EP62 -Undoing Sexual Shame

Welcome to episode 220 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Anne Katz to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Anne speaks with me about re-engaging with your sexuality after Cancer, how sexual health for cancer survivors can become a lost priority and learning to re-write your sexual script.    Dr. Anne Katz is the certified sexuality counsellor and Clinical Nurse Specialist at CancerCare Manitoba in Winnipeg, Canada. Dr. Katz is the immediate past editor of the Oncology Nursing Forum, the premier research journal of the Oncology Nursing Society. She was inducted into the American Academy of Nursing in 2014.      She is the author of 14books for health care providers and health care consumers on the topics of illness and sexuality as well as cancer survivorship. Her latest book, the second edition of Woman Cancer Sex, was published in late 2020 and she is completing her latest book about sexuality and illness.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Anne became involved in this line of work   Re-engaging with your sexuality after cancer  The first steps women can take on this journey  How sexual health for cancer survivors can become a lost priority   The way in which guilt can show up around sexuality and cancer  Analyzing the sexual pain survivors experience   Learning to re-write your sexual script   Exploring non- penetrative sex   Looking at treatments and medications available   Re-connecting with your body for better sex   How people can benefit from sensate focus exercises         OMGyes   Thank you to our sponsor OMGyes! OMGyes.com is a website devoted to sexual pleasure for people with vulvas and their partners. OMGYES conducts and publishes the first-ever nationally representative large-scale studies about specific pleasure strategies, in partnership with Indiana University and Kinsey Institute researchers.     See for yourself and get a discount at – https://OMGyes.com/sexology      Clinicians, therapists and nurses get free personal access to OMGYES. Just email therapists@omgyes.com from your work email address with a link to your professional profile.    Likeakitten  We are so excited to celebrate women's history month! We’re teaming up with Likeakitten  to give away their signature box (worth $200).  To enter, follow us on Instagram, write a review in iTunes, screenshot it and send it via a DM. The winners will be announced on March 30th.    Check out the Signature Box for our giveaway here - https://likeakitten.com/product/the-signature-box/     Find Dr. Anne Katz Online  http://www.drannekatz.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/     If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Mars 202132min

Welcome to episode 219 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Katherine Angel to the podcast. In this episode Katherine talks about her new book, Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again, what the inspiration was behind the book, looking at issues of consent and how you can empower your desires.     Katherine Angel is the author of Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again (Verso), Daddy Issues (Peninsula Press, Verso), and Unmastered: A Book on Desire: Most Difficult to Tell (Penguin, FSG). She runs the MA in Creative and Critical Writing at Birkbeck College, University of London, and has a PhD from Cambridge University.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Katherine began working on her new book   What is the most idealistic way to approach consent?  The lack of representation of consent within sex education   Why many women aren’t full connected with their sexual selves  Looking at why women are frightened to talk about sexual pleasure   How do different cultures around the world play into these issues?  Cultivating your sexuality and vulnerability   Overcoming sexual shame   How you can empower your desires        OMGyes   Thank you to our sponsor OMGyes! OMGyes.com is a website devoted to sexual pleasure for people with vulvas and their partners. OMGYES conducts and publishes the first-ever nationally representative large-scale studies about specific pleasure strategies, in partnership with Indiana University and Kinsey Institute researchers.    See for yourself and get a discount at - https://OMGyes.com/sexology    Clinicians, therapists and nurses get free personal access to OMGYES.  Just email therapists@omgyes.com from your work email address with a link to your professional profile.   Find Katherine Angel Online  https://twitter.com/KayEngels     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/     Be part of our sexual health research survey  Take this survey so we can find out what topics you’d like us to cover in the future:  https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/L993Z2M    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Mars 202133min

