R U AN EMOTIONAL MASTURBATOR? ft. U Up? Jared & Jordana

Hey Besties! Today, Vanderpump Rules cast Scheana Shay joins Violetta for an exciting and at the same time heart-tugging conversation. Throughout her time on "Vanderpump Rules," Scheana became known for her outgoing personality, dramatic relationships, and candid portrayal of her personal life on the show. In addition to her work on reality television, she has pursued acting and music endeavors. She has appeared in several television shows and films, as well as releasing her own music singles.Violetta and talk about the complexities of childcare, the challenges of maintaining friendships, and a potential sneak peek of Vanderpump Season 11. Plus the duo spills the tea on lost friendships, potential redemption arcs, and the behind-the-scenes drama you won't hear anywhere else. On a serious note, bravely shares her experiences with postpartum OCD, the healing power of EMDR therapy, and the heartbreaking reality of pregnancy loss. It's a raw and vulnerable exploration of mental health, friendship dynamics, and the bittersweet journey of self-discovery. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:27 What’s one thing people misunderstood about you in the show?02:30 How did motherhood change you? 04:13 What’s your biggest fear around getting help with babysitting your child?07:06 Have you had support from other new moms?07:45 What’s a question someone has never asked you?08:30 “I’m never the favorite of this show.” 12:18 Hopes for Season 1113:17 Losing a friendship of 15 years17:09 Is the new season setting the stage for Sandoval’s redemption arc?19:16 Are you the friend that flip-flops?20:38 Figuring out a way to not breakdown in front of your child22:24 Friendship pact with Katie 24:37 What can people look forward to this season?26:05 Is Billie Lee in love with Tom Sandoval?33:31 Postpartum OCD39:39 EMDR Therapy 43:35 Pregnancy loss and traumatic labor45:13 Severe intrusive thoughts47:07 Signs of OCD before pregnancy50:54 Thinking of death everydayConnect with Scheana on:https://www.instagram.com/scheana/ https://twitter.com/scheana https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9jgdbAu8PZMmfYZBj2xnog https://www.tiktok.com/@scheana Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Feb 202457min

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta welcomes television host and producer Kamie Crawford. Kamie also hosts her successful podcast, Relationsh*t and MTV’s long-running reality-based documentary series “Catfish: The TV Show”.Get ready to dive into all things fun and fabulous with Violet and Kamie. They chat about everything from what's currently keeping them busy to the importance of staying hydrated (because, let's face it, we need to keep those vibes flowing!). Plus, we'll dish on some seriously spicy topics, like the Stanley cup's wild ride through a car fire and the sinful indulgence of beignets. Oh, and don't worry, Bestie, we’ll let you in on some secrets too—like debunking those silly misconceptions about their social media persona and sharing the biggest lessons learned last year. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:CBDistillery - Visit www.cbdistillery.com and use code ADULTING for 20% off.Penrose Hill - Try something new this year with Firstleaf. Go to www.tryfirstleaf.com/ADULTING to sign up and you'll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95.What to Listen For:00:00 Intro04:04 What are you currently working on?05:48 The importance of staying hydrated all day06:40 The Stanley cup that withstood a car fire09:18 Unhealthy food choices11:48 Have you had a beignet?15:06 What’s something most people don’t know about you?20:05 What’s the most common misconception about you?25:26 How are you when someone gets on your bad side?28:57 What are you currently working to improve?35:24 What’s the hardest lesson you learned last year?37:37 Does your mom have a very thick accent?40:27 What past experience that still resonates with you today?48:15 What’s the worst thing that can happen?54:41 What’s something you don’t want to repeat this year? 01:00:53 My social media is like my house…Connect with Kamie on:https://www.kamiecrawford.com/https://twitter.com/KamieCrawford https://www.tiktok.com/@kamiecrawford https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChpYYY1gnYb-4zbkK9xhpNA https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamiecrawford/ https://www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford https://www.facebook.com/KamieCrawford/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Feb 20241h 5min

