The ENM DNM9 Juli 2025

Episode 2: Navigating The Early Days of ENM

Episode 2: Initial Struggles with ENM

Starting out in ethical non-monogamy can feel like learning to walk on a tightrope—in the dark, with no map. We’ve been there.

What we talk about in this episode:

In this episode, we get real about the messy, confusing, and sometimes magical first six months of navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM). From awkward first dates and emotional overwhelm to finding community and unlearning monogamy norms, we share the stuff people don’t always talk about. Whether you’re newly polyamorous, deep in open relationships, or just curious about relationship structures outside the mainstream, this one’s for you. What We Talk About:

Our first steps into ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and polyamory
Where we looked for information, advice, and emotional support
Early emotional challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and loneliness
The cultural and queer identity layers that shaped our experiences
How support groups, dating apps, and community events helped (or didn’t)
Good advice, bad advice, and everything in between
Personal reflections, resilience, and learning to sit with discomfort
What we wish we’d known when we were starting out in ENM

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