EP229 - Unleashing Your Relationship Potential with Alicia & Erwan Davon

Welcome to episode 311 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons to the podcast. In this episode, we look at racial trauma, how it impacts men and women differently, and how our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure.  Dr. Candice Hargons (she/her) is an award-winning associate professor in the counseling psychology program at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and healing racial trauma – all with a love ethic. She is the PI of the SAMHSA funded Neighborhood Healers Project, which seeks to advance mental health literacy and utilization among Black Lexingtonians.  She is also a co-I on projects funded by NIDA, HRSA, and NIMHD examining substance use outcomes, treatment, and sexual health disparities. Additionally, she leads the Big Sex Study, a mixed methods, community-based participatory action research project investigating Black sexual wellness.  She is the founding director of the Center for Healing Racial Trauma, and the host of the How to Love a Human Podcast. Her new sexual liberation podcast, F*ck the System, launches January 2023.        In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at racial trauma  The different impacts of racial trauma between men and women Understanding sexual liberation  How our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure  Analyzing the orgasm gap  How is pleasure defined? Practice makes perfect! How you can continue to improve your sex life over time Discovering your sexual identity  Looking at sex in deep and intimate relationships  Exploring and cultivating fantasies  Recommendations for parents improving their sex lives  OMGyes  Thank you to our sponsor OMGYES! OMGYES.com is a website devoted to sexual pleasure for people with vulvas and their partners. OMGYES conducts and publishes the first-ever nationally representative large-scale studies about specific pleasure strategies, in partnership with Indiana University and Kinsey Institute researchers. See for yourself and get a discount at – https://OMGyes.com/sexology  Clinicians, therapists and nurses get free personal access to OMGYES. Just email therapists@omgyes.com from your work email address with a link to your professional profile. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Dec 202231min

Welcome to episode 310 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Ali Mushtaq to the podcast. In this episode, look at the underlying reasons why Americans are having less sex, analyse the differences between genders on this issue and differentiating sexuality v eroticism.  Ali Mushtaq has his PhD from University of California: San Francisco in Sociology. Ali has over 10-years' experience in both qualitative and quantitative research methods and taught numerous college-level courses to hundreds of students.    As a former leather title holder, Ali has used his platform to speak on multiple social issues and address social inequality.  Through his written work, press engagements, modeling, and his courses, he continues to address diversity, inclusion, and equity in hopes of creating a better world.    Through his teachings, his main goal is to help professionals in media, market research, business, and others learn techniques to be inclusive as well as help others empower themselves.      In this episode, you will hear:   Are Americans having less sex? Is celibacy on the rise? Looking at the underlying reasons why Americans are having less sex How issues such as depression can affect sexual activity  Is this a global trend or just an American issue? Analyzing the differences between genders on this issue  Understanding the pros and cons of having less sex Differentiating sexuality v eroticism Looking at issues such as consent and the Me-Too movement  How we have more people identifying as non-binary than in previous years    Arya https://link.arya.fyi/play   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Nov 202236min

Welcome to episode 309 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Yana Tallon-Hicks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can bring back passion in a relationship, overcoming low desire and recommendations for ways to explore new sexual interests. Yana Tallon-Hicks, MA is a couples & relationships therapist and a consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive & consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world.   Yana’s workshops for youth & workshops for adults work to create a welcoming & comfortable space to explore crucial aspects of our holistic, sexual selves such as pleasure, communication, consent & the body. Her workshops such as Consent & Cookies, Polyamory & Open Relationships, Hitting the Spot: Pleasure-Based Sex Education, and Pleasure-Based Consent have taken place at Duke University, Marlboro College, Oh My Sensuality Shop, Hampshire College, Smith College, Bennington College, Brandeis University, and Simmons University, along with a growing list of other colleges & universities across New England and the U.S.   Her popular workshop Consent Cookies: A confidence-building workshop for teens has been taught at various high schools & teen youth groups. Though much of her published sex advice is written for an adult audience, Yana also has years of experience working with teens. Her workshops for youth are tailored to be approachable & age-appropriate and focus on essential components of healthy sexuality and relationships for young people including consent, communication, safer sex & body-ownership.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Yana became interested in writing her book: Hot and Unbothered: How to think about, talk about, and have the sex you really want.  Recommendations for people wanting to explore their sexual interests  Looking at kink and the safest way to explore it  The importance of community when exploring kink  Ways you can overcome low desire Maintaining excitement in a long-term relationship Understanding how you and your partners needs will change over time  Overcoming sexual dissatisfaction in a relationship  How you can re-energize yourself to become interested in sex again  Having a great sex life if you’re both parents   Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

22 Nov 202239min

Welcome to episode 308 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Amir Marashi to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the best sexual positions for orgasms, how can we intensify orgasms, and how sex toys can improve orgasms.  Dr. Marashi is a board-certified OB/GYN, author, and founder of Cerē. Dr. Marashi has over twenty years of experience in the medical field, and was the first doctor in the U.S. to host an official cosmetic gynecology rotation for OB/GYN residency training.   In 2020, Dr. Marashi published A Woman’s Right to Pleasure, a distinctive collection of over 200 works and original texts from over 60 of the world’s most important and well-recognized female-identifying artists, writers and creative thinkers from around the globe.      In this episode, you will hear:   Why sex is important in a relationship  Do we experience orgasms differently when masturbating? The common barriers that get in the way of women having great orgasms Looking at the best sexual positions for orgasms  Why cowgirl and women on top is great for orgasms How can we intensify orgasms? What can you do outside the bedroom to improve your sex life How sex toys can improve orgasms Looking at the toys Dr. Marashi has worked on  20% Discount Code – Sexology20 https://getcere.com  Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