Welcome to episode 218 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome August McLaughlin to the podcast. In this episode August speaks with me about sexual connections in long term relationships, accessing your sexual power and ways in which we can discover our sexual values.     August McLaughlin is a nationally recognized journalist, media personality, author of Girl Boner and host and producer of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, which has been compared to “Sex in the City” meets NPR’s “Fresh Air.”     Her articles and expertise have been featured in a range of publications including Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, DAME Magazine, O: The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Shape and Bustle. Known for melding personal passion, artistry and activism, August uses her skills as a journalist and podcaster to encourage others to embrace their bodies, sexuality and selves, making way for fuller, more authentic lives.    In this episode, you will hear:     How important is sexual connection a long-term relationship?  Understanding the good sex can take effort & planning  Ways in which we can discover our sexual values  Overcoming issues of resentment   Looking at issues of rejection   Learning to access your sexual power   How we can deal with things like negative body image   Sex frequency – Quality over quantity!  Exploring masturbation   How honest and open communication with your partner will improve your sex life  Why lube can be a great way to improve your sex life  Developing a mutual sexual plan that works for you and your partner        Find August McLaughlin  https://girlboner.org     Be part of our sexual health research survey  Take this survey so we can find out what topics you’d like us to cover in the future:  https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/L993Z2M    Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in     If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

23 Feb 202137min

Welcome to episode 217 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW to the podcast. In this episode Dee Dee talks to me about psychedelic assisted therapy, how it can be used safely, and the benefits people can experience from it when done properly with a therapist.     Dee Dee Goldpaugh, LCSW (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist in private practice in New York City and Woodstock, NY. Their practice specializes in queer, sex and body-positive psychotherapy, and psychedelic integration, a form of therapy that assists clients in processing and applying the lessons from transpersonal and mystical experiences to their lives. Dee Dee has taught and written widely on the topic of psychedelics and sexuality.     As a survivor of sexual violence, Dee Dee sought healing with plant medicines in Peru to heal PTSD and has since become an advocate for therapist education, cognitive liberty, and the decriminalization of psychedelic medicines. They are a leader in their field on the topic of psychedelic integration and healing sexual trauma.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dee Dee became interested in psychedelic assisted therapy  The internal experiences Dee Dee personally went through   Looking at the healing piece of psychedelics  The benefits people can experience from psychedelic assisted therapy  Exploring embodied pleasure and out of body experiences   Good practices therapists do adopt to use psychedelic assisted therapy safely   Ways in which psychedelics can help with touch and sensitivity   Is psychedelic assisted therapy a common practice?     Find Dee Dee Goldpaugh  https://www.deedeegoldpaugh.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in     If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Feb 202130min

Welcome to episode 216 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I look at different things you can do to spice up your sex life for this year's valentine's day!    In this episode, you will hear:     How can we keep things exciting in a long-term relationship?  Understanding your sex life requires time, effort and energy   Why most people aren’t having exciting novel sexual experiences   Analyzing the link between passion and great sex  How it’s easy for us to become lazy in a settled relationship   Viewing valentine's day as an opportunity to spice things up  Paying attention to what’s going on in your relationship   Incorporating passion to make sexually exciting experiences  The importance of managing conflicts within your relationship   Investing time to overcome relationship issues   Doing fun things like naked happy hour   Looking at The Royal Treatment and how it works   Exploring power exchange within give and take         Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/     Club House  This Sunday we are also giving away 3 invites to join us on Club House. If you have an iPhone/iPad, you can enter by 1) following our account on Club House (@sexologypodcast) 2) writing a review for Sexology Podcast, and 3) sending the review to us either via direct message or emailing to drmoali@oasis2care.com We'd love to see more of our listeners in our rooms!    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Feb 202117min

