EP375 - Overcoming Sexual Rejection: Resilience and Growth with Marissa Nelson

Welcome to episode 204 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Ian speaks with me about the psychological reasons men have low desire, the negative consequences shame can have on your sex life and learning to reconnect with your sexual self.    Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. Ian is the New York Times best-selling author She Comes First (Harper Collins), which has been translated into more than a dozen languages. He regularly consults for articles in major publications such as The Atlantic and The Economist, and he also writes on the topic of sex for CNN Health. He is the co-director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities.     In addition to being a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT), Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and he is also a member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR) and The American Family Therapy Academy (AFTA). Ian was born and raised in New York City, where he maintains a private practice and lives with his wife and two sons, and their beloved dogs, Jitterbug and Oscar.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking the psychological reasons men have low desire?  Why we as individuals want to self-actualize more   Learning to expand your erotic space that will lend itself to desire  How your self image can affect how you are in the bedroom  Looking at the sexual boredom study Ian previously conducted  The negative consequences shame can have on your sex life  Why we might have become disconnected from our sexual selves  Learning to reconnect with your sexual self   The role that porn plays around this issue      Find Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT online  https://www.iankerner.com     Find Promescent Online  https://www.promescent.com   Discount Code – sexology15     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Nov 202028min

Welcome to episode 203 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Judson Brandeis to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Brandeis talks to me about the issues of low testosterone, how can you increase your testosterone levels and analyzing how a healthy lifestyle will lead to a better sex drive.     Dr. Judson Brandeis is a board-certified urologist specializing in men's sexual medicine. Brandeis has always been on the cutting edge of Urology. Dr. Judson Brandeis has been voted by SF Magazine as a Top Urologist in the SF Bay Area from 2014 to 2020.  In February of 2019, he opened his male-oriented office in San Ramon to focus his practice entirely on men’s sexual health and rejuvenation. BrandeisMD is a national leader in technology and innovations in sexual medicine.  Dr. Brandeis is the National Director of Clinical Excellence for GAINSWave and created and runs the SWEET Study, the largest study of Shockwave Therapy for ED ever.     Brandeis has appeared on The Doctor's TV Show and recent podcasts with Michael Ruscio and Ben Greenfield. He has also been featured in Maxim, Fatherly, Bustle, and Askmen.    In this episode, you will hear:     The differences between men and women’s sexual drive   Looking at testosterone levels and how they relate to a healthy sex life  What are the causes of low testosterone?  Changing your testosterone levels through diet and exercise   Analyzing reasons why Viagra may not be working for you  The importance of relaxation for a healthy erection  Understanding how a healthy lifestyle will further boost your efforts for a higher sex drive  Looking at the importance of nighttime erections      Find Dr. Judson Brandeis Online  https://brandeismd.com     Find Promescent Online  https://www.promescent.com   Discount Code – sexology15     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

10 Nov 202037min

Welcome to episode 202 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Jeff Abraham to the podcast. In this episode Jeff speaks to me about premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, common questions that men bring up when talking about these issues and we take a look at the scientific studies and credentials around Promescent.    Jeff Abraham is the CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product, Promescent, is addressing a global need for men suffering from Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction. He and his team are dedicated to bringing innovative products to market that solve sexual performance issues for both men and women. With over 10-years experience in the field of sexual wellness, Jeff has seen and heard from thousands of couples and is a great thought leader in the space.    In this episode, you will hear:     Common questions that men bring up about their sexuality when talking about premature ejaculation   The differences between men and women on what is a priority for good sex  The frustration that can build when you feel your partner isn’t present during sex  Taking a look at the arousal gap  Looking at available solutions for premature ejaculation   Understanding the importance of giving and receiving for great sex   Taking a look at the scientific studies and credentials around Promescent  Are there side effects such as numbness when using Promescent?  Boosting your confidence for better sex         Find Promescent Online  https://www.promescent.com   Discount Code – sexology15     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Nov 202041min

