112: What Does Success Really Mean? A Conversation on Purpose, Money and Self-Worth

In this warm, wide-ranging conversation, Heather reunites with her good friend Sadie Beyl, founder of From Mourning to Light, for a follow-up to their earlier episode - this time turning their attention to a single, deceptively simple question: what does it actually mean to be successful? The conversation moves from Heather's decision to never "retire" from work that is inseparable from who she is, into something far more personal: the "inner glass ceiling" she's identified in her own life, built from childhood beliefs about class, visibility, and worth that shaped not only her relationships but her relationship with money and success. Heather traces this back to growing up in the north of England, caught between two worlds, and to a school culture where being seen at all felt unsafe. Sadie, in turn, shares the story behind her own path - the sudden loss of her husband Paul, the grief that followed, and the guidance that led her, step by unplanned step, from architecture into the healing work she does today. Together, they land on a shared understanding: real success isn't a number or a milestone, it's following your own guidance in service of others, and it starts with the same inner healing that transforms our love relationships, extended outward to how we relate to money, visibility, and even the wider world.

Key Takeaways

• Success isn't retirement - it's alignment. Heather doesn't measure success against entrepreneurial milestones, but against whether she's following her own guidance and staying in service to others.
• The same blocks that limit love can limit money and visibility. Heather introduces the idea of an "inner glass ceiling" - core beliefs from family, class, culture, and identity that quietly cap what we believe we're allowed to have or be seen for.
• You don't need the whole map - just the next step. Sadie's path from grief into her life's work unfolded one guided step at a time, without a five-year plan, showing that purpose can emerge through trust rather than certainty.
• Self-responsibility ripples outward. Both Heather and Sadie return to the same idea: healing your relationship with yourself changes your relationship with money, with your partner, and - scaled up - with the wider world.
• Being a "channel" requires the willingness, not just the gift. Whether through coaching, reiki, or intuitive guidance, both women describe their work as something that moves through them, held safely by their own healing and training.

Referenced in this episode

• Heather's new programme, Conscious Business Success, addressing money, visibility, and success blocks
• Sadie Beyl's From Mourning to Light transformation courses and online events
• Tony Robbins' Unleash the Power Within
• Heather and Sadie's earlier Valentine's Day conversation on relationships (linked on heathergarbutt.com)

About Sadie Beyl

Sadie Beyl is a spiritual grief guide and the founder of the From Mourning to Light online grief summits, which bring together diverse speakers and authors to explore how people rebuild meaningful lives after the death of a loved one. A former professional architect who ran her own practice in Cape Town with her husband, Paul, Sadie now supports those in grief through her 10-Week Transformation Workshop, meditation, mindfulness, Angel card readings, and past life regression sessions. She hosts From Mourning to Light Conversations, a companion podcast to the summits.

About Your Host

Heather Garbutt is a psychotherapist, love coach and accredited Calling In The One practitioner with over twenty years of experience working with women on love, relationships and the interior work that makes lasting change possible.
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