Welcome to episode 215 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Connell Barrett to the podcast. In this episode, Connell speaks with me about ways we can navigate our first-time having sex in a new relationship, the importance of play and Why being present is so important.    Dating coach Connell Barrett has one mission: help men defeat loneliness and attract their soulmates, as their most authentic, confident selves. The founder of Dating Transformation and a coach with The League dating app, Connell spent years training with the world’s best relationship and self-development experts.     Connell’s next project? Showing men a new way to date with his forthcoming book, Dating Sucks But You Don’t, the complete dating guide for men in the #MeToo era, to be published in May by Simon & Schuster.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Connell became interested in this line of work   Creating flirtatious conversation   Learning to talk more around emotion and less around logic   The importance of play and how you can engage in play  Understanding the need to make yourself vulnerable   Ways you can learn to bring your guard down   Looking at the concept of “Freedom from outcome”   Why being present is so important   How to navigate the morning after first time sex  Ways you can still be a good person if it’s just a hook up      Find Connell Barrett online  https://datingtransformation.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Feb 202138min

Welcome to episode 214 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Sarah E. Hill to the podcast. In this episode, Dr Hill speaks with me about the issues around birth control and sex, how birth control affects sexuality, the side effects of birth control and recommendations on the best practices for women to follow.    Dr. Sarah E. Hill is at the forefront of research on the effects of the pill on women’s psychology. A star psychologist with a PhD from the University of Texas, she is currently a researcher and professor with more than 50 published scientific articles to her name.      Her ground-breaking research on women, health, and sexual psychology has garnered more than half a million dollars in grant funding and has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Scientific American, The Economist, and many others.      Most recently, Sarah has authored “This is your brain on birth control: the surprising science of women, hormones, and the law of unintended consequences”, which has been published in several languages around the world and featured on TV shows like “Today” and Great Britain’s “This Morning”.    In this episode, you will hear:     How she became interested in birth control and its relation to sex  The different ways birth control can affect women’s moods   What is contained within birth control pills?  The ways in which women’s bodies can be impacted by birth control   Looking at the side effects of birth control   How birth control effects sexuality and desire   Taking a look at the role natural selection plays in this issue   Should you take testosterone if you have low desire?  Recommendations from Dr. Hill on the best practices for women to follow    Find Dr. Sarah E. Hill online  https://www.sarahehill.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    Promescent Giveaway!  We are so excited to celebrate our 4th anniversary! As a token of our appreciation, we’re teaming up with Promescent to give away a bundle box (worth $154). The box includes: Delay Spray Female Arousal Gel Organic Based Lube Vitaflux Before & After Wipes We’re also giving away two Amazon Gift Cards! To enter, simply write a review in iTunes take a screenshot of the review and send it to drmoali@oasis2care.com or send via a DM on Instagram.    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Jan 202129min

Welcome to episode 213 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Maci Daye to the podcast. In this episode, Maci speaks to me about ways to make sex more exciting in a long-term relationship, re-engaging with your partner to have more passionate sex and the importance of healing in a relationship to improve sexuality.    Maci Daye is a licensed professional counselor, certified Hakomi therapist, and certified sex therapist. In addition to clinical practice, she is on the faculty of the Hakomi Institute and teaches in the United States and Europe.     She is the creator of Passion and Presence® couples’ retreats and a frequent conference presenter. She regularly leads courses in the USA, Australia, New Zealand, and Europe. She holds graduate degrees from Harvard and Georgia State Universities.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the various stages couples go through with their sex life  Ways to make sex more exciting in a long-term relationship  Understanding the issue of “Left-over sex”   Re-engaging with your partner to have more passionate and meaningful sex  How mindfulness can help to improve your sex life  Ways in which previous emotional wounds can play out in sexuality   How being in a relationship is about being comfortable to be seen  Cultivating your erotic sexuality after years of left-over sex  The need sometimes to stop and start a clean slate from scratch  The importance of healing in a relationship to improve sexuality       Find Maci Daye online  https://macidaye.com     Find Dr. Moali online    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Promescent Giveaway!  https://www.promescent.com     Win a Promescent bundle box which includes a bottle of Delay Spray, Female Arousal Gel, Organic Based Lube, Vitaflux, Before & After Wipes worth $154.00! There’s also two Amazon Gift Cards up for grabs! Simply write a review in iTunes take a screenshot of the review and send it to drmoali@oasis2care.com or send via a DM on Instagram.     If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio     Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Jan 202138min