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta will give us a quick recap of Love is Blind Season 6. Is Matthew just your average guy, or could he be hiding a dark secret? From navigating the rules of marriage with AD and Clay to exploring the dynamics of religious love with Brittany and Kenneth, we'll delve into the highs and lows of partnership. Buckle up as we dissect the correlation between love and lust with Jimmy and Jessica, and uncover the telltale signs of trouble in relationships. Whether it's recognizing red flags or learning to prioritize self-growth, this episode is packed with insights to navigate the rollercoaster of love and emotions. If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Skims - Believe the hype - SKIMS has over 100,000 five star reviews for a reason. Visit www.skims.com/ Express VPN - Stop missing out on great TV and get thousands of new shows with Express VPN - we got them to give you guys three extra months free when you use our special link www.expressvpn.com/ADULTING.What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:38 Is Matthew a serial killer?07:55 AD and Clay - rules of marriage09:59 Brittany and Kenneth - the religious couple11:06 Jimmy and Jessica - correlating love with lust14:55 When someone rejects you, leave18:30 Jimmy’s red flags24:16 Crying over the consequences of your actions26:44 Chelsea, work on yourself and stop seeking validation from your partner28:19 Who will walk down the aisle?Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Feb 202435min

Hey Besties! The man behind the Create the Love is back! Mark Groves is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.What does it truly mean to find liberation in love? How do we reclaim our worth after it's been taken from us? Today, Violetta and Mark explore these questions and more, delving into topics like building self-trust, healing codependency, and navigating the emotional complexities of heartbreak. From learning to communicate our deepest emotions to embracing closure and letting go, each chapter of this episode offers profound insights and empowering strategies for navigating the highs and lows of love. If you’re looking for answers, this one's for you!If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro02:43 Liberated Love 06:36 You’ve forgotten yourself in the relationship09:46 They took your worth with them when they left13:36 How do you build a high level of self trust?17:42 How do you heal codependency?19:46 The great disconnect28:04 Learning self-regulation through co-regulation35:14 Creating a space for you and your partner’s pain38:47 The analogy of the burning house42:57 Closing ceremony for an ended relationship51:19 Communicate how to feel 56:16 Emotional triggers actually never go away01:02:21 Does your partner get you?01:04:27 The right person can’t come if you won’t let go of the wrong one01:06:39 What does it mean when love is not enough?01:10:52 Using the ides of love to bypass the pain01:16:03 How do you get your ex back?Connect with Mark on:https://www.instagram.com/createthelove/ https://twitter.com/createthelove https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv https://createthelove.com/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Feb 20241h 21min

Hey Besties! Ready to take a deep dive into the world of love and self-discovery? Today, for another episode of Benson Book Club, Violetta will read and ponder on the 16 Reasons Why You Still Don’t Have The Love That You Want from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Whether you're relying on others to do the work for you or expecting love to change your life, we've got the insights to help you navigate the twists and turns of the heart. Discover how honoring your inner child, embracing kindness, and aligning your heart and mind can lead to deeper connections and self-fulfillment. Don't miss out on this enlightening journey to finding love within yourself and beyond! If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!Today’s Sponsors:Truly - To find Truly Hard Seltzer near you, go to https://trulyhardseltzer.com/locations What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:54 16 reasons why you still don’t have the love that you want14:25 The most meaningful relationships are the ones in which we are reflective back to ourselves16:47 Every relationship you have is with yourself19:38 Be your own person and do what you can on your own time Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Feb 202423min

And no, not in the way you're thinking! Since this month is all about relationships, Violet decided to talk about the most important relationship you will ever have - the one with yourself. Today Violet gets super vulnerable and upacks some things of her own, while giving you guys her step by step guide she uses to practice self love. Besties, In order for us to have healthy relationships with others, we have to look inward and mend the relationship with ourselves. And remember, never let a person show you twice that they don’t want you. If they want you in their life, they’ll treat you with kindness and love. If they want you to be part of their journey, they will want to spend their time with you and will always appreciate spending time with you. When they love you for who you are, you will never have to change. You will be loved just as you are, flaws and imperfections included.WANT MORE EPISODES? SUBSCRIBE TO MY PREMIUM PODCAST HERE - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:37 Dating the male version of me06:55 Set boundaries for yourself10:19 Be self-aware17:04 Know who you are23:49 Change your perspective35:00 My love letter to youAd Timestamps:11:21 - Nutrafol14:21 - Talkspace28:23 - Penrose HillGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Feb 202445min

