Why Success Never Feels Like Enough

Why Success Never Feels Like Enough

Do you find yourself chasing success, working long hours, doing far more than is required, and thinking about work all the time? Congratulations—you might be a workaholic. (There’s no trophy for this, by the way. I checked.)

In this episode of Office Hours, I dig into what workaholism is, where it comes from, and why it can be so damaging to your happiness and relationships. We discuss the connection between work addiction and the belief that love has to be earned (which turns out to be a surprisingly ineffective strategy). There’s good news: I also share three practical steps you can take to break the cycle, become more present for your loved ones, and find the deeper sources of happiness, meaning, and connection that no promotion will ever give you.

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(05:58) Why workaholism is so destructive

(09:31) Work culture in Spain vs. the U.S.

(11:11) The three classic signs of workaholism

(12:26) Why people become workaholics

(13:42) Four more signs of work addiction

(15:01) Intrinsic rewards vs. extrinsic rewards

(24:59) A thought experiment about intrinsic and extrinsic rewards

(27:52) Where workaholism comes from

(33:04) How to break your work addiction—Step 1: Face the truth

(34:39) Step 2: Give what you most want to receive

(36:02) Step 3: Make plans to change

(38:12) Summary of the three steps

(39:20) Q&A: The grief of divorce vs. death

(40:35) Q&A: Coping with betrayal


Referenced:

• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: http://themeaningofyourlife.com

• Meaning Membership: https://hub.arthurbrooks.com/the-meaning-membership

• Arthur’s newsletter: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/newsletter

• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale

• The Pursuit of Happiness with Arthur Brooks: https://www.thefp.com/s/the-pursuit-of-happiness-with-arthur

• Workaholism: definition, measurement, and preliminary results: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16370875

• Workload, Workaholism, and Job Performance: Uncovering Their Complex Relationship: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7557789

• PANAS quiz: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/quiz/panas

• 3 Steps to Managing Your Emotions: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/podcast/3-steps-to-managing-your-emotions

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