://ohfckyeahwithruanwillow.buzzsprout.com/1599808/11500900-kinky-sex-at-home-in-a-sex-fort-erotica-story-part-1-of-2 Connect with the host Ruan Willow here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Hi, I'm Ruan! Welcome to my podcast! My new audiobook is live! It's a dark NSFW title written by Benson E. Wolf called In the Dark for the Dark Web. I had a blast narrating this story!  Book blurb: Lisa, a nice young southern girl accepts an offer that she thinks only trashy Alabama redneck trailer park whores would, and do, die for. But it's a lot of money. It is unemployment that pushed her into the dark web. Will she become a missing person or leave the dark, hot and sweaty, like the south? Check out In the Dark for the Dark Web here: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalaudiobooklinks/b135d608-4bdc-11ed-903b-03926d999719 Ruan's anthology: Decadent Erotica An Anthology of 10 Tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, & Submission. Universal link to the book: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f Online sellers ebook: https://books2read.com/u/mZEQvJ Coming in paperback to online sellers 10/22/2022 Leave  a voicemail for me I'll answer you on the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/ohfckyeahwithruanwillow One of my favorite sex toys is the Zumio. I'm an affiliate for them. Find out why this is one of my top toys by getting more info on this sex toy here: https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1815950&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack= More Books! Skinny Dipping at the Pond on a Hot Summer Day (affiliate) https://amzn.to/3pKE7qB A couple meets up unexpectedly when both plan to skinny dip at a pond and naughtiness ensues. Get a copy of Ruan's Beach Getaway:You can find this book on sale at online sellers: https://books2read.com/u/m2eE6d And on Amazon  for any market in the world (affiliate): https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/c9fbb3e6-ddf1-11ec-b61c-5b8 Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

18 Okt 202244min