The ENM DNM9 Juli 2025

Episode 3: Intersectionality and ENM

Episode 3: Intersectionality and ENM

What happens when your queerness, culture, neurodivergence, and upbringing all collide with ethical non-monogamy? We’re talking about the beautiful mess that is intersectionality. In this episode, we explore how identity shapes the way we show up in ethical non-monogamy (ENM). From growing up in religious households or navigating white privilege to being queer, neurodivergent, or culturally “othered,” we get real about how our histories affect our desires, relationships, and sense of belonging in polyamorous and open relationship spaces. This is one for anyone who's ever wondered, "Am I doing this right?" or "Is it just me?" (Spoiler: it’s not.)

What We Talk About:

How race, culture, gender, and queerness influence our experiences in ENM
The impact of religious and conservative upbringings on identity and relationships
Shame, internalised norms, and how we begin to unlearn them
The role of gender identity and sexuality in open relationships
Navigating ENM while feeling “not queer enough” or “too much”
Relationship structures beyond the mainstream
Friendship, intimacy, and redefining what connection means
Vulnerability, self-discovery, and making space for change

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The Ethical Slut (book)

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