They always say let go of your anger, let go of your pain, blah blah blah! But why doesn’t anyone talk about how using these “negative” feelings to your advantage to catapult you into your best season yet?Hello, Besties! September is all about checking in with ourselves, our mental health, and with our goals. To kick things off Violet is back with another solo episode and she is NOT here to sugarcoat. In today’s episode Violet admits last month was very hard, filled with severed relationships and heartbreaks, but today she is Violet thankful. Thankful that it’s all in the past and she has now welcomed September feeling better, stronger, and fiercer. Today, she shares four tips that can help anyone struggling internally, going through difficult and seemingly impossible situations, and help turn the negatives into optimism and positive change. Besties, let's use our pain and rage to turn the page - and today you’re gonna find out how!WANT MORE EPISODES? SUBSCRIBE TO MY PREMIUM PODCAST HERE - https://almostadulting.supercast.com/What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:47 “I woke up this morning feeling blessed and thankful.”06:40 There’s no timeline to how long you should take to heal10:28 Ask yourself, “Is it working for me?”14:18 It’s all in your head17:07 Sit with rejection, get comfortable with it19:31 Turn your resentment into your superpowerToday’s Sponsors:Express VPN - Stop missing out on great TV and get thousands of new shows with Express VPN - we got them to give you guys three extra months free when you use our special link www.expressvpn.com/ADULTING.Thrive Market - Join in on the savings with Thrive Market today and get 30% off your first order, plus FREE $60 gift! Go to www.thrivemarket.com/ADULTING. IQBAR - Now, our special podcast listeners get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus get FREE shipping. To get your 20% off, just text ADULTING to 64000.Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Feb 202434min

Hey Besties! Today, we welcome author, psychologist, and speaker Dr. Guy Winch. Guy specializes in the field of emotional health and well-being. He has gained recognition for his work in advocating for the importance of addressing emotional pain and mental health. He has given popular TED Talks on subjects such as "Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid" and has authored books, including "Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts."Discover how to handle rejection without becoming your own worst critic and get inspired by Guy's own journey through fourteen years of rejection. From trust issues to self-criticism, we got your back with some real talk on navigating those tough moments. Learn the art of nurturing a supportive inner voice, practicing healthy self-reflection, and building emotional resilience. Plus, explore the fascinating world of emotional hygiene and the tools you need for a more resilient emotional well-being.Dr. Winch's Recovering from Rejection and Failure program, made in collaboration with Mindbloom, is available now! Make sure to check it and start turning setbacks into wins.If you are looking to listen to today's episode without any ads or interruptions, feel free to subscribe to my subscription podcast at https://almostadulting.supercast.com/. What’s more? You'll get an extra episode every Saturday each month!What to Listen For:00:00 Intro01:52 What are the most common emotions we experience when going through rejection? 02:58 Why do we stop trusting ourselves after a rejection?04:33 Don’t become self critical when you experience rejection06:11 How do you personally handle rejection and failure?07:40 Getting through fourteen years of rejection09:12 Having enough encouragement to keep you going10:49 How do you nurture a more supportive inner voice?15:42 What is healthy self-reflection?18:17 It’s about falling down, it’s about getting back up21:17 What is emotional hygiene?24:46 What happens when you don’t practice emotional hygiene?26:44 The tools you need to build emotional resilience28:56 Is self-compassion a game changer when it comes to dealing with failure?31:22 How do emotional wounds show up physically?34:37 Why do people get stuck in loneliness?39:28 Mindbloom: ketamine therapy for anxiety and depression45:05 Common misconceptions of psychedelics47:37 What are people most curious about psychedelics?49:16 Change your approach to emotional well-being50:00 The duration of ketamine treatment51:10 Is ketamine treatment right for you?53:26 What we don’t understand about heartbreaks56:17 Heartbreak is a grief process01:00:00 If you’re not feeling great, it’s not the best time to go online01:04:14 Real connection requires slight emotional vulnerability01:05:57 How can you make yourself happier?01:09:34 The difference between being alone and chronic loneliness01:11:12 Our emotional health requires effort01:15:08 Check-in with yourself periodicallyConnect with Guy on:https://www.guywinch.com/ https://www.mindbloom.com/bhttps://twitter.com/GuyWinch https://www.instagram.com/guywinch https://www.ted.com/speakers/guy_winch https://www.facebook.com/guywinchauthor/ Get more content on:https://www.instagram.com/almostadulting/https://www.instagram.com/violetbenson/https://www.instagram.com/daddyissues_/https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissuesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Feb 20241h 21min