EP306 - Understanding 3 Common Sexual Dysfunctions in Men ft Dr. Susie Gronski

Welcome to episode 351 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Douglas Weiss. In this episode, we discuss betrayal in relationships, how therapeutic polygraphs can help in rebuilding trust and the value of intentional rituals and emotional intimacy to create a strong relationship.  Dr. Douglas Weiss is a psychologist and the founder of Heart to Heart Counseling Center, which specializes in the treatment of sexual addicts, intimacy anorexics and their spouses. He has counseled with sex addicts and their partners for almost three decades. Heart to Heart Counseling Center maintains weekly 3 and 5 Day Intensives that couples fly in from all over the world to attend, dozens of weekly groups, hundreds of weekly appointments with 16 counselors on staff. Dr. Weiss personally continues to provide 5 Day Intensives at the Center. Dr. Weiss has been in recovery for over 34 years, he and all of the counselors at Heart to Heart verify their sobriety with regular polygraphs.   Dr. Weiss has authored more than 40 books and offers 30 therapeutic DVDs for men, women and marriages. He is proud to be the first author to write a book for the partners of sex addicts. Dr. Weiss was the first to coin the term Intimacy Anorexia which is the withholding of emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy in marriage.   He’s been the expert guest on numerous national shows including Oprah, Dr. Phil and Good Morning America. He has had two documentaries, Lifetime TV Network and a British documentary produced about his practice. He is also the President of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT) which is a certification training program for sex addiction, partners of sex addicts, and intimacy anorexia.    In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding more about betrayal in relationships How infidelity can cause intense trauma and various reactions from individuals Why therapeutic polygraphs can help in rebuilding trust and establishing boundaries The need for reassurance and commitment in moving forward The role of self-care and not taking on new responsibilities during healing  Looking at anger as a work exercise Why we need intimacy-building practices and disciplines in relationships The value of intentional rituals and emotional intimacy   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Sep 202334min

Welcome to episode 350 of the Sexology Podcast! I am absolutely delighted to have Sophie Saint Thomas as our guest today. In this episode, we will delve into the fascinating topic of multiple orgasms, explore the rich tapestry of sexual experiences beyond the realm of orgasms, and uncover the crucial role that psychological arousal plays in enhancing overall pleasure.  Sophie Saint Thomas is a New York City-based journalist and author originally from the U.S. Virgin Islands. She is published in GQ, Playboy, VICE, Cosmopolitan, Forbes, Allure, Glamour, Marie Claire, High Times, Nylon, Refinery29, Complex, Harper’s Bazaar, PRIDE Magazine, SELF, and more. Her writing focuses on sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll as well as the occult and other subcultures.   Saint Thomas is the author of multiple books, including Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self-Care, The Little Book of CBD for Self-Care, and Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection.      In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding what constitutes a multiple orgasm Different interpretations: blending of orgasms or having multiple orgasms in one sexual encounter Looking at the diversity of sexual experiences beyond just orgasms The pressure some individuals feel to have explosive orgasms during sex Emphasis on the importance of focusing on pleasure beyond just achieving orgasms The role of psychological arousal in enhancing pleasure Understanding that men may also fake orgasms The concept of women having secrets in different historical contexts Challenges in communication with partners who may not understand a partner's needs Sophie's advice to relax and not put too much pressure on oneself regarding orgasms  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Sep 202333min

Welcome to episode 349 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Ruth Ramsay about strip teasing, ways to create a contrasting story or role to spice things up, how you can experiment with personas for excitement and the importance of prior communication to prevent discomfort.  In 2001, Ruth Ramsay began her journey at the London School of Striptease, forsaking journalism for the empowering allure of the art. Over 12 eventful years, she danced, performed globally, taught, modeled, and advocated for adult entertainment workers' rights. She also championed erotic rights for people with disabilities, earning an Erotic Award.   During this time, Ruth learned unexpected lessons in sexual empowerment. As a striptease teacher, she saw students bloom and audiences embrace their sexuality. This journey boosted confidence and joy across life's facets.   After meeting her soulmate, Ruth left the erotic industry, prioritizing her stepfamily and fitness training. When her stepchildren left for university, she turned to transformational life coaching, lighting the way for others on matters of sexual happiness and identity.   Ruth seamlessly merges her experiences with coaching, providing a safe space for clients to explore desires. Her journey amplifies her non-judgmental approach. Her dance background nurtured unflappability and compassion. Guiding individuals toward sexual and overall empowerment now brings her the fulfillment dance once did.     In this episode, you will hear:  Crafting a narrative breaks routine which can be exciting for a long-term relationship. Ways to create a contrasting story or role to spice things up. How Ruth shifted from strip tease artist to sex educator and coach The challenges in teasing relationships, emphasizing timing and communication. Looking at teasing and seduction adds playfulness and depth. How you can experiment with personas, and scenarios for excitement. Make sure to prioritize your pleasure and excitement too. How the narrative approach engages both partners and builds anticipation. Embrace creativity, communication, and vulnerability for reconnection. The importance of prior communication to prevent discomfort. Why you should keep learning and experimenting in teasing to deepen understanding.    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Competition Winners Eric Kenneth Barry Sutton Brendan McDonnell Jim Kamp Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Aug 202345min

