Episode 165 - The Good Girl Rules are a High-Demand System

Episode 165 - The Good Girl Rules are a High-Demand System

A high-demand system is any structure that requires a significant amount of your time, energy, and identity in exchange for belonging. We often think about high-demand religions, workplaces, families, or cultures, but there is one system that is hard to recognize because it’s so ingrained in society that it just feels like the way things are supposed to be: the good girl rules. The unspoken expectations women absorb throughout their lives function like any other high-demand system. They reward compliance, create fear around stepping outside the rules, and keep us so focused on being good enough that we never get the chance to fully discover who we are. But understanding the systems we live in is the first step toward finding our way back to ourselves. Here’s what I cover:


  • The characteristics that most high-demand systems have in common
  • How high-demand systems reward compliance and discourage deviation from the rules
  • Examples of high-demand systems and the ways they shape identity and belonging
  • Three of the biggest things women lose when living by the good girl rules
  • Questions to help you examine the systems you live in and what they may cost you


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