The Resentment Sandwich (Resentment, People Pleasing & Owning Your Shit)

The Resentment Sandwich (Resentment, People Pleasing & Owning Your Shit)

What are you feeding yourself?

Years ago, I was standing in my kitchen making jelly toast for toddler Parker while absolutely SEETHING with resentment about the general bullshit imbalance of motherhood.

Then I watched his tiny little hand pick up a piece and thought: Oh my God. I just fed this baby a resentment sandwich.

And yes, I know resentment is not an actual condiment.

But that moment changed the way I thought about emotional regulation, people pleasing, and what it actually means to take responsibility for your own shit.

Because we like to think that as long as we aren't yelling at anyone, our resentment, anxiety, anger, shame, and fear are ours alone.

They're not.

We bring what we're carrying into the room.

In this episode, we're talking about what resentment is actually trying to tell you, why nervous system regulation lets you care deeply without being consumed by everything you care about, and a version of self-love that is a whole lot less floofy than you might think:

Stop feeding yourself shit you would never feed someone you love.

You don't need to never feel messy emotions.

You just need to notice what's on the knife before you spread it all over everything.

Do no harm. Take no shit. Eat no shit.

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