How To Navigate Hard Conversations with Jefferson Fisher

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Have you ever taught others how to communicate, but still lost it in your own kitchen?

What if the best communicators in the world are still works in progress, and that's exactly the point?

Jefferson Fisher is a board-certified trial attorney, NY Times bestselling author of The Next Conversation, and one of themost-followed voices on communication online. Behind the millions of views is a husband, a dad, and a fifth-generation attorney from small-town Texas still figuring it out in real time. In this conversation, Miles and Jefferson get into the real stuff — a flooded house, a morning fight, imposter syndrome, and why even the best communicators still have to earn their reps every day.

Jefferson opens up about the moment being a public-facing person started changing his everyday life, why going to extremes in arguments almost never works, and the phrase his wife came up with mid-argument that changed how he sees conflict. Miles shares a raw moment from his kitchen and what happened when he finally stopped doubling down and let his wife bring the temperature down.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

How to Enter Hard Conversations with Something to Learn, Not Something to Prove
How the Ignition and Cooling Phases Work in Real Arguments
Why Affirming a Feeling First Is the Most Disarming Move You Can Make
How Vulnerability Builds More Trust Than Any Credential on the Wall
How to Stop Going to Extremes in Conflict and What to Do Instead
Why the Best at Being Human Learn It From Living, Not Studying
How to Tell the Difference Between a Reaction and a Repair
How Fame Makes the Very Things You Teach Harder to Practice
Why What's Good for the Family Is Good for the Business
How to Let Go of the Conversation You Had Scripted in Your Head

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What We Discuss:

00:00:00 - Meet Jefferson Fisher

00:03:54 - What law school doesn’t teach

00:04:42 - How a trial attorney became a communication voice

00:06:09 - Small Town Silsby, Texas

00:08:14 - 800 friends to millions of strangers

00:10:24 - Contrast is the unlock for building an audience

00:27:17 - IBC Root Beer & A Story Told Twice

00:12:33 - His Dad Raised Him with Questions, not Answers

00:19:57 - Imposter Syndrome feels different when your job istalking

00:23:42 - Does he actually use any of this at home?

00:29:18 - Miles's morning: A flooded house, a fight, and arepair

00:38:08 - Ignition and cooling phases in action

00:39:51 - The one move that stops almost any argument

00:45:08 - One Take Videos: Just being Real on Camera

00:47:45 - Have something to learn, not something to prove

00:53:33 - Surrender as a daily practice

00:57:19 - Even the experts are still chasing the tools theyteach

01:01:48 - Why therapists send clients Jefferson's book

01:06:41 - What Jefferson doesn't like about therapy

01:14:26 - ‘Either way, it's good’— the phrase that reframed conflict

01:15:39 - Embarrassment makes men double down instead of own it

01:19:38 - Jefferson’s Motto on Choosing What’s Next

01:21:05 - Projects in the works from Jefferson

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