Welcome to episode 348 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Pamela Madsen about the concept of the erotic equation, practicing arousal, expanding pleasure and insights on erotic learning and the ongoing nature of exploration.  At the age of 43, Pamela Madsen's life seemed fulfilling: a devoted marriage that had its roots in young love, two cherished sons, and a thriving career as a prominent advocate addressing fertility challenges. However, beneath the surface, a persistent and restless yearning for something more, something profoundly personal, stirred within her. Despite her deep affection for her husband and a firm stance against infidelity, Pamela recognized an undeniable truth – the need for a significant and transformative change.   In her captivating autobiography titled "Shameless," Pamela Madsen shifts the spotlight onto her own journey. Within its pages, she candidly shares the path she navigated towards a newfound sense of completeness encompassing her sexuality, personal identity, and spiritual being. The memoir delves into intricate and intimate experiences, recounting her encounters with sexual healers – individuals who not only imparted intense pleasure but also became her confidants and allies on this quest for self-discovery.    The essence of this narrative lies in the tale of a woman who, in the process of embracing her true self, encountered profound self-love. "Shameless" not only encapsulates Pamela Madsen's evolution but also extends a compelling invitation to women everywhere to embark on their own voyage of self-discovery and self-love.     In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding the concept of the "erotic equation" The importance of creating excitement and novelty in relationships Using games with partners to explore an eroticism  Looking at touch as a foundation of the erotic experience Exploring massages, breathing, sound, and movement for heightened arousal Paying attention to direction of touch (for self or partner). The significance of open communication, intentionality, and feedback in touch Practicing arousal, creating new normal's, and expanding pleasure Insights on erotic learning and the ongoing nature of exploration.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

22 Aug 202342min

Welcome to episode 347 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey about sex in public, ways to incorporate novelty in relationships, understanding a culture's role in shaping attitudes towards public sex and balancing the thrill of exhibitionism with ethical and legal considerations.  Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is an Advanced GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity) therapist, sex & intimacy coach and psychologist whose expertise lies in working with individuals, couples, and groups to explore their sexuality, gender and relationship styles, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past trauma, as well as create more meaningful, pleasurable, exciting, and authentic intimate relationships.   On a mission to create an open dialogue about sex, relationships, and self-expression, Dr Lori Beth is the specialist relationship therapist guiding couples on Open House: The Great Sex Experiment (Firecracker Films, Channel 4) and the host of the popular podcast The A To Z Of Sex®. She’s also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop/retreat facilitator, and sought-after expert in the media on the topics of sex, relationship style, intimacy, and trauma.   Dr Lori Beth Bisbey has been working with people since 1987 to help them resolve trauma and PTSD and create and maintain superb relationships that contain sizzling sex and without the shame. She grew up in the US and did all over her work for her PhD except her dissertation research there. She emigrated to the United Kingdom in 1990 to marry her first husband, lived in the southeast for 32 years until moving to Scotland in November 2022.     In this episode, you will hear:  Ways to incorporate novelty in relationships Understanding a culture's role in shaping attitudes towards sex in public How the desire to have sex in front of others can be exhibitionism Knowing the distinction between exhibitionism as a fetish and non-consensual acts The importance of consent in public sexual activities Understanding the risks of public sex, including legal consequences Balancing the thrill of exhibitionism with ethical and legal considerations The importance of open communication with partners about fantasies Recommendations for erotica authors and series Enhance fantasies by engaging in erotic talk with your partner  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com/Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