Welcome to a bonus Halloween episode of the Sexology Podcast! On this episode, I talk about how you can get playful with Halloween themes in the bedroom with my guest, sex therapist and host of Sex Talk with Erika, Erika Miley.   Erika Miley is the founder and practice owner of The Center for Mental and Sexual Health. She believes in accessible, confidential, and comfortable therapy. Erika graduated from Whitworth University with a Master’s of Education in Clinical Mental Health. She has worked in public agencies, prisons, and in her own private practice. Erika’s specialty lies in Sexuality, working with monogamous and non-monogamous couples, non-binary genders, as well as people who suffer from anxiety and depression.   In this episode, you will hear: The importance of incorporating fun in your sex life during these turbulent times Tapping into different dynamics to surprise your partner Role playing by dressing up in costumes Changing locations for something exciting and new How to work in exhibitionism in a safe and legal way Paint your partner’s body and let them paint yours with edible paint Halloween is the perfect time to introduce your fantasies to your partner Temperature play with candles, oils, and ice Incorporating food into your play Do a sexy scavenger hunt Attend a virtual women-led sex party Use Halloween-themed sex toys     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   Find Erika online: https://erikamiley.com/ www.sextalkwitherika.com Instagram @erikamileytherapy https://www.facebook.com/groups/sextalkprogroup  Twitter @MrsErikaMiley   Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

31 Okt 202051min

Today on the Sexology Podcast we are celebrating our 200th episode! We’ll be revisiting past episodes that our listeners selected as the ones that helped them the most and provided the best sex advice.     In this episode, you will hear clips from:     Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause in addition to a number of video tapes and audio tapes.      http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/04/02/how-to-please-your-lover-by-dr-lonnie-barbach      Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/12/03/art-and-science-of-seduction-with-dr-alison-ash/      Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/08/20/how-to-last-longer-in-bed/     Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2020/01/07/ep158-7-ways-to-upgrade-your-sex-life-according-to-sexperts/      Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: The Secret to Solving the Stress Cycle.    http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/03/12/female-orgasm-with-dr-emily-nagoski/      Stephen Snyder MD is a sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist who has dedicated his entire career to helping individuals and couples with sex and relationship concerns.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2020/07/28/ep187-the-key-to-great-sex-in-long-term-relationships-with-dr-stephen-snyder/      Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. is a Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Sex Therapist as well as a Relationship Therapist and author of several books for couples including Getting the Sex You Want, The New Monogamy, When You’re the One Who Cheated and Integrative Sex and Couples Therapy.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/11/05/ep149-the-monogamy-paradox-with-dr-tammy-nelson      Carol Queen is an American author, editor, sociologist and sexologist active in the sex-positive feminism movement. Queen has written on human sexuality in books such as Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture.    http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2020/01/28/how-to-overcome-sexual-shyness-with-carol-queen-phd/      Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine countries. His fourth book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, examines how ADHD impacts a couple’s sexual and relationship satisfaction and how to improve both.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/09/03/sex-relationships-adhd-with-dr-ari-tuckman/      Barbara Carrellas is the founder of Urban Tantra® and the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving.     http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2020/01/14/tantric-orgasm-with-barbara-carrellas     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/      Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

27 Okt 202030min

Welcome to episode 199 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Tina speaks with me about overcoming religious shame around sex, taking a look at the historical context of abstinence and learning how to remain within your religion whilst having a healthy sex life.     Dr. Tina is a vibrant thought leader around issues of sexuality, intimacy, and spirituality. Her life’s work is centered around rooting out the causes of sexual shame and providing tools that disarm and demystify all the negative messages that we receive in American culture and so often in religious circles. She regularly speaks at events, conferences, intimacy retreats, churches, and universities around the country.     Dr. Tina is a sex therapist, former professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Seattle Pacific University, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife, and author. She is currently doing work on her next book, which is intended to help parents raise their children free of sexual shame and appropriately teach them about healthy sexuality over each stage of their development.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Tina became interested in this line of work   Looking back at abstinence only teachings   How couples struggle holding out on sex until after marriage   Understanding the historical context around the issue of sex and religion   Remaining in your religion whilst having a healthy sex life  Learning to appreciate your body  How to begin the process of not being ashamed of wanting to have sex       Celebrating 200 episodes  Email drmoali@sexologypodcast.com with the best sex advice you got from the podcast and we’ll enter you into a raffle to win an Amazon gift voucher!    Find Dr. Tina Online  https://www.tinaschermersellers.com     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Okt 202034min