15 Nov 202245min

Welcome to episode 307 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Keeley Rankin to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss what happens at sex clubs, what you can expect from the experience, setting expectations and the importance of setting boundaries.  As a leading sex and relationship coach based in San Francisco, Keeley Rankin has been successful in helping men, women and couples overcome intimacy issues and enjoy the best sex of their lives since 2010. She received a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology with a focus on marriage and family therapy from John F. Kennedy University. Keeley is a co-founder of BetterSexEd.org and Co-Creator of the innovative group workshop series, Sex as Meditation, which integrates mindfulness and sex.   Keeley is also a Certified Somatica Method Practitioner (a relational and experiential body-based therapy), Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Certified Queer Conscious Educator, trained in Hakomi Therapy (somatic and mindfulness-based method), and Recreation of the Self, a system for re-empowering our ability to live from an undivided state of selfhood in relationship with others.   Since 2009, she has assisted world-renowned psychotherapist, John Welwood in bridging the gap between the psychological and spiritual. She lead educational workshops on male sexual difficulties for therapists and coaches and created engaging video series courses that help people overcome sexual dysfunction from the convenience of their own homes.       In this episode, you will hear:   How Keeley became interested in this line of work  What can you expect if you attend a sex club? Looking at the differences between sex clubs and swinging The importance of setting expectations when going to sex clubs Making sure you set boundaries How your female partner will likely get most of the attention at a sex club Analyzing the risk of STI’s and how you can protect yourself Why Keeley became disconnected from sex clubs   Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

8 Nov 202226min

Welcome to episode 306 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Susie Gronski to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss male sexual health, the common challenges men face with penile issues, understanding erectile dysfunction and looking at the factors that cause low desire in men.  Specializing in men’s pelvic and sexual health, Susie Gronski, PT, DPT is a licensed doctor of physical therapy, certified pelvic rehabilitation practitioner, international teacher, author and creator of one-to-one and self-paced health programs that help men with pelvic pain become experts in treating themselves.   Her passion is making you feel comfortable about taboo subjects like sex and private parts. Social stigmas aren’t her thing and neither is medical fluff. She provides real advice, just like a friend who knows the lowdown down below. She’s determined to make sure you know you can get help for painful ejaculation, problems with the joystick, discomfort or pain during sex and controlling your pee... without being embarrassed…    So, if you’re having some trouble ‘down there’, she’s the person to get to know.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Dr. Susie became interested in this field  Learning to spice things up and try different sexual experiences How many women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm  The common challenges men face with penile issues  Is it true you can break your penis? Looking at the factors that cause low desire in men How is erectile dysfunction defined? Understanding Kegel exercises Why men should become more acquainted with their soft penis   Find Dr. Susie Gronski Online https://drsusieg.com  Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Nov 202238min

Welcome to episode 305 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Stephen Foster to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Stephen become interested in this area of research, looking at the internalized concept of masculinity and understanding honor culture among men.  Dr. Stephen Foster is a social psychologist at Penn State York. His academic work is primarily centered around the intersection of culture, stigma, and health behaviors, including vaccine attendance, screening attendance, and various forms of help-seeking.  Other research interests include conflict resolution in relationships, sexual function, and subjective socioeconomic status.     In this episode, you will hear:   How did Stephen become interested in this area of research? How erectile dysfunction is defined  Understanding why people do things against their best interest  Looking at the internalized concept of masculinity  Ways we can motivate people to ask for help  Are people more comfortable asking for help from same or different gender? Understanding the importance of communication to help address these issues  Looking at other findings in Stephen’s study  Is opening up to your partner about this well received?  Understanding honor culture among men   Workshop: 7 Tactics for Achieving Optimal Performance Without Medicationhttps://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tacticsFind Dr. Stephen Foster Online sfoster@psu.edu  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Okt 202239min

Welcome to episode 304 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Rachel Needle to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the impact erectile dysfunction can have on a woman in a relationship, helpful tips for what you can do as a partner to help and looking at the variety of factors that can cause erectile dysfunction.   Dr. Rachel Needle is a Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist in private practice and the founder and executive director of the Whole Health Psychological Center. She is also the owner and Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes which provides continuing education to Mental Health and Medical professionals and Sex Therapists around the world. MSTI provides certifications in Sex Therapy, Couples & Sex Therapy, LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy, Alternative Relationships, Medical Sexology, and Transgender Affirmative Mental Health Care, Sexual Trauma, Problematic Sexual Behavior, Sex Counseling, and Sex Educator, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology.   Dr. Needle is often interviewed by and quoted in national media outlets. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Details, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Details, and Shape, and papers including the Washington Post and the Palm Beach Post. She has written several articles for Glamour Magazine’s online Blog: Smitten.   Dr. Needle is a business coach and consultant and helps therapists build and thrive in private practice both in person and online! She is the co-owner of My Private Practice Collective which has a facebook group and offers a course on how to start, grow, and thrive in private practice. The course helps therapists successfully start and build either an in person, online, or combination therapy practice!     In this episode, you will hear:   How erectile dysfunction can affect a woman in a relationship  Other sexual activities you can explore if struggling with erectile dysfunction Experimenting with sex toys  Helpful tips for what you can do as a partner to help Looking at the variety of factors that can cause erectile dysfunction How you can improve your communication during this process The importance of giving our partners direction   Find Dr. Rachel Needle Online https://drrachel.com   Tips for Lifelong Erectile Health https://oasis2care.com/hard-penis-checklist/   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Okt 202228min