How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life

What actually separates good sex from great sex? Spoiler: it's not the positions, the toys, or the techniques.

In this episode, sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes and Jay-Jay Feeney get into the real foundations of hot sex, and it turns out most of us have been thinking about it completely wrong. Mel introduces her erotic mind mapping method, breaks down the three types of desire (and why most women experience desire very differently to men), and explains why safety, connection, and communication are the actual ingredients for the best sex of your life.

Plus: JJ gets her first Pleasure Practice assignment live on air, and it gets surprisingly vulnerable.

This is sex education for real humans in real relationships. No pressure. No porn scripts. Just honest conversation.

For adults 18+. Headphones recommended.

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Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

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Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

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Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.

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