35. What Men Really Hear When You Ask Them to Do the Work with Keith McGuinnes

One Step Back, Two Steps Forward: A Man's Journey Into Love

In this episode, Leen sits down with her co-teacher and fellow intimacy coach Keith McGuinness for an honest, warm, and practical conversation about a common dynamic in relationships: the woman who is ready to go deeper, and the man who says everything is fine.

Keith has been exploring sexual and relational healing for nearly 20 years. He works with men and couples, and together with Leen he co-teaches Unstoppable Lovers, a four month couples program that transforms how partners experience sex, communication, and love.

What you will hear in this episode:

Why most men access only 5% of the intimacy and pleasure available to them, and what opens up when that changes.

What a man actually hears when his woman invites him to do relationship work, and why his resistance is not about not caring.

How widening the definition of s3x beyond penetration and orgasm changes a man's confidence, his energy, and his relationship with his own body.

Why sexual energy, when not expended through ejaculation, becomes creative life force that shows up in his work, presence, and aliveness.

The difference between being emotionally available and emotionally overflowing.

How to say no to s3x in a way that keeps the door open and honors your man's desire without abandoning yourself.

What it means to master your s3xual energy, and why it makes a man a better human, not just a better lover.

How to invite your man into growth from your longing instead of your complaint.

Why men need other men, and what becomes possible in a men-only space.

About Keith McGuinness:

Keith is a sex, relationship, and intimacy coach based in Colorado. He met Leen in Thailand in 2016, and they have collaborated ever since. He co-teaches the men's sessions inside Unstoppable Lovers.

Links mentioned:

Unstoppable Lovers: https://leen-s.com/unstoppable-lovers

Ignite free masterclass: https://leen-s.com/ignite

Keith McGuinness: https://www.awakenintimacy.com

Leen's website: https://www.leen-s.com

Questions: hi@leen-s.com

If this episode moved something in you, share it with a couple you love and leave a review. If you are ready to go on this journey with your partner, the link to book a connection call for Unstoppable Lovers is in the show notes.

About Leen S:

Leen is a Belgian born International Facilitator with roots in yoga, tantra, and conscious relating. As a certified Sex, Love and Relationship VITA coach, breath-work facilitator, and 500 hour certified tantric Hatha Yoga Teacher, she has spent 10 years guiding thousands of people to awaken to the power of their pleasure and orgasmic nature.

Chapters:

00:00 Welcome and why Keith is here (Unstoppable Lovers open door)

02:41 Why a man should say yes: touching 5% of the intimacy available

04:36 Resistance and ego: what a man feels when his woman invites him in

07:36 Lovemaking beyond penetration and orgasm

12:22 Sexual energy and what men do with it

14:43 “I’m fine, we do not have a problem”: when women initiate the growth

19:34 How to inspire a man to grow: accepting each other as you are while evolving together

21:16 Becoming a father and doing the work before life gets stressful

24:18 Why men’s groups matter

27:42 Vulnerability: why it is hard for men and how to do it well

31:21 Community question: how to shift away from focusing on penetration and ejaculation

35:43 Community question (part 2): working with arousal and performance without suppressing it

41:57 What it means to be a man: mastery over your sexuality

45:45 Community question: how to support a man who feels rejected when he initiates

49:50 Unwinding the past: everyone standing behind you in the relationship

55:11 Closing thanks and the waitlist

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