Welcome to episode 198 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Rebecca Gibson to the podcast. In this episode Rebecca speaks with me about sex robots, how people become attracted to them, why they won’t help you with relational skills and what the future holds as technology and AI continue to improve.   Rebecca Gibson is an adjunct professor at American University and Indiana University South Bend. Her published works include "Desire in the Age of Robots and AI: An Investigation in Science Fiction and Fact" (Palgrave Macmillan 2019) and "The Corseted Skeleton: A Bioarchaeology of Binding" (Palgrave Macmillan 2020).   She holds a PhD in Anthropology from American University, and when not writing or teaching can be found reading mystery novels amidst a pile of stuffed animals.      In this episode, you will hear:  What are sex robots?   How did Rebecca become interested in this line of work?  Why is there a lack of male sex robots?  Looking at the reasons why people become attracted to sex robots  How the Turning Test is being used to make sex robots more interesting   How sex robots fill a gap for people who can’t get access to sex   The way in which many sex robots reflect their creators  Why sex robots won’t help you with relational skills   What is going to be the future trends of sex robots?    25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/    Find Rebecca Online  https://www.facebook.com/TheCorsetedSkeleton     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Okt 202027min

Welcome to episode 197 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Dr. Stephen Diamond to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Diamond talks to me about how we can best use the daimonic in our lives, analyzing the underlying reasons for our sexual fantasies and different ways we can engage with our fantasies.     Dr. Stephen Diamond is a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist practicing in Los Angeles, CA. A former pupil and protégé of existential psychoanalyst Rollo May, he is the author of Anger, Madness, and the Daimonic: The Psychological Genesis of Violence, Evil, and Creativity (State University of New York Press, 1996). Dr. Diamond has contributed chapters to the bestselling anthology Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature (1990), Spirituality and Psychological Health (2005), the Encyclopedia of Psychology and Religion (2009), Writing Music (2018), a chapter titled "Existential Therapy: Confronting Life's Ultimate Concerns" to the textbook Contemporary Theory and Practice in Counseling and Psychotherapy (SAGE, 2015), and, most recently, a chapter titled “Existential Explorations of Psychopathy” for a forthcoming forensic psychology text.      His writing has also appeared in various professional journals such as the San Francisco Jung Institute Library Journal, Psychological Perspectives, the Journal of Applied Psychoanalytic Studies, PsycCRITIQUES, Existential Analysis, and Dasein, and he has lectured and taught at diverse institutions including Pacific Graduate School of Psychology (Palo Alto University), J.F.K. University, Argosy University, the C.G. Jung Institute-Zurich, Ryokan College, Loyola Marymount University, and the Existential Academy in London.      Dr. Diamond appears frequently as a guest expert in made-for-television documentaries about high-profile criminal cases. Presently, he authors a long-running blog titled “Evil Deeds” for Psychology Today, serves on the editorial board of JHP, and maintains a private psychotherapy practice. He is a contracted provider of psychotherapy for Kaiser Permanente Medical Group, and is also currently employed as a Consulting Psychologist for a private subacute psychiatric hospital in Sylmar, CA.      In this episode, you will hear:     Taking a look at the daimonic quality of sex   How aspects of the daimonic can take over or possess us   How can we channel the daimonic for our creativity?   Understanding what our sexual fantasies and desires might mean  Learning to embrace and not shut out your fantasies   Connecting with your erotic self   The difference between thinking about a fantasy and acting one out   Different ways we can engage with our fantasies   Analyzing the underlying reasons for our sexual fantasies   How using the daimonic can be a source of energy         Head to Nazanin’s Instagram each Friday for a new cooking challenge she is doing, focusing on enhancing your sensuality and libido!    Ebook: How to Increase Your Libido – For Women  https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/    Find Dr. Diamond Online  http://www.drstephendiamond.com     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Okt 202031min