The Basics of Hate-Scrolling (w/ Yassir Lester, Chelsea Devantez, & Alaska Thunderfuck)

Joel Kim Booster brings together three guests he’s almost scared to put in the same room — writer/actor Yassir Lester, writer-director Chelsea Devantez, and Drag Race All Star Season 2 Winner, Alaska Thunderfuck — to dig into how online identity messes with real-life relationships. The icebreaker is pulled straight from Chelsea’s movie Basic: name the person you hate-scroll most. The group swaps stories on jealousy-fueled Instagram deep-dives, building an entire villain out of an ex’s social media, and the specific chaos of getting deep-liked years after a breakup. Alaska shares the surreal experience of getting DMs after announcing her engagement, ranking her fiancé against her ex (“in the bedroom too”). Plus: where to draw the line between staying authentic online and protecting your partner from strangers with opinions.

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Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix)

Alaska: @theonlyalaska5000 · Mary Todd Lincoln in Oh Mary! · Drag Race All Stars Season 2 Winner (Paramount+) · Race Chaser Podcast

Chelsea Devantez: @chelseadevantez · Basic Short Film · Author of I Shouldn't Be Telling You This (But I'm Going To Anyway) · Glamorous Trash: A Celebrity Memoir

Yassir Lester: @yassir_lester · The Gutter (Hulu) · Black Monday (Netflix) · Substack

Produced by Brian Baldinger and Anne Harris. Associate Producers are Maddie McCann and Katherine Calligori. Editor is Jacob Vaus. Executive Producers are Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes, Robert Cohen, Richard Korson and Bernie Kaminski.

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