You Can’t Regulate Love If You Abandon Yourself

In this episode of Trigger Proof with Mikki Bey: An Emotional Regulation Podcast, Mikki sits down with Torah Cents, emotional wellness educator and relationship guide, for a deeply honest conversation about why love becomes dysregulated when we abandon ourselves.

In “You Can’t Regulate Love If You Abandon Yourself,” Mikki and Torah explore how self-abandonment shows up in dating, relationships, and attachment patterns — especially for high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women who appear confident on the outside but feel anxious, unseen, or overextended in love.

Torah shares insight into how many relationship struggles aren’t about compatibility, communication, or “choosing better,” but about a nervous system that has learned to prioritize connection over safety. Together, they unpack how emotional regulation, boundaries, and self-trust are the real foundation of healthy love.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How self-abandonment quietly shapes your dating and relationship patterns

• The nervous system’s role in attachment, anxiety, and emotional reactivity in love

• Why emotional regulation is essential for secure relationships

• How to stop over-giving, people-pleasing, and ignoring your own needs

• What it means to choose yourself without shutting down intimacy

• How to move from anxious attachment to grounded, regulated connection

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating dating fatigue, relationship anxiety, emotional burnout, or repeating unhealthy patterns in love. If you want relationships rooted in safety, clarity, and self-trust — not survival or self-sacrifice — this conversation will meet you right where you are.

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