“He Saved Us” — Or Did He? Gilgo Killer's Wife, Asa Ellerup’s Love Story Examined by FBI Profiler
“He Saved Us” — Or Did He? Gilgo Killer's Wife, Asa Ellerup’s Love Story Examined by FBI Profiler In Segment 2 of our deep-dive into the Gilgo Beach case, Tony Brueski and retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke turn their focus to the beginning — the origin story of Asa Ellerup and Rex Heuermann’s relationship. What started as an act of kindness during Asa’s divorce quickly evolved into a lifelong partnership built, perhaps, on imbalance. She was young, vulnerable, in need of support. He was strong, stable, and offered her something she desperately craved: a sense of family and emotional safety. But beneath that surface — according to experts and prosecutors — may have been something else entirely. Robin Dreeke examines the early dynamics of Asa and Rex’s bond, including key psychological indicators of emotional grooming, dependency, and how empathy can be weaponized by manipulators. Using real behavioral science and decades of field experience, Dreeke breaks down why Rex may have been drawn to Asa—not out of love, but for how perfectly she fit into the hidden life he needed to maintain. We also explore the concept of “lack of curiosity,” a recurring behavioral trait Dreeke believes allowed Rex to operate in plain sight. This episode dissects key parts of the Peacock documentary that showcase Asa’s perspective on her marriage, the home they shared, and the vault of secrets that sat quietly beneath their feet. If you’re interested in the psychological mechanisms predators use to stay hidden—and the painful cost to the people closest to them—this segment offers a hauntingly clear window into how it all begins. Hashtags: #GilgoBeach #AsaEllerup #RexHeuermann #FBIProfiler #TrueCrimePodcast #RobinDreeke #EmotionalGrooming #SerialKillerPsychology #HiddenKillers #PeacockDocumentary Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
24 Juni 23min
Rex Heuermann's Wife SHOWS OFF Secret Rooms She Was BANNED From Entering | "Nothing Was Off Limits"
Rex Heuermann's Wife SHOWS OFF Secret Rooms She Was BANNED From Entering | "Nothing Was Off Limits" This footage will make you question everything about denial and control. Psychotherapist Shavaun Scott analyzes the most contradictory statements ever captured as Rex Heuermann's wife gives a tour of rooms she was BANNED from entering while claiming "nothing was off limits." Watch as Asa Ellerup shows us: The gun room with a STEEL DOOR and combination lock The "secret room" under the stairs she couldn't access for 27 YEARS The basement where prosecutors believe women were murdered Her dismissal of murder planning documents as "Dexter style" fiction Most disturbing: She demonstrates these locked spaces while insisting Rex kept no secrets. This is "doublethink" - holding two contradictory beliefs simultaneously. Key psychological insights: Why Asa closes her eyes when confronted with evidence How she was the "4th person in 30 years" to enter the gun room Her claim investigators are "picking, picking, picking" to create a narrative The childhood bedroom where murders allegedly occurred How denial can override physical locked doors in your own home This isn't just about one woman's denial - it's about recognizing control patterns: ✓ Locked rooms you can't enter ✓ No access to finances ✓ Complete isolation from support ✓ Normalized abnormal behavior Victoria Heuermann now believes her father is "most likely" guilty. Asa continues visiting him weekly, maintaining his innocence despite DNA evidence linking him to seven murders. #RexHeuermann #GilgoBeachKiller #AsaEllerup #TrueCrime #LockedRooms #SerialKiller #PsychologicalAnalysis #BodyLanguage #Denial #LongIslandSerialKiller Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
24 Juni 18min
10 Signs Alleged Gilgo Beach Killer, Rex Heuermann’s Family Missed — Behavioral Analysis from the FBI
10 Signs Alleged Gilgo Beach Killer, Rex Heuermann’s Family Missed — Behavioral Analysis from the FBI In this gripping first segment, retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke—former chief of the Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program—joins Tony Brueski to explore the disturbing paradox at the center of the Gilgo Beach case: How did Rex Heuermann’s family not know? Asa Ellerup, Rex’s longtime wife, has become one of the most controversial figures in the case—not because she’s accused of anything—but because of what she didn’t see. In this episode, Dreeke walks us through her emotional profile, behavioral patterns, and the psychological traits that may have made her the perfect partner for a man allegedly living a double life. We examine key footage from Peacock’s The Gilgo Beach Killer: Secrets of a Serial Killer and discuss the FBI’s view of how people like Heuermann are able to manipulate those closest to them. Dreeke explains how serial predators often seek out partners who lack curiosity, who prioritize stability over questions, and who are more likely to rationalize away red flags in the name of love or loyalty. Is Asa a victim herself? Was she chosen for her trust, her dependence, or simply her desire to believe the best in someone? This segment breaks down not just her words, but her behaviors, her relationships, and the life she thought she was living—until the knock on the door that changed everything. If you’ve ever wondered how evil hides in plain sight, this is a conversation you don’t want to miss. Hashtags: #GilgoBeach #RexHeuermann #AsaEllerup #TrueCrimeAnalysis #FBIProfiler #HiddenKillers #RobinDreeke #SerialKillerMindset #PeacockDocumentary #DenialAndDeception Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
