381. Are friendships REALLY meant to be inconvenient?

381. Are friendships REALLY meant to be inconvenient?

Everyone wants a village? No one wants to be a villager? In a world obsessed with protecting our peace, optimising our time, and cutting off anything that feels draining ... have we accidentally made friendship optional? In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology behind friendship and why the best ones sometimes make you work harder.

We explore:

  • The viral idea that “inconvenience is the cost of community”

  • The 4 psychological pillars of lasting friendships

  • How much time it actually takes to build a close friend

  • The rise of therapy-speak and how “boundaries” can sometimes become disguised avoidance

  • Why conflict isn’t the end of a friendship
  • 6 practical ways to “be a villager”

  • When to kick someone out of the village...

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking for too much, giving too much, or slowly drifting from the people you care about, this episode is for you.

Watch on Netflix

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397. The psychology of office politics

397. The psychology of office politics

When we think about office politics, you might think gossip, favouritism, or power plays - the kind of behind-the-scenes drama that makes work feel draining. But office politics isn’t just about one-u...

19 Mars 36min

396. Homesickness

396. Homesickness

Homesickness is more than just “missing home", it's a deep sense of nostalgia, grief, longing and also, as psychology will tell us, a unique kind of stress response. In this episode, we break down the...

16 Mars 34min

395. Is depression just a chemical imbalance?

395. Is depression just a chemical imbalance?

The idea that depression is caused by a “chemical imbalance” is one of the most widely accepted explanations in modern mental health ... but is it actually true? In this bonus episode, we unpack where...

15 Mars 32min

394. What is the pursuer-distancer relationship dynamic?

394. What is the pursuer-distancer relationship dynamic?

When one person tries to get closer to someone else, and the other person pulls away in response, they might be experiencing a pursuer-distancer dynamic. This can create a very painful cycle, where co...

12 Mars 39min

393. The psychology of stoicism

393. The psychology of stoicism

If you heard someone described as stoic, you would probably imagine they were unemotional and repressed, with a stiff upper lip. But stoicism has a PR problem. In fact, stoicism can teach us a lot abo...

9 Mars 37min

392. Why is whimsy so powerful

392. Why is whimsy so powerful

We often dismiss the small, playful things we do to keep life joyful: collecting trinkets, baking for no reason, blowing bubbles, looking for magic. They’re labelled childish, unnecessary, or unseriou...

5 Mars 39min

391. The unconscious vs. conscious mind

391. The unconscious vs. conscious mind

We like to think we’re making conscious choices all day long - but a lot of what drives our reactions, habits, and gut feelings happens outside of awareness. The conscious vs. unconscious mind is a us...

2 Mars 42min

390. The psychology of serial monogamy & relationship hopping

390. The psychology of serial monogamy & relationship hopping

Why do some people seem to move from relationship to relationship with barely any time in between, and why does being single feel almost impossible for them? In this bonus episode, we’re diving into t...

28 Feb 30min

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