#163 Control Isn't Safety: Understanding the Parent-Child Dynamic After Betrayal

If you've been checking your partner's location for the fifth time in an hour - or waiting for your spouse to hand you a roadmap to your own recovery - this episode is for you.

The parent-child dynamic is one of the most common and least talked about patterns that forms after betrayal. It makes complete sense that it develops. And staying in it will cost you both.

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