23 Juni 16min
"I Finally Got Him, He's Mine" - Rex Heuermann's Wife STILL Worships Accused Gilgo Beach Killer
"I Finally Got Him, He's Mine" - Rex Heuermann's Wife STILL Worships Accused Gilgo Beach Killer This might be the most disturbing analysis of denial ever captured on film. Psychotherapist Shavaun Scott joins me to decode footage from the Peacock documentary that reveals how Rex Heuermann didn't just hunt his victims - he carefully selected and groomed his own wife as the perfect enabler. We examine Asa Ellerup's transformation from vulnerable 18-year-old to devoted wife who STILL calls Rex her "hero" despite overwhelming evidence linking him to seven murders. This goes beyond simple denial - we're witnessing a trauma bond so powerful it's created an alternate reality. Shocking revelations include: How Rex allegedly killed Sandra Costilla BEFORE marrying Asa in 1996 Every murder occurred when Asa took the family to Iceland Rex monitored all devices and controlled every penny for 27 years Asa had NO access to bank accounts when he was arrested She took $1 MILLION for the documentary while victims' families struggle Daughter Victoria now creates "disturbing artwork" processing trauma The basement where women allegedly died is where Asa "still feels Rex" Most chilling: Prosecutors found Rex's murder planning document from 2000 with notes about "maintaining normal appearance." Was marrying Asa part of the plan? Was she chosen specifically because she'd never question, never suspect, never see? This isn't just one woman's denial - it's a masterclass in how predators identify vulnerability and create enablers who'll defend them even against DNA evidence. Content Warning: Detailed discussion of serial murder, psychological manipulation, and extreme denial #RexHeuermann #GilgoBeachKiller #AsaEllerup #TrueCrime #LongIslandSerialKiller #TraumaBonding #PeacockDocumentary #SerialKillerPsychology #TrueCrimeCommunity #CriminalMinds Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
23 Juni 20min
Living With a Serial Killer FBI Expert Explains How Rex Heuermann Hid Seven Murders From Family-WEEK IN REVIEW
Welcome to the "Week in Review," where we delve into the true stories behind this week's headlines. Your host, Tony Brueski, joins hands with a rotating roster of guests, sharing their insights and analysis on a collection of intriguing, perplexing, and often chilling stories that made the news. This is not your average news recap. With the sharp investigative lens of Tony and his guests, the show uncovers layers beneath the headlines, offering a comprehensive perspective that traditional news can often miss. From high-profile criminal trials to in-depth examinations of ongoing investigations, this podcast takes listeners on a fascinating journey through the world of true crime and current events. Each episode navigates through multiple stories, illuminating their details with factual reporting, expert commentary, and engaging conversation. Tony and his guests discuss each case's nuances, complexities, and human elements, delivering a multi-dimensional understanding to their audience. Whether you are a dedicated follower of true crime, or an everyday listener interested in the stories shaping our world, the "Week in Review" brings you the perfect balance of intrigue, information, and intelligent conversation. Expect thoughtful analysis, informed opinions, and thought-provoking discussions beyond the 24-hour news cycle. Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
22 Juni 16min
FBI Profiler Why Gilgo Beach Killer Kept Murder Trophies and a Kill Manual for 20 Years-WEEK IN REVIEW
Welcome to the "Week in Review," where we delve into the true stories behind this week's headlines. Your host, Tony Brueski, joins hands with a rotating roster of guests, sharing their insights and analysis on a collection of intriguing, perplexing, and often chilling stories that made the news. This is not your average news recap. With the sharp investigative lens of Tony and his guests, the show uncovers layers beneath the headlines, offering a comprehensive perspective that traditional news can often miss. From high-profile criminal trials to in-depth examinations of ongoing investigations, this podcast takes listeners on a fascinating journey through the world of true crime and current events. Each episode navigates through multiple stories, illuminating their details with factual reporting, expert commentary, and engaging conversation. Tony and his guests discuss each case's nuances, complexities, and human elements, delivering a multi-dimensional understanding to their audience. Whether you are a dedicated follower of true crime, or an everyday listener interested in the stories shaping our world, the "Week in Review" brings you the perfect balance of intrigue, information, and intelligent conversation. Expect thoughtful analysis, informed opinions, and thought-provoking discussions beyond the 24-hour news cycle. Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
22 Juni 12min
She Called Him 'Hero' While He Allegedly Killed 7 Women: FBI Expert Analyzes Asa Ellerup's Denial
