The Silence Around Male Survivors: Shame, Sex, and What We’re Not Talking About with Duncan Craig

The topic of male sexual abuse and sexual harms is still a largely unspoken one, so where do victims and survivors go to get support?

In this episode, I’m joined by Duncan Craig OBE founder of We Are Survivors, to explore a conversation that is so often missing—male experiences of sexual trauma, and the long shadow it can cast across identity, relationships, and sex.

We talk about the gaps in support, the weight of shame, and why so many men live with these experiences in silence for years, often without language, visibility, or spaces that feel safe enough to speak. This isn’t just about what happens in the immediate aftermath of trauma, but about the lifelong impact—and what it means for survivors' relationships with themselves and others over time.

We also go into the complexities that sit underneath this subject: masculinity, sexuality, consent, and the parts of the conversation that feel hardest to say out loud; and what good support and care for victims and survivors can look like when it's done well.

Trigger Warning : This conversation contains regular reference to sexual abuse and trauma, and has references to self harm and suicide.

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