79: Lifestyle Lingo

Ever feel like the lifestyle has its own language? Well… you’re not wrong.

In this bonus T&A Alphabet Series episode, we’re breaking down some of the most common and less common terms used in swinging and the lifestyle, including:

• What “the lifestyle” actually means—and the different names people use (like libertine)
• Common roles and dynamics (hotwife, stag/vixen, unicorn, bull, OPP)
• Types of play and what they involve (soft swap, hard swap, same room play)
• Events, parties, and how people connect
• Consent, communication, and safety language (hard & soft limits, full consent culture, aftercare)
• Sexual and other terms (voyeur, DP, bukkake, “take one for the team”)

All of this is designed to help you feel more confident and informed as you explore—whether you’re brand new or already have some experience.

And as we’ve said throughout this series, it’s always important to ask people what their definitions are—because these terms can mean different things to different people.

Show Resources:

• Contribute to our T&A Sex Clubs, Lifestyle Destinations & Communities Around the World List - https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1t8DzYsOJSQ0g1cboAuBl_ibFYQGwpHoiEO-JdriKUjA/edit?usp=sharing
• Looking for therapy? Arrange a complimentary therapy consultation with André at ⁠⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠⁠
• Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: ⁠⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠⁠

• Poly Newbies Digital Course Listener Offer - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠
• The Little Book of Poly Love 💖 Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s published and pops into the world: ⁠⁠https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist⁠⁠
• Episode 69: Consent is Sexy: Why Enthusiastic Consent is so Important - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RzCDuhK9yMM3GgkU5ebPg?si=ObHEGONiTCyFgCF6Q-oo7g

• Episode 64: K is for KINK, Kitchen Table Polyamory & Kissing - https://open.spotify.com/episode/7FOrTjvfhxOB2Il9BLoNwc?si=GdwcjFa1Sn-qWcg2Ikspgw
• Unicorns & Unicorn Hunting: Can it be Ethical? https://open.spotify.com/episode/5TI3NNE3H5JxlwzopWqM1Z?si=hRQsZ47bQASGDRf3KDCnFg