She Called Him 'Hero' While He Allegedly Killed 7 Women: FBI Expert Analyzes Asa Ellerup's Denial Description: In one of the most psychologically complex aspects of the Gilgo Beach murders case, Asa Ellerup continues to stand by her husband Rex Heuermann, calling him her "hero" despite charges he murdered seven women. She describes visiting him in jail as feeling like "a first date" - nervous and excited. Former FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke provides unprecedented analysis of this profound denial and what it reveals about trauma, love, and the human capacity for self-deception. While daughter Victoria has concluded her father is "most likely" the Gilgo Beach killer after seeing overwhelming evidence, Asa tours the basement where prosecutors allege murders occurred and dismisses the theory as "absolutely absurd" and "Dexter-style." This stark family divide offers a real-time case study in how different people process the same devastating information. Dreeke, former head of the FBI's Behavioral Analysis Program, explains the psychological mechanisms behind such powerful denial: trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, and the mind's protective ability to reject information that would shatter one's entire worldview. He discusses how 27 years of marriage create a "truth infrastructure" that's almost impossible to demolish, even when faced with damning evidence including DNA links, a murder planning document, and trophy collections. The conversation delves into the broader implications for anyone who's ever wondered "Would I know?" Dreeke reveals why intelligent, observant people can miss signs of deception from those closest to them, and what this case teaches us about the difference between healthy trust and dangerous denial. He also addresses the financial and emotional factors that might influence Asa's public stance, including her battle with cancer without insurance and participation in a controversial documentary. This episode is essential listening for anyone grappling with betrayal, those supporting family members in denial, or anyone seeking to understand how love can blind us to terrible truths. Hashtags: #AsaEllerup #RexHeuermann #GilgoBeachKiller #Denial #TraumaBonding #FBIProfiler #RobinDreeke #TrueCrime #PsychologicalDenial #CognitiveDissonnace #SerialKillerWife #FamilyBetrayal #TrueCrimePodcast #StandingByYourMan #LongIslandSerialKiller #LISK #CrimePsychology #RelationshipBlindness #ToxicLoyalty #BehavioralAnalysis #TrueCrimeCommunity #WomenInDenial #MarriageAndMurder #FamilyTrauma #JusticeForVictims Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
18 Juni 29min
Living With a Serial Killer: FBI Expert Explains How Rex Heuermann Hid 7 Murders From Family
Living With a Serial Killer: FBI Expert Explains How Rex Heuermann Hid 7 Murders From Family Description: How does a man accused of brutally murdering seven women over three decades hide such horrific crimes from the family sleeping under the same roof? In this eye-opening interview, former FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke, who led the Bureau's Behavioral Analysis Program, breaks down the sophisticated psychological mechanisms that allow serial killers to compartmentalize their lives. Rex Heuermann, a 61-year-old Manhattan architect, allegedly maintained two completely separate existences - devoted family man in Massapequa Park by day, predator hunting vulnerable women by night. His wife of 27 years, Asa Ellerup, continues to support him, while his daughter Victoria now believes he's "most likely" guilty. This family divide offers a unique window into how deception operates in long-term relationships. Dreeke explains the concept of "truth-default state" - why spouses detect lies at only 50% accuracy, essentially no better than a coin flip. He reveals how environmental factors like suburban normalcy and professional success create cognitive dissonance that prevents family members from recognizing warning signs. The discussion covers specific patterns Heuermann allegedly used: only killing when family was out of town, using multiple burner phones, and maintaining strict operational security that ultimately failed him. Drawing parallels to other cases like BTK killer Dennis Rader, Dreeke provides crucial insights for listeners about red flags in relationships: secretive technology use, unexplained absences, compartmentalized friendships, and subtle personality shifts. He addresses the haunting question every family member asks: "How did I not know?" This episode is particularly valuable for women concerned about relationship safety, offering practical advice on when privacy becomes concerning secrecy and how to strengthen intuition without becoming paranoid. Dreeke's expertise in trust assessment and human behavior provides listeners with tools to protect themselves while understanding the complex trauma faced by families of accused killers. Hashtags: #SerialKillerPsychology #RexHeuermann #GilgoBeachMurders #FBIBehavioralAnalysis #RobinDreeke #TrueCrime #Compartmentalization #DoubleLife #FamilyTrauma #CriminalPsychology #RelationshipRedFlags #TrueCrimePodcast #AsaEllerup #VictoriaHeuermann #SerialKillerFamily #DeceptionDetection #LISK #LongIslandSerialKiller #TrueCrimeCommunity #PsychologicalManipulation #DomesticDeception #CrimeAnalysis #BehavioralProfiling #TrustYourGut #WomensSafety Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872
17 Juni 16min
