Ep. 464: The Mindf*cks of Motherhood: Mom Friends, “You’re So Lucky,” and Not Missing Your Old Life Solocast with HeHe Stewart

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In this solo episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe gets real about three things that completely caught her off guard in motherhood now that she's 6-7 months postpartum.

She opens up about how becoming a mom unexpectedly changed her friendships, why some of the people she thought would show up haven't, and how fellow moms have become some of her biggest sources of support. She also shares the surprising emotions that come up when people chalk her postpartum experience, baby's temperament, sleep, or travel success up to "luck" instead of recognizing the intentional, evidence-based choices behind them.

Finally, HeHe reflects on something she never expected to feel: how little she misses her pre-baby life. While motherhood has absolutely stretched and challenged her, she talks honestly about why she's never wanted to "go back," how becoming Saggy's mom has shifted her priorities, and what it's looked like to intentionally build a life and business that support both her family and the community she loves serving.

If you've ever wondered whether your friendships will change after baby, felt frustrated when your hard work gets dismissed as luck, or found yourself navigating the identity shift that comes with becoming a parent, this episode is an honest reminder that you're not alone. It might just leave you feeling a little more seen.

00:00 Three Things I Can’t Shake

00:57 Free Advocacy Scripts

04:12 Explicit Language Warning

04:32 Mindfucks of Motherhood Intro

05:37 Mom Friends Shift

08:47 Friendships After Baby

11:08 Offended by “Lucky”

18:15 Intentional Parenting Not Luck

25:13 Missing Old Life Less

32:18 Wrap Up and Where to Follow

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BIRTH EDUCATION:

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