Ask Uncut - Everything Is Vetoed

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions!

The start of this episode nearly got vitto-d and maybe it should have stayed that way!

Vibes for the week:
Laura - Leakproof Milk Bralette

Britt - The Interview': The Woman at the Center of the French Rape Trial That Shocked the World- The Daily Podcast

Keeshia - StepsApp added to lock screen widget

Then we jump into your questions!
My HUSBAND IS GAY AND HOW SOON IS TOO SOON
I got married young and about 11 years in, my husband came out to me as bi. Totally fine, not the biggest surprise and at the time he said he didn’t feel the need to act on it. Cut to 12 months later, we had moved cities and were trying to establish our new circle and life. One Saturday he asked me to bring up the weekend newspaper quiz on his phone and I opened it to an app where he had been chatting with men online. He confessed to masturbating with them live online and that he did feel the need to act on it. Cut to six months later, he told me he was gay and we are getting divorced. Funnily this isn’t actually the crux of my question. Truthfully we were on the rocks for a long time, there was no intimacy (shocking I know) and I had been very unhappy.
After we separated officially and some intense tears at saying goodbye to a version of my life that I thought was it, I jumped on the apps for the very first time! After a few non-starters I met a wonderful guy. He is caring, smart and treats me like I am what he has been waiting for. The intimacy is amazing and we have been together for nearly a year. So here it is, this all just feels too good to be true? I mean what are the chances of finding “the one” so soon after my experience?

FRIEND DIDN’T TELL ME ABOUT IVF
My friend just told me she is 6 months pregnant after multiple rounds of IVF, which she never told me about either. She said only people who asked her directly were let in on the secrets and that they’ve all been especially supportive through this tough time. Am I entitled to be annoyed with her because she didn’t share this? Is she entitled to be annoyed with me because I didn’t ask? I’m happy she’s pregnant but annoyed that I haven’t been part of her journey until the last minute!

DO I SHOOT MY SHOT?
Do I shoot my shot at the gym or risk things getting awkward? For reference I go to quite a small group gym (around 35 people per session). I’ve been going for a few months now and ever since I started I’ve noticed this one guy who always goes to the same sessions as me. I’m single, not having any luck on dating apps and am wondering how I could potentially get to know this guy without making things awkward. I have no clue if he’s single or not but have seen him arrive with one of the other girls on a few occasions. I don’t even know how to go about initiating a conversation with him as it’s usually quite separated with girls on one side and guys on the other. So my question is, would you guys shoot your shot and try to get to know him more or is it better to keep things as they are and not make it uncomfortable seeing as we go to all the same classes and see each other most days?

DO YOU HAVE TO RETURN HAND ME DOWN BABY CLOTHES?
I would love your opinion on this. I have a friend who gave me some hand me down clothes for my youngest son, to which I am forever grateful for as I am a single mum of two. However, I’ve just received a message from the friend saying “Hey next time you do a wardrobe clean out, can you just put away whatever I gave you because I want to take it back. I’m starting to collect stuff to give to my brother in law because they’re going to start trying next year.” Now the problem is, I’ve given away most of the baby clothes. I never expected to see them again nor did I expect that I was going to return them to her. So am I right in thinking this is a really weird request? Some of the clothes I’ve donated, some I’ve given to other people. I didn’t realise that she would need them back. Do I tell her that I donated them? How do I navigate this and am I in the wrong?

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