15 Aug 202346min

Welcome to episode 346 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Andrea Balboni. In this episode, we discuss how tantric practices involve a mindful approach to intimacy and sex, emphasizing presence and deep connection with your partner.  Andrea Balboni, is a certified Sex, Love & Couples Coach at Zoë Clews & Associates.She specializes in helping couples create a thriving connected relationship and deeply satisfying intimacy. She also works with single individuals to build their confidence in dating and help them create new healthy relationships.Andrea believes that modern relationships offer us an opportunity to experience pleasure, love and connection as well as an opportunity to heal and to grow. Conflict and challenge can transform into deep connection, understanding and love of another – and also offer valuable insights for a richer self-knowing and awareness within.Andrea looks forward to supporting you in creating a healthy partnership that feels both nourishing and exciting and is pleasure-filled so that it nourishes you body, heart, mind and soul.    In this episode, you will hear:  How tantric practices involve a mindful way of practicing sex and intimacy The way tantric sex focuses on bringing presence to sexual experiences Why eye gazing is a powerful but challenging practice in tantra Understanding tantric practices require an open mind and willingness to learn How you can foster greater intimacy and connection with your partner The way tantric practices involve slowing down and extending foreplay How tantric practices can lead to deeper relaxation and heightened pleasure Why tantric massage is a way to explore sensuality and connection   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Sexual Health Alliance Program  https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

8 Aug 202333min

Welcome to episode 345 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Leigh Cowart. In this episode, we discuss the fascinating world of temperature play and its role in enhancing sensation and pleasure during erotic encounters. Temperature play involves using heat and cold as sensory and emotional intensifiers, ranging from ice cubes, hot wax, fire play, to getting in and out of a hot tub or experiencing cold rain.  Leigh Cowart is a researcher and journalist with more than ten years of experience. They have been writing for Popular Science since 2021. They cover bodies, brains, and what science can teach us about our inner lives.    Cowart’s work has appeared in The Washington Post, New York Magazine, Buzzfeed News, Hazlitt, Wired, and other outlets. Their book, Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, and others. Before becoming a journalist, Cowart was immersed academia, doing research on subjects like sexual dimorphism in leaf-nosed bats and resource allocation in flowers.   Currently, their principal area of interest involves the intersection of inner life and the practical existence of being a body. Cowart’s recent book is an exploration of all the ways humans engage in pain on purpose, why we do it, and what we get out of it. According to The Wall Street Journal, “[t]here’s possibly no one alive more qualified to write about pain than Leigh Cowart.”     In this episode, you will hear:  How temperature play involves using heat and cold as a sensory intensifier It can include using ice cubes, hot wax, fire play Entry-level practices for temperature play  Why safety and trust with a partner are important for exploring temperature play Looking at various products and materials can be used for temperature play Why communication and consent are crucial in temperature play How Ice play, in particular, can be intense and erotic Why education is essential for safe and enjoyable temperature play Looking at Leigh’s book "Hurt So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose"  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Aug 202332min

Welcome to episode 344 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Melanie Curtin. In this episode, we discuss her study on sex problems and experiences with 3000 participants, highlighted the top issues faced by both men and women in their sex lives. For women, pain and difficulty in reaching orgasm were common concerns, while premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction were prominent issues for men. The study also revealed how communication about these challenges played a crucial role in sexual relationships.  Melanie is a sex researcher and men’s coach with a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University.  She is a columnist at Inc. magazine, and has been published or seen on TODAY, Huffington Post, Forbes, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more.  She has been coaching men for over six years, and specializes in bringing a woman’s perspective to men, so they can connect and succeed with women in fun, inviting, and meaningful ways that lead to fulfilling sex and relationships.     In this episode, you will hear:  A look at Melanie’s Curtin study on sex problems and experiences The issues the study looked at and how people faced in their sex lives How women's top sex problems were pain and trouble orgasming Why men faced insecurities about their performance Understanding sexual intimacy and challenges faced by men in relationships How the fear of not getting an erection can lead to erectile dysfunction Why men may avoid physical intimacy if they fear performance issues How delayed ejaculation can be related to emotional safety How men can reclaim their power and address the "nice guy" syndrome The need for healthy boundaries and personal growth  